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Dad’s wife was his mistress and mom doesn’t want her at my wedding

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Sarah, on January 16, 2024 at 8:36 PM

Hi everyone, I am getting married this year and my parents got divorced 7 years ago. 3 years ago dad married his mistress and now have a 1 hear old. My mom refuses to be at the wedding if dad’s wife is invited. Dad is paying for the entire wedding and said I could invite my mom and her family. My entire family on mom’s side is pressuring me to do something and make sure the wife is not invited but I had two conversations with my dad that led nowhere. I feel while my mom’s feelings are very heavy it is on her to work on them but my family does not understand that side of view and make it seem like it’s taking away of my mom’s value that she will be there. Please advise.

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Savvy March 2025
Zerita · on March 27, 2024 at 12:30 PM
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Wow. Sorry you're in this unnecessary drama. As one poster said "if she's still angry after seven years" she needs therapy. This is your day and your dads money. You have the option of rejecting the money and let mom pay for it or tell mm that it would hurt your heart if she's not present at one of the biggest celebrations of your life. It's about you and the groom and dad's money. lol
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Rockstar June 2018
Rae · on March 27, 2024 at 1:38 PM
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Synagogue's have no view on "sinners" as sinning is not a part of Judaism. Beyond all of your other misinformed statements, this is a black-and-white one.
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Chip/Dale · on March 28, 2024 at 3:11 PM
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So go ahead and listen to somewhat people’s opinion about father bringing mistress to wedding cause of money and let mom smile where nobody respects her….
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Andrea · on March 28, 2024 at 3:48 PM
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You need to take a step back and stop projecting. All men are not bad just because your ex was, and all men who cheat are not rapists. I’m very sorry for your situation, but it has absolutely nothing to do with whether OP should invite her father’s wife to her wedding.
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Jacks · on March 28, 2024 at 4:08 PM
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I'm sorry for your experience but it really doesn't have anything to do with the OP's situation. Misrepresenting all religions in order to bolster your point is not appropriate and doesn't help your argument.
I do again suggest that you seek help for what seems like very intense trauma. My best to you.
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