Cheating - Red Flag or Deal Breaker?

100% deal breaker. I've done the whole 2nd chance thing and it only turns into more and more heartbreak. Learned my lesson, once a cheater always a cheater!! NO questions or excuses

Deal breaker. I had that happen with my first marriage and it nearly destroyed me. never again. if he or she loves you they don't cheat PERIOD. there is never a valid reason, NEVER

I think it depends on the type of cheating. If someone kissed him and he didn’t push them away or if it was like he slept with someone else. What are everyone’s thoughts about the type of cheating?

Definitely a deal breaker for me!

It's a deal breaker for me.

Definitely a deal breaker. I don't believe "once a cheater, always a cheater", they could totally have a successful relationship later down the road, but a relationship is built on trust and cheating 100% kills that trust. Major deal breaker.

So if it was like a high school/ early college relationship and only one time then red flag. Once someone is mature enough to really know deal breaker. So I don't believe the "once a cheater, always a cheater". I made some pretty horrible choices in my younger life and I would hate to be judged solely on them.

Deal breaker. I mean, I generally believe people deserve second chances, but I could never forgive being cheated on and someone with a history of cheating- why wouldn’t they cheat on you too?

Deal breaker. Some people could get past it. Not me.

My fiance and I have both been married before, and our spouses were both guilty of cheating. This is a deal breaker!

It would depend on the circumstances. I know someone who cheated shortly after she had been raped, and it seems to have been an attempt to reassert control over her own life. She got therapy, and hasn't cheated again. I wouldn't consider that a deal breaker. On the other hand, if someone routinely cheats in every relationship, I would assume they would cheat on me, too. I wouldn't even consider them if I were interested in a poly relationship, because a dishonest person is capable of violating even the rules of a poly relationship.

Absolute 100% deal breaker

DEAL BREAKER 100000%. Heck no. Thank you, next.

100% deal breaker.

Deal Breaker. I don't tolerate nonsense like that! It's just disgusting and disgraceful!!

Deal breaker!

Deal breaker if it happens to me. If it was done in a different relationship I'm not going to hold it against them, maybe they understand how hurtful it is to the other person

Dealbreaker. Oddly enough, it'd be less about the physical aspect. With a lie like that, I would never be able to trust him again.

Once a cheater always a cheater! If they actually loved you, they wouldn’t have cheated in the first place. Yes, mistakes happen but you must live with the consequences. Cheater is right up there with thief and rapist for me. Don’t ever trust one

It's a red flag because I do think one can be reformed but it makes for trusting extremely hard if you enter into a relationship with someone who has wondered. For me, I wouldn't even entertain a cheater. Way too much work and the risk of heartbreak is ENORMOUS.