Ceremony and no reception

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I think they are two different people - @stella was saying that she is also doing the same thing as @OP

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Sorry. Logging on the site for the first time instead of the app and it's different. My hubster's work pic somehow got in there and also didn't know about the screen name option. Yes everyone will know where we want to eat (if that's even what we end up doing) and will be asked to join us there if they wish. This will be a small event. I also like the idea of having just a ceremony, which was the original post. I also know that our particular group of friends are going to want to come out and celebrate. Which is why we are keeping it very informal. I've run this idea past several of my friends and they agree with what I want to do. I was just giving my opinion on someone's post. And I agreed with it. I'm not asking anyone's opinion of what I'm doing for my own wedding.

View Quoted Comment That is why I advised OP to be prepared to cover the bill.

What if you just have a cake and punch after?

View Quoted Comment Of course she should be prepared to cover the bill. She’s hosting.

If you invite people to an event, YOU need to pay for it. Sorry.

I didn't just have 20 people over for Christmas dinner and take up a collection as they entered the house. I paid for, prepped, and cooked everything. I hosted, and I asked them to come over.

OP, you asked for other opinions (not options)...the consensus here is if you have guest then they are hosted properly. The most simplest forms are a cake & punch reception or a small informal dinner where you would most likely cover the tab. But, you seem adamant about NOT hosting your guest or any type of reception so I'm confused as to are asking for?

View Quoted Comment Exactly, I don’t understand why this is a difficult concept.

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Again, I don't think @stella and @op are the same person.

Regardless, @stella, your plan is rude to your guests so maybe you should take a little something away from this discussion as well.

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NO! UGH. Apparently they just assign you with a screen name when you sign up. I had to log into the actual website to change things.

View Quoted Comment It’s the internet, once you post something, it’s open for discussion.

That being said, whatever you decide to do, you need to host and pay for. If you invite one single person to your ceremony, they must be received afterwards with food and drinks.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for clarifying @BoudreauToBe! I think I missed your first post while I was confused and typing my reply.

View Quoted Comment Except we're almost saying the same thing. I tdont think punch and cake are required and OP hasn't said how small and informal the want it.

I rec'd a bar and told her to try be prepared to cover the bill. It's totally okay for them to bow out after for dinner by themselves.

That be so wrong for ppl to come to your wedding and you don't feed them. At least have a cake and punch for them coming.

If you invite people to your wedding, you should host a celebration for the whole group after the wedding. It can be cake and punch or a full meal, but there needs to be something and it's the hosts' responsibility to pay.

If you're eloping and there are no guests (just you and your FS), then no reception is perfectly acceptable.

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Yes I think we are different. As it's obvious to me that I don't know what OP stands for! (Original Poster) I am not the original poster. Good Lord. I should have never even posted anything in the first place. I'm too old for this drama.

View Quoted Comment And yet you don’t seem to understand how hosting for a wedding works...

This is fine if it's just you and your witnesses. That's the only way this is OK.

If people are traveling to come to your ceremony, you need to provide them with something. I know if I were invited to a wedding that I had to drive more than 30 minutes to and there was not going to be any sort of food or dessert served, I would seriously consider not attending.

Non-traditional =/= a big eff you to etiquette! I’m having a super non-traditional wedding, but I’m still hosting my bloody guests properly.

If you have guests, you host them. It’s actually pretty simple.