Co-ed Showers - Yay or Nay?

I had a bridal shower and we're having a couples shower. I like the idea of it, FH gets something for him too without it just being all about me.

As usual, I'm the voice of doom, but no one really wants to go to a shower ESPECIALLY men.

Keep it to the girls.

We're doing just girls, my FH would hate it and if we invited guys the list would be huge.

I've never been to a coed shower but I have nothing against them

ETA: photo - I couldn't resist, Celia

I think it would depend on the circle. I don't think the guys in DH's family would show their face within a mile of a bridal shower. That being said, if I would have had a shower I would have preferred co-ed because I feel awkward in the presence of only women. I do better in a mixed group.

Love it!

I'm not a fan of coed bridal showers personally. DH popped in and said hello and dropped a few things off, but the guys all hung out around the corner at our house until the party was over. It was def more of a girly thing, with other women giving me advice. And most of the gifts were lingerie and things like that that I'd rather share with him in private lol.

The baby shower though, I'd expect him to be at. That's a little different.

Eh, FH isn't coming to mine but mainly because he works overnights and is working that night so he'll be asleep. We're also doing two showers, one for each side of the family. My shower next weekend is for my side of the family. I think he's going to come to his side of the family, especially since it's in our hometown which is 2 hours away.

If I was having one, I wouldn't care.... But FH wouldn't even go there. LOL Too girly for him

@Lauren - I'm so confused about this whole "couples shower" thing... I have never heard of it before (could be just my location???) Who hosts that? Inviting the couples invited to the wedding would result in an additional mini-wedding for us - Maybe not even mini at all because that would be a lot of people. Also would having a regular shower and a couples shower be kind of gift grabby? (Please note: not saying you look gift grabby to me, again, I have no concept of couples showers) I just wonder because I'm sure people that would be invited to our couples shower, the women would probably also be invited to the regular shower. I'd be annoyed if I was invited to an e-party, two showers and a wedding and expected to give gifts at all. I'm trying to limit my guests to a shower and a wedding but the idea of a bunch of couples getting together prior to the wedding does sound fun. What else do you do at the couple's shower? I'm perplexed/intrigued.

In my mom's family we've done co-ed showers for all the cousins who have gotten married. All of our showers will be co-ed. I loathe the cheesy games, so no one will have to sit through those anyway since I've vetoed them. I don't think it's fair for me to get showered with love and FH to miss out on all of that. So our showers are mainly coming together to socialize and eat, then open a few gifts and hit the road. (Other than one shower where it's really a lake party with a few gifts thrown in.)

Plus, I'm very much an introvert. Having FH there means that I don't have to be the only one thanking people, etc.

My DH showed up at the end and helped with a couple gifts and loaded up. He was in on my surprise location shower =) the guys went to the same restaurant but in the bar are and ate and watched the game! It was actually a lot of fun. he opened his favorite gifts though, the deep fryer and out pot & pan set

@Bethie to answer a few of your questions:

(could be just my location???) I had a couples shower in the midwest, and in the south.

Who hosts that? One of our couples friends. The NC one was a bridesmaid and a groomsman who was dating.

Also would having a regular shower and a couples shower be kind of gift grabby? I didn't really invite friends to my family shower and I had a separate one for friends and family. Since I didn't ask for them and both my couple ones were surprises I wouldn't consider it gift grabby. Most just went in for a bigger registry gift.

I'd be annoyed if I was invited to an e-party, two showers and a wedding and expected to give gifts at all.- In my circle engagement parties aren't gift giving parties, and nobody was invited to more than one shower.

What else do you do at the couple's shower? We played couples beer pong/flip cup and cornhole at my one, and the other one we just had dinner and went to a movie after.

Bethie- it may be regional? I live in Alabama.

My BMs and his GMs are hosting it. Our shower will be during the Auburn-LSU game so it's not really a traditional shower, just a big get together. And we'll open gifts during half time.

And I can definitely see how it would be gift grabby, but it gives an opportunity for our friends to come to one or the other.

And as far as a mini wedding, I can definitely see how it could be that. But I knew FH would enjoy seeing some of his guy friends too and same for me. The wedding is going to be a whirlwind, at the shower we can at least talk to most everyone. A lot of our friends also live out of state.

ETA- I didn't have an engagement party though.

You have a Couples Shower OR a Bridal Shower..... never both!!

My couples shower will really be just close friends and family whom live locally (It's almost a bit like an engagement party, so like a 2 for 1). We'll see everyone else at the wedding...

The last few wedding/baby showers I have been to, the guys go out for lunch/drinking/manly stuff, and then make it back in time to help open presents, eat cake, be congratulated, and load up the car. If we end up having a shower I would expect FH to do the same.

I definitely don't want a co-ed shower, but I wouldn't be opposed to going to one. I'd probably have to drag FH to it! FH thinks that he's showing up at my shower this Sunday to give me flowers and say thank you and whatnot, but in reality, his groomsmen are taking him to see the Packers play in Pittsburgh!

@KD

I had both. I didn't plan either... Not even sorry.

We aren't having a co-ed shower (FH and his best man will be there though) but i've heard of them.

I don't think it matters how many showers you have as long as you aren't the one planning them and avoid guest overlap.

I love co-ed showers, mainly because at co-ed showers there are no stupid games or activities, its just food, some alcohol and a good time. without co-ed its a two hour long present opening, long drawn out pointless game, minimal talking event that makes me antsy to leave. but thats just me. and also why im not having a shower lol