Cash Registry for Adoption Savings Account, appropriate?

Eeek...this is a tough one. Normally I would be against cash registries, but this is a different circumstance

Do your friends and family know that you want to adopt? If everyone is aware of this, I don't see a problem with it, honestly.

I would just register and let word pass around that you want cash. Since people are travelling they are not likely to cart a gift with them anyways. It comes off as weird to me like...help us buy our child!

I think it's a great idea when it comes to cash registries, which for the most part are looked down upon. Maybe if you educate people on the costs that are associated with adopting, it will help them understand why you are going this way with your registry. People are more likely to give you money if they know it is going to go to a good purpose.

My fw works for the federal government, as do you. I know that her "job" will pay a portion of adoption fees, you may want to look into that!

Our close friends and family have known that we want to adopt. I don't think asking for cash much like even asking for gifts by printing your registries on the invitation is appropriate. The most important thing to us is that we get to celebrate with the people we love. We are not materialistic by any means. That being said, our other option was to create a charity registry for St. Jude's Childrens Hospital.

I'm with @maltese. Normally I'm entirely against cash registries, but in your case the cause is so noble (and the cost is so absurd to adopt), that I think I'd feel warm and fuzzy knowing I was contributing to that.

Normally, like the others, I would say no dont do a cash registry. But maybe make a WW website and say that you and FH are looking into adoption. Since you are established, you do not need gifts. If anyone wanted to send a gift to contribute, it is appreciated, but you would prefer that any wedding-related gift be put towards the adoption.

I would happily gift to a adoption fund as a guest. I say go for it, it's a better cause than most cash registries.

As a guest I would give to your adoption fund before bringing you a physical gift.

I think that is a great idea! I wouldn't put in on the invite or anything so it doesn't come across as presumptuous but if you spread the word via your bridal party and parents verbally then I think that is a great idea. People often ask if the couple is registered anywhere and they can explain you set up a savings account for adopting your first child...

I would be happy to gift to a adoption fund but it might be odd for some...I figure with all that destination weddings you will be creating a wedding website...might be easiest to just make a page on their labeled something like Plans After Wedding and include on that page info about your desire to adopt and info about people contributing. That way if they want to not participate it isn't pushed at them but those that want to know more can decide if they want to gift that way. I wouldn't print it on an invite.

I think it would be odd to set up a cash registry, even if it is for an adoption fund, but I think it would be appropriate if people ask you where your registered to explain that you're saving up because you'd like to adopt a child. It would be hard to explain your situation adequately to friends and family via the internet, especially for those that didn't know it will come off seeming really strange. Plus the online ones charge fees.

Most people gave us cash or gift cards anyway, even though we did have registries.

I say go for it. Sounds a lot more noble than my honeymoon registry! Good luck with your adoption

No. Look at it this way, would you do one for the biological child you want to have's expenses?

But people will give you cash you can use toward whatever you want, and it's perfectly acceptable to put those gifts toward it. Also, these registries take fees from guest's gifts. You'll get more if you don't do the registry because they'll give the money directly to you.

No. The whole cash registry thing is tacky, IMO. If your guests choose to give you cash, you can put it aside for that purpose.

I say go for it as long as your guests know what you are trying to do. I would totally give a gift of cash for this. I know it cost 20K-40K (we looked into it) to adopt a child so your guest will sort still be contributing to your home. It may be weird for some but I'm not weirded out by it.

I think it is funny when people tell others not to do something. You want to do this, or you wouldn't be asking us about it. I think there is just a difference in where everyone is located in the country. I'm sure there are places where asking for cash would mean people were so offended you wouldn't get any gifts. Whereas here in the SF area cash is the norm. People rarely give actually gifts here now. Even for teens' birthdays we see more gift cards than gifts. Your cash is going towards a good cause and just include why you want cash when you ask. My FH and I have enough to live and be content with where we are, but we intend on asking for cash. He would like to get his doctorate and will be the first in his entire family to do so. We would put the cash towards his tuition. His sister got married last October and she asked for cash. I think only 1 person actually brought a regular gift. I didn't hear any complaints about the cash gift.

Cash Registries take a percentage of it, so No, I don't suggest it. Communicating in a classy way about the location of this cash registry will be hard to do. Word of mouth, in my opinion, is best for all cash gifts for whatever the purpose.

My sister is actually adopted from China, and I have met quite awful people that have bashed my family's decision to adopt, as people aren't welcoming to adoption for whatever reason. The people who spoke up are very close family members, so it was very surprising to us. That being said, I don't see how this is much different than another couple saying that they want cash to help start there family, so I almost feel like you guys are slightly flaunting it and prideful about it? I don't think my amount of gift would change for that reason.

Wait,...you want people to help pay for you to adopt a child? If you cannot manage that expense how are you anticipating being able to pay for a child after you adopt him or her....this seems like a really bizarre and like @snarky said...helping you buy a child. FWIW, I don't think it sounds noble, I think it sounds immature & poor planning

ETA: Words confuse me sometimes.