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JuleeM
Expert September 2015

Did I make a wedding guest dress faux pas?

JuleeM, on June 3, 2015 at 10:14 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 70

I am attending a friend's wedding this weekend and picked out a dress that I could also wear on our honeymoon later this year. I tried a million dresses on and picked the only one that I loved. It just hit me today that is has a lot of cream/off white in it. I did a palm slap to forehead on the way into work to work when i realized this.

I know it is taboo to wear white to a wedding, but I'm not sure if this particular dress would be inappropriate. It has a lot of other colors in it too. What do you ladies think? Is this "too white" to wear to a wedding. I don't want to be inappropriate. Thanks!



70 Comments

Latest activity by Fiorella, on June 4, 2015 at 12:00 AM
  • Lauren B.
    Master October 2015
    Lauren B. ·
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    I think you're fine honestly.

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  • Sarah195
    Master October 2016
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    It's not completely white so I wouldn't be offended if someone wore that to my wedding.

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  • Mrs. Lav
    Master November 2015
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    I actually wouldn't-- it's overwhelmingly cream. Cute, though!

    (If the pictures are off and it's a little darker, then you might be okay.)

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  • V
    Master October 2015
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    I agree with FMS I would ever on the side of caution. Do you not have another cute dress/ outfit in your closest that would be more appropriate for a wedding?

    If the pattern was all over the dress with cream/ivory background, I'd say you're fine. But this seems to be mostly cream/ivory.

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  • OGSue
    Master August 2016
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    I don't think the dress looks bridal in the least. But The bride may have an issue if she's overly sensitive because the majority of the dress is cream.

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  • Catherine
    Expert September 2015
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    I think it's fine. The colors are really bold and draw the eye away from the cream anyways.

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
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    Don't worry at all - that dress is totally fine. Some people take this "no white" thing WAY too far. That is not a white dress (it is multi-colored) and it does not remotely look bridal. The rule is not "you can't wear ANY white at all". That has never been the rule or the intent of the rule.

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  • Caroline
    Master June 2016
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    I definitely don't think that dress looks bridal. I wouldn't be offended if someone wore that to my wedding.

    but I agree with @Sue, some brides might have an issue with it because it's predominantly cream. I always err on the side of caution when picking an outfit for a wedding.

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  • FutureMrsCrane
    Master October 2015
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    If I saw you wearing it to my wedding, I wouldn't even think twice about it. I think it's a pretty dress. The darker brown really throws off all white look, so you should be fine!

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  • JaKLyn
    Master November 2015
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    If it were my wedding I wouldn't care if you wore that. Unless you were my FMIL, but that's a whole different story.

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  • Jen W
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    I wouldn't wear it, but its probably because IMO the dress just looks dirty. I'm not a fan.

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  • Emily
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    So people are supposed to choose their clothes based on the possibility of "overly-sensitive" brides when it is not even remotely an etiquette breach? No, I'm sorry, that's ridic. The OP loves the dress and it will be worn to more than just this one event. No one has to base their choices on irrational brides.

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  • Finally Mrs. F
    Super November 2015
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    I don't think that dress looks bridal at all, but I personally would choose something else because there is soo much cream in it. I know it's not that big a deal, and no one's confusing you for the bride but I also wouldn't want that attention.

    Edited: spelling

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  • JuleeM
    Expert September 2015
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    It's actually burgundy and green...not brown. The green kind of runs into the cream parts but it's kind of hard to tell in the photos. You can see it better in the zoom here:

    http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/rachel-rachel-roy-cutout-back-maxi-dress?ID=2283869

    I actually really don't have anything else in my closet spring wedding appropriate. But that isn't saying I couldn't go buy something else if it would be wrong to wear it. I just don't really want to spend the money right now (stupid me threw out the receipt for this one).

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  • Brigit
    Master October 2015
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    I probably wouldnt even notice as a bride if you wore that dress, i think you are fine

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  • Jeanne
    Master August 2015
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    I thought it was fine, then I scrolled down. I think if it wasn't quite so long, the color would be less of an issue. I would not wear it but you obviously know better if the bride would care or not.

    Judging by your responses (already threw away the receipt, want to wear it to your own wedding events), I doubt you're going to change your mind about wearing it to your friend's wedding no matter what answers you get here so I would say own your choice.

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  • Melabella_xoxo
    Devoted October 2015
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    I agree with most others. It doesn't bother me at all but thats because my dress is more formal.

    I guess the better question is, is the bride more traditional? If so this dress would be totally fine. If she isn't and plans to wear something less bridal like a cute white sundress then you may step on some toes

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  • Missys984
    Master October 2015
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    The dress is really pretty, I think you can wear it. If I saw you at my wedding I wouldn't care in the least.

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  • Snarky
    Master September 2014
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    I think it's fine.

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  • Marisslee
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    I think it's totally fine. I highly highly doubt that anyone will mistake you for the bride. I think that's the only issue with wearing white or ivory is that others worry you'll be mistaken for the bride. That dress is definitely not bridal. You're good IMO.

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