Disappointed in bridesmaids

Edit: everyone seems to have focused on one portion of my original post so I'm going to try and reword it. My 4 bridesmaids have taken no interest in my wedding - it was a struggle to even get them to try on dresses which I paid for. 2 are flying in, including my MOH and I paid for her flight after she OFFERED to come help set up the day before. Now she want to skip that to go see her other friend instead. All 4 are complaining about having to come to the paid rehearsal, and my sisters don't want to get ready with me because I won't let the SO's get ready with us in the bridal suite. I have paid for a cosmetologist to come and do their hair and makeup, and they are treating me like I'm punishing them by asking them to be there. There will be photographers and videographers there while I am getting ready and I assumed it was standard to have he bridal party there as well. Is it unreasonable for me to expect them to be there for the rehearsal and while getting ready the morning of?