Ceremony and no reception

THERE ARE LAWS FOR HOW TO THROW A PARTY THOUGH.

Any gathering where you invite people to come see/witness/something that has to do with you, it is pretty much required that you feed them and offer them free beverages.

View Quoted Comment Adding to that, a wedding ceremony is for the couple, the reception is a thank you to your guests for coming. If you don’t want to properly thank your guests, don’t have them.

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Also, it is ironic that you are calling other people selfish (which is a violation, by the way). Your idea is very selfish since you are implying you will be inviting people to your wedding (where they will give you a gift) and you don't have the decency to spend time with them or spend money on providing a meal for them.

As long as you both are happy then thats what's important. It definately isn't traditional so plan on notifying your guests ahead of time on the invitations. Best thing to remember when the haters come is that it's your wedding, you are the ones who need to be happy above all else.

Yes they will tell you that they're fine with it to your face. Most people won't tell friends that they are being rude to their face.

@OP If you're having guests, host them in some capacity. If not, ceremony only is just fine.

Unless this was an immediate family member (I.e, sibling), or extremely close friends, I would not be going. Be prepared for a lot of declines, or unhappy guests. If you want to get married without a reception, elope.

I'm hoping the Original Poster will come back on, and clarify if they are eloping, or having guests.

I went to a reception that was more of a receiving line and you ate cookies and punch at the end. And left when you were done or srayed and talked with other people. It wasn't a big deal and allowed people to congratulate and celebrate with you without a lot of focus on you all night.

Think it's a great idea. Less to worry about and more on what's important. Gives more investment on the honeymoon.

Super rude. I wouldn't go to a wedding with no reception, that's why people go to weddings, I hate to say it. I'd be even more upset if I went to a restaurant and had to foot my own bill! Just elope.

View Quoted Comment I am going to need to see these party throwing laws, just for personal reference.

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Party Laws

http://emilypost.com/

I agree w PPs that you should elope if you don't want to host anything - not even a cake & punch or dessert reception. Even if I got married in a courthouse, I would've wanted my immediate family there and would've gladly taken them to dinner afterwards

We are doing a ceremony and cake and champagne reception, honestly we are only doing cake and champagne because its included in the package. The most important part of our day is the ceremony then we'll just be grabbing food and drinks with everyone else later that night. Our wedding has been about sharing the Gospel and allowing everyone to witness the greatest ministry take form, not about favors or alcohol. So I support you girl!

This is incredibly rude, BUT if you are set on doing this please let your guests know ahead of time and don't be surprised if you get a lot of declines.

View Quoted Comment I hope you’re having an early afternoon wedding, otherwise you need to provide a proper meal.

Again, the ceremony is about the couple, the reception is a thank you to all the guests. If you don’t want to host the guests properly, don’t invite them.

Goodness, goodness - the yelling! So not sunshine-y or rainbow-y.

Oh, and is "crap" a curse word now? Asking for a friend.

I think that's fine..can u have ppl meet u at a bar after ? That could be low key n then ppl can celebrate with u after if they want ..I'd totally do that..hell I should have haha

Jeesh, reading the comments to this made me remember why I dont get on here too often.

For clarification, it will be a small (ish) wedding. I dont feel like I need to go into full detail on why we chose to do things the way we are. But for one, we both have pretty bad social anxiety. And neither of us like to be the center of attention. HOWEVER, we both have large families who have been WAITING for us to get married and would not miss it for the world. We do not have any out of town guests, and everyone is local. We are making it clear on the E-vites (not doing invitiations or save the dates either, I'm sure I'll get lots of hate about that too haha) and we are having a gathering at our home afterwards that will have food and cake. I couldnt care less about gifts. And honestly, if people think were rude for doing it this way, then let them. I'm marrying my best friend and I only want people who WANT to be there anyway. People need to realize that not everyone does things the same way. And just because its different doesnt mean its wrong.

View Quoted Comment I think what you are doing is fine. It’s your day and if people want to come they need to come for the right reasons and not for the free food and drinks. Whatever works for you is what matters. You just have to be realistic though which I’m sure are and not get offended if some people don’t show up because they were expecting something in return. That is not what a wedding is about. If you want the traditional ceremony and that’s it then go for it regardless of what anyone else on here says.