Eamsee
Super June 2019

Chocolate Wedding Cake

Eamsee, on March 10, 2019 at 1:23 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 131
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This seems so silly to me, but I am catching a lot of flak from friends and family for wanting to have a chocolate frosted cake. Our reception package comes with the option of a few different bakeries and choices of cake, filling, and frosting. The bakery that we liked best makes cupcakes with the filling of the would be cake used as the frosting for the tasting. I am not adventurous with cake flavors and it just so happened that both of our favorite was the classic yellow cake with dark chocolate fudge "filling". Great! Well, I absolutely hate vanilla icing. If I am served a slice of cake with vanilla frosting, I eat around the frosting like a 6 year old and not eat the part of the cake that touches it. I know, it's ridiculous. I asked my fiancé if he would be ok with having them frost the cake with the same fudge that they are using as the filling since I hate vanilla, and he was on board with it. Well, ever since it came up in conversation at a family function, everyone is insisting that we must have a white frosted cake. Why? because it's traditional and taboo to have a dark wedding cake. Umm... come again? I flat out said "Well, sorry, but I want to be able to eat and enjoy my own wedding cake" and yet, everyone still is giving so much unwanted solicitation on "cake etiquette". They keep saying that the guests won't be happy with it.

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Anyone else hear of this or have an opinion on the matter? I mean, it's yellow cake with chocolate frosting, not pistachio cake with cherry filling and maple butternut frosting. (photos of random chocolate wedding cakes off Google images for reference).

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Latest activity by Jordan, on March 30, 2019 at 10:06 PM
  • Chrystal
    Super May 2019
    Chrystal ·
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    I am having a chocolate wedding cake with chocolate frosting. We both really like chocolate cake and it’s a small DW. The guests will also get dessert with dinner so if they don’t like chocolate cake they will still have dessert
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  • VIP September 2019
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    Girl it is you and fiance wedding. You get you fudge chocolate frosting and everyone else can pound sand and forfeit this yummy cake. More for you two
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  • S
    Devoted April 2021
    Soon2BMrsR ·
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    It’s just different than what most expect.

    You could have a lot of fun with it though, and talk about “white-supremecist wedding cakes” watching people get uncomfortable as they drop the topic like a hot pan.

    I’m sure it will be beautiful and delicious. Thanks for sticking to your guns.
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  • Expert May 2021
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    We haven’t decided on the cake yet. I don’t even know if we’re doing a cake vs other desserts. Both of our favorites (and really the only cake he likes) is yellow cake with milk chocolate frosting so who knows. We might have a chocolate cake too. As far as people that “won’t be happy”, you’ll have that regardless! And the same guests who “won’t be happy” are probably the same that will have some form of complaint on time, location or food offered. Ya know, the ones who are always so put out by free food and entertainment? Lol!
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  • Tara
    Dedicated September 2019
    Tara ·
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    I didn’t even think to do that. Such a great idea! My fiancé ate opposites, he likes frosting and I hate frosting so we decided to do a half naked cake. I wonder what your cake would look like half and half? It might look cute if you did chocolate frosting and half naked?
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  • Disneysue
    Devoted September 2018
    Disneysue ·
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    Flick your hand 🖐 up and say “ Our Wedding, our wedding cake, our choice now 🤫 “ if they persist 🤫 🤫 and 🤫some more.

    Our guests got got tired of waiting for the servers to start cutting our cake up (after we cut it, they were supposed to start serving it but 10-20 minutes went by and they were no where to be found) so they started serving themselves 🤣.
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  • Emma
    Dedicated November 2019
    Emma ·
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    Good on you for sticking to what you and your fiancé want! I find that comment strange about guests not liking it because it’s not a traditional white cake.
    As a guest, to be completely honest, the look of a cake is something I don’t really notice. I would rather have a yummy cake, and if I was served a cake with chocolate frosting I’d be pretty stoked Smiley smile
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  • C
    Super January 2020
    Cassie ·
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    Its your wedding and you choose what you want. Who cares what they think. I think the examples you posted are really nice. Tell them “well you can have an all white cake for your wedding” or “Well you don’t have to eat it but I intend to enjoy my cake and I like chocolate.”
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  • Samantha
    Super August 2019
    Samantha ·
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    Your wedding, your cake. There are certain things that should be specifically to your preference, cake and alcohol are one of those areas. We're doing citrus for our cake and my mom was like...wait no chocolate! Lol. I don't like chocolate and like you want to be able to enjoy my wedding cake...same goes for drinks and foods. You're catering and it's good to have guests in mind, but at the end of the day it's your party and you're paying for it do what you like.

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  • Kristen
    VIP June 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Our cake is going to be more traditional, but we are having an assortment of different donut flavors and a smaller cake than “traditional” because we don’t like cake much. It’s your wedding, so what you want. Stop telling everyone every detail to spare yourself from their dumb judgement
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  • Tori
    Devoted March 2019
    Tori ·
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    It's your wedding! Do what you want. I am having a chocolate mint cake, but doing vanilla frosting. Normally the place does chocolate frosting with it, and on top is a white chocolate mint mousse. Unfortunately that can get a little melty so they can't cover the whole cake with it. My fiance works at a dessert restaurant so they're doing it for free. He said we'll have to freeze it ahead of time so it won't be melty and I'm cool with that. We'll have other cake options including a few slices of gluten free for guests.
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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
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    Please do it. I think it’s awesome and I don’t think they get to decide! I originally wanted an all chocolate wedding cake but decided to go with white frosting bc I wanted it to match a certain cake topper. But I don’t want any fruitiness on the inside, still deciding on that. We will also have an all chocolate grooms cake with Oreos sprinkled on top!
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  • Futuremrsk
    VIP August 2019
    Futuremrsk ·
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    Go for it!! It sounds delicious! If your family persists, just say "our wedding, our cake. If you dont like it you dont have to eat it!"
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  • Maria
    Savvy June 2019
    Maria ·
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    Go with chocolate! Guests are not that picky, if it is a huge concern, you could opt for vanilla frosted cupcakes to compliment your colors.
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  • Denise
    Super September 2019
    Denise ·
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    I think you should get whatever YOU want. It's about you and your FH. I was going to have a half & half cake bc FH wanted the traditional and I wanted the chocolate. Plans have totally changed now though so we both still get what we want, it's just different now.

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  • Christel
    Dedicated October 2020
    Christel ·
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    It's your wedding and your cake. If they dont like what you want for your day they dont have to eat it. I personally think it's a nice change and a beautiful option but I like different.
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  • SraDeCarrillo
    Super August 2019
    SraDeCarrillo ·
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    I think American tradition is white wedding cake and in the south I think chocolate grooms cakes are a thing but, I must say this one thing; everyone says they never remember the cake. I know I couldn’t remember what my cousins cake looked like at her wedding last summer. A chocolate cake is unexpected so I think people will actually remember it. Whats more, I think people like the flavor more. FH and I havent decided on cake flavors yet but, now you’ve got me thinking about chocolate as well. The pics you posted are both beautiful!

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  • Michelle
    VIP December 2019
    Michelle ·
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    Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Selena
    Super September 2019
    Selena ·
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    Have what you want.

    We are having chocolate filling, but I wanted that crisp look, so we decided fondant. So lots of yummy chocolate on the inside, but then covered in a mess of fondant. Also important because our cake will be sitting out for a while.
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  • Nicole
    Expert May 2019
    Nicole ·
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    Your wedding. Your choice. I would go with the chocolate cake if that is your favorite. You will never please everyone.
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