How come ALOT of FH don't like to get involved in the planning?

Simple ... because they are MEN! Mine is the saaaaame exact way! Get used to it, and don't bother asking him for his opinion- you're gonna get the SAME answer all the time. Near the end FH started to show a little more interest and more involved, so give it time you still have A LOT of time lol ...

My FH from day 1 told me that he wants to be involved in every aspect of planning. Now that it's time to shine - phone calls need to be made, research needs to be done, emails sent out ... he seems uninterested. I think it's because he wants to do the 'fun' planning (picking out colors, cake, decor, music) rather than the boring stuff (timelines, venues, photographer interviews, wedding planners)Which I don't blame him but it still has to be done. He picked out our cake 2 weeks after being engaged. The other day I complained he wasn't helping out and he said "I picked the cake!!" haha like that's what I needed help with

Ya gotta love 'em ... :o)

Well, we were (mostly) brought up thinking that the wedding is the bride's day, and the groom just showed up. Of course, traditionally, the bride's parents paid for everything.

My FH said he didn't care about most of it initially, but I really wanted this to be "our" wedding, not mine, lol, and he's had a lot of input, which I am very glad about!!

They don't care about it nearly as much as we do. I keep dragging my FH to interview florists and wedding planners and he has absolutely no interest but I know if he didn't come along he would feel left out. I always ask his opinion on things but he knows how much time I spend on WW and how much research I do before I make any decisions so he knows whatever I think is good IS really good. I know I drive him crazy with all my wedding talk but he puts up with it, I guess that's his way of supporting me.

My FH is the same way. He just wants to show up. He does have 2 request and that is to go to the cake tasting and food tasting. Everything else I am on my own. Everything else he said do how I want to do. It can get frustrating sometimes because I do want him input but I feel like what I am saying is going thru one ear and out the other.

My FH is the same way. I try to still include him somethings like the food and cake lol. I agree with you slthompson my fh just wants to show up.

No clue- mine wants to be involved in everything!

My FH is the same way. I love him for it but somtimes i want input so i kno he is gonna b just as happy as me

My Fh has said the same stuff, that he dosne't care, and I can do whatever I want, and he just wants to know when and where to show up.

He's surprised me a little, and has helped alot in finding the perfect venue for us though. I wish he wanted to talk about more, and got as excited about as I do. But I can be happy w/ his little imputs every now, and again, i suppose. It's better than nothing, especially when intially, he didn't care about any of it.

My FH helps me with everything. although im usually the one who brings it up or comes up with the ideas, FH gives me his honest opinion whether he likes it or not. for me, i need that so i feel like its OUR wedding and not just mine that is showing up at.

Oh man, I wouldnt know what to do if FH didnt give any input. My FH helps with everything. He actually gets online and looks at everything. =]

I know how you feel. My FH tells me the same thing. I honestly think that he wants it to be my decision because if its up to him and he screws it up then I will go crazy. Which is not true at all, but I think they fear us when we are in a wedding state of mind. LOL

It is a lot of work and so much time goes into this that they may get exhausted. I had mine looking at cake toppers and after 20 mins he gave up. I sometimes wonder if he realizes how much time I have put into planning.

I say let him do what he wants. They are men, so they don't get how important this day is to us girls.

Weddings are for the bride....we all know it. The men do it for us, and really could care less about all the little details. My FH just wants to show up :-)

Don't feel bad, mine says the same thing!

I am almost sick of hearing "whatever makes you happy". He did help with the play list, but beyond that...he doesn't seem to care. I started to get grumpy about it, but I think it's just a man thing. Honestly, it would kind of freak me out if he wanted to fight me over what flowers we are getting.

I wish I could hear that sometimes he has an opinion about things and I make sure he gets heard although sometimes I don;t always listen to his.

LMAO i just complained about this maybe 1-2 days ago! I reminded him it was OUR wedding, not MY wedding. And as some girls suggested on here, i gave him a to-do list... "youre in charge of ___, ___, and ___"

Weddings are usually more marketed towards women than men. While I don't want to undermine the significance of this day for men, in most modern societies, weddings seem to be typically viewed as a one-day event where women get to show what type of "wife" they are going to be to the newlywed's friends and family (i.e., budget conscious, extravagant, DIY, etc.)

Haha~I joke around with my friends that a wedding is usually a celebration for women, because after a wedding, your problems are OVER~while his are just about to begin

My hubby says the same thing. " I don't care, do what you want."

Love it! I usually don't like his ideas when he has input anyways. Not being mean, just the truth.

From day 1 i told FH he didnt need to worry about the planning i got it all under control. He surprised me and said he wanted input on some things. I was fine with that but now time is getting close i NEED his help on things, like confirming his groomsmen. He says "I'll do it tomorrow." When tomorrow comes he says the same thing. When i ask for his opinions on things he says "Its cool babe, whatever you want." But when i tell him that my little cousin is doing a reading he says "Why didnt you talk to me about it first?" Turns out he didnt mind the reading he just wanted to be talked to about it before i made the phone call to my aunt. MEN!