Cheating Bride?

I'm going to need to remember 50 Shades of Adolescence.

@ centerpiece flowers...thanks for calling me young! : )

Thanks for the advice everyone!

I think she's sick of us...

Wow, I am far from young, engaged or newly married. My daughter just got married. I am old, been married. No matter how you spin it, what age we are, or how long we have been married or not. Your friend is cheating and you are helping her. But not really HELPING her at all.

At the very least this is an intense emotional affair for over a year. I would never be able to hang out with them as a couple knowing this is going on and the poor husband looking like an idiot.

Not telling your female friend that this isn't cool or appropriate married behavior in the guise of not judging her is a cop out.

I think you're over our advice but I'm going to throw in that I agree with what everyone is saying. Including Amy saying she'd end that friendship.

I'm not over anybody, I got what the majority of people suggested and appreciate the time everyone took to write back.

Also maybe ask yourself why your friend told you that and kinda bragged in a way (maybe) about the texts..could it be that on some level she wants you to tell her to stop? Maybe not saying anything is implicitly sending her the message that what she is doing is okay. That sucks to be in your position :-(

I would ask her how she would feel if her husband was texting that stuff. You may not be physically cheating but mental is just as bad...

Just like with physical and mental abuse... Just because mental doesn't leave marks others can see doesn't make it any less serious

I am sorry, but that is totally cheating.....obviously there are issues in her marriage and she needs to address them and not go to outside sources to fill that void in her life. I would be honest with her about how you feel about it. She needs to come clean with her husband though....it's not for you to get in the middle of it. Just encourage her to confess to him about it. The ultimate choice is hers. That stinks though and I really don't understand women like that.....just saying

Its always the coworker lol. I mean the messages were hot if they made you blush. I have a friend that did something similar although I do believe she did get physical. I also saw a few texts from them and yeah pretty explicit lol.

View Quoted Comment Like I told the OP, I have a friend who did something similar and from what I read in the messages she showed me I think she did get physical with the other guy lol. Pretty explicit.

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I don't get how someone does that. You are supposed to marry the person you love and love the one you marry. I know some people have a second choice that stays on their mind. It is important just to get that person out of your mind.