Co-ed Showers - Yay or Nay?

We had a co-ed shower. We drove 8 hours to our shower to where our friends and family lived and only had a short amount of time there. A co-ed shower was a good way for us to visit with everyone in a short amount of time. I wasn't about to tell people "Sorry, we can't see you while we are in town because you're not a girl and showers are for girls". That would be stupid.

We all drank, we all ate, played games....and I opened all the gifts lol.

Isn't it normal for the groom to be at a bridal shower for gifts opening even if it's not co-ed?

For family i think it should be all girls, but depends on the situation.

Examples: I used to bartend in college and my work friends there were mostly guys. I loved all their girlfriends but the truth is I was just closer to the guys. My husband also worked with them and knew me very well, and I had a couples shower at the bar we worked at. It was very nice. But now that I think about it everyone was drunk (including myself) so maybe this doesn't help my point.

-I had a small couples surprise "shower" as I had a destination wedding and many people couldn't travel. Instead of just sending me their gift in the mail they had a surprise shower I suppose with a bunch of our coupled friends.

I've never been to a shower where the groom even showed his face, but when I asked my FH if he was going to pop in to say hi to the guests, he said, "My mom told me I had to," haha. I have no opposition to a co-ed shower though.

Personally, I'm not a fan of them. I tend to like the more traditional approach I guess. I'd attend a co-ed shower though and not side-eye anyone, but prefer a traditional "girls-only" shower for myself.

This really just depends on the circles. I've only been to a couple showers where the groom showed up just to open presents. The last one I went to, he came at the end just to say hi and help load presents. I'm having girls only - the people who offered said I could make it couples or girls only, but I have a couple close single girl friends who I didn't want to exclude if it were couples. Plus a lot of my friends have young kids and it just works out better if Dad stays home with kid while Mom can go to the shower.

I am with JP+AP, i would have liked my FH there. Buthe would have wanted to die, and he had already told me he wasn't going to the shower. our friend had a co-ed one but it was a bust because only 4 of the guys showed and the groom was sick so it wasn't that much fun for them.

My grandpa, dad, H, and my sisters H all were in the basement of our showers waiting to load cars drinking and watching the Masters. If it's not everywhere, in our family it's tradition for the groom to come and "crash" for presents and bring the bride-to-be flowers. It's nice and makes opening presents not so awkward i guess

In my family, and in the showers I've been to, the Groom has always showed up at the end to open gifts and "show face". FH already talks about how excited he is to come eat, drink and then open presents at our shower but he feels weird about being the only guy. I told him he could bring his BM or my brother (who is a GM) with him.

I dont think i'd do a co-ed shower though (or want on since I wouldn't be planning it) but I think it depends on the circumstances. All of the baby showers I've been to have been co-ed

I've never been to one with guys there. FH is coming to ours because I told him he should come eat lunch because my mom is making all of the food and she always makes way too much for every function. My dad will probably also show up for the same reason. Then they will probably go off to a bar for beers and the back towards the end to help pile al the gifts in the truck.

I say nay when its family cuz I like the traditional aspect. Groom should be there the whole time because if I have to meet his extended family he damn well be there with me lol. A brother or groomsman or dad would be fine too in my opinion

If it's just couple friends or something like that then I think I would be ok with it.

We had a couples shower- with about 50 of our nearest and dearest! I almost wish we would have just gotten married right then and there! I am way more likely to be pumped for a coed than a women's only- but that's just me.

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I have only been to one shower where a groom was there (it was the bad one mentioned)... Usually the guy just shows up at the end to load up and help. Totally agree with the out of state thing! I would want my FH at a shower if it was in another state with his whole family but FMIL said that he should go "elsewhere" during the shower... haha. I'm guessing she is also more traditional about it. The only place I have ever seen a bride and groom open gifts together (aside from bad shower) is at an engagement party. We didn't have one of those.

All of the showers that I have attended the groom came in at the end to help load the gifts, say a quick hello and brought his future Mrs. flowers. It was never anything more than that. At this point I am not even sure if I am having a shower because no one has mentioned it. I know my MOH won't be throwing one because she is my 17 yo daughter. But if I did have one, FH would come at the end to load the gifts.

I wanted to do a co-ed shower where the girls all watch football and the guys played all of those stupid games but that didn't fly lol. Plus there wasn't football in May anyway.

Seriously though, if girls could stop having Sunday showers during the football game, that would be great!

ETA: My fiance was there the whole time. I gave him the opportunity to take the dog and go somewhere but he stayed. (I think he secretly loved it). I opened all the gifts though.

I just posted my co-ed shower the other day, so... obviously I approve. Mine was small, like 15 people, and if only the girls had come there would've been hardly anyone there. My family is scattered all over the country, so most of them are just coming to the wedding. My mom was the only relative at my shower, and she flew across the country to be there. FH and I will be moving to a new city (closer to both sets of parents) shortly after the wedding so I want to get as much facetime with everyone as I can before we leave.

I fully expect my FH to come to the shower. I see a shower as something thrown for the couple, so why not include the guy? If my FH started ripping presents out of my hands, I would be upset, and would tell him to stop. I think that's more of a dynamic within a couple than a problem with a co-ed shower. As far as it being truly co-ed with every male invited, I think that would be a bit much. I doubt any would get plastered, so that wouldn't be a concern of mine.

I don't expect my FH to come, but I'm not opposed to co-ed bridal showers. If it ends up at my house (not hosting! Aunt just doesn't want certain people in her home), he'll probably be there anyway.

I'm having a couples shower in the evening with dinner & drinks. I've been to them before and I think they're just more fun because they have that "cocktail hour" vibe.

But my friends are classy (Not like what Bethie described above LOL) so it should be a nice affair, not a drunk fest hahaha

My husband and his friends would rather claw their eyes out with forks than sit through a shower lol. They would absolutely be just in another part of the party all together, getting drunk, rather than participating in the shower. Hence-- my opinion that showers are for women lol.

We had a co-ed shower. Everyone that is invited to our wedding was invited- only 87 people invited. We had around 60 attend and it was a blast. My mother and bridesmaids had it at 7pm with food etc. and music and we didn't open our gifts until we got home (only got 3- got mostly money). The vibe was awesome and people who knew they couldn't attend the wedding made sure to come and spend time with us. I wouldn't change a single thing about it.