Cash Registry for Adoption Savings Account, appropriate?

@Emmy, affording having a child and paying adoption expenses are two different things. When my niece was adopted, her parents put out almost 15k in lawyer and legal fees. It wasn't a straightforward type of adoption though, so I'm not sure how much Shelby will end up owing. Every situation is different. But yes, it still says to me, Help me buy my child lol

If you are getting mixed reactions from family and friends already, does it matter what we say?

Only $15K? My coworker just paid $40K - they adopted a little boy from Japan. On top of the $40K, they had to buy plane tickets (only give 5 days notice) and rent an apartment in Tokyo for a month.

I would not do a cash registry, regardless. Also, considering that it's a destination wedding, I would keep your expectations of gifts very low. People are already going to be shelling out some cash just to get to your wedding. I wouldn't register for anything and leave it at that. People will get the hint.

I don't recommend it. Personally. My thoughts resemble Stephanie's on this.

I personally would be totally ok with this. We have a toddler that is ours but I always tell FH that when we are done having our that I want to adopt or even foster because I know there are alot of children who need families. Kudos for adopting it is great.

I, personally, wouldn't register for cash. I would just not register at all and maybe mention something about wanting cash instead of gifts on your wedding website (in better words of course). However, I'm not offended by cash registries either so if you wanted to do that I think it would be ok.

I think people are more likely to think it's a great cause than to have the usual response of "eek this is tacky" if they see an adoption registry.

Then again, I've given gifts via a honeymoon registry before-- personally I think it's a great idea- if that's what the couple wants to spend money on then who am I to say that the BBB blender I would get them is better?

No, a cash registry is never appropriate. I agree with Stephanie. People know they can give cash as a gift, they don't need be asked for money. An adoption fund doesn't make it any more appropriate, sorry.

And Precious, maybe you missed the part where she ASKED if this was appropriate. People are giving their opinions and some disagree with the concept. I assume the OP wants to hear both sides so that she can make her decision, otherwise she wouldn't have asked. It's a discussion forum, there are many points of view on various topics.

In your circle of friends is it common for people to get boxed gifts or do cash? In my family/circle cash gifts are the most prominent gifts and we did a small registry that was mostly covered at the bridal shower. Out of 120 guests, we received 4 boxed gifts. Everything else was cash or checks and we didn't have to make any mention of it.

I don't see anything wrong with wanting cash and not boxed gifts but if it is already common in your circle then you do not need to really put it out there more. I'd stay away from the websites because you shouldn't lose a percentage to the website at all.

And definitely look into adoption benefits. I work for a university and we get up to 10k in adoption support.

Do it.

IMO - This is no different than setting up a Honeyfund account or similar, only this cause seems much more noble and worthwhile. However, with that said, these types of registries will charge a fee for each transaction, so I would suggest simply taking cash gifts the old fashioned way and then put the funds toward your adoption costs.

If you do decide to do the online registry thing, please state somewhere on there what your intent of using the funds will be. I would personally not have an issue donating funds online for that purpose in lieu of a traditional wedding gift, so long as that was made known to me.