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@Punkin Beer no one say you're annoying me lol. Your opinion is your own. It won't change my plans

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VS shes telling you what every guests will be thinking a thank you to me is more appropriate

@Amanda C. Thank you for your opinion. Hahaha. Time to head to work. @Jen K I hope you make the best decision for your budget.

@VS if you're so casually suggesting your guests can just "stay home" if they don't like it, why are you inviting them in the first place??

Oh wait, I bet I know why...

Insert Homer Simpson "doh"

Before reading any comments:

Why????? Why is there another post about this?? Dear God make it stop!!

@MrsMck my family doesn't want to hear the excuse I cut you because I wanted to have open bar. I could care less if they bring gifts. My guest list is already at the minimum and my mom is giving me push back, but I will not add anyone else due to my budget. I am not pushing my wedding date back for open bar. You don't know my situation so please don't judge.

I've been reading some of the posts....WOW. All I can say is your "friends " know you don't drink, and it doesn't mean because your getting married you have to have an open bar. I have been to weddings where there were no bars and there were cash bars and never was i ever insulted. The cash bar, we knew the couple was on a limited budget and they were just starting out. You have to respect that also. You go there to have fun and enjoy an important time in the couples life. So, if you have to do that, people will understand how expensive things are. And if they don't, do they really need to be part of your celebration?

Between yesterday and what's going on into today, I think there's a case of "one person, multi-accounts."

Mostly due to the same questions being asked and the same generic, "wow, I didn't know everyone was rude here!" response.

Or Cleo/Chloe has returned.

Then you elope. Why do you want to host a party you can't afford to host?!?

And I'm sorry all the crap about wanting to share the day with your guests?! Oh please! People who host a party properly are considering their guests because they want them there to celebrate.

People who don't have the funds and still decide to do the same thing are simply expecting a hand out, in other words cards with money is the main reason why your hosting a party you already can't afford.

Nope sorry if you host a wedding without taking care of your guests you should ABSOLUTELY return any cards with money in them to the guest to cover the costs of their drinks.

Or elope, or wait till you can afford your guest list.

But certainly should not accept any gifts or money from these people as you've already waisted their time, travel, new outfit, ect.

I think a lot has to do with attitude. I knew the wedding I wanted and the wedding I could afford were dramatically different so I planned accordingly.

We wanted a semi open bar (beer/wine/two signature drinks) so we made the decision to properly host on a Friday night vs. a Saturday night - saved us $1,200 - that went straight to the bar budget. We also ended up getting discounts from every vendor by choosing a Friday night.

Little compromises make a huge difference in hosting. PP have said it too - cut save the dates, favors, dramatic center pieces, et.... things that guests do not care about and put it towards something they do.

Everyone has opinions on what is a "proper" way to host. It is just opinions. The only right way to host YOUR wedding is the way you decide to host YOUR wedding. Nobody knows what is most important for you to spend your money on. If people are not putting money on your tab to have an open bar then opinions should not be given. Just make sure you tell everyone before hand what to expect on the invites.

@Amanda....The memes ...I love you lol

@Paige, you cannot have an opinion on etiquette. It is what it is.

People can, however, have an opinion on you choosing to follow etiquette or not. ...And it will be talked about.

@Paige nope. You are wrong. Etiquette is not up for debate or your opinion.

You can have the wedding you can afford. That's it. You can cut back little things like programs, save the dates, favors.

You can not cut back on providing a meal or free alcohol. Proper etiquette is that every guest be provided a professionally catered meal and free alcohol. That's proper hosting.

Beyond that, you can cut back other areas like decor, flowers, etc. and still be perfectly fine.

ETA: and documenting your choice to not follow etiquette by announcing that on your invites is particularly distasteful.

Consider doing "drink tickets" attached to invitation that way you can monitor the drinks. Then go with the beer/wine only ideas. Also, we are serving only mimosas, as we are having a morning wedding.

This is getting bad. I can't believe cash bars are ever acceptable! I went to a wedding with a cash bar, and I was insanely pissed. Here I am, spending tons of money to get to you, tons of money to gift you, and you can't hand me a glass of wine? That's rude. Everyone thinks its rude. Your cash bar idea is selfish, and I would try to look outside yourself, and make your wedding an enjoyable experience for the people you call 'near and dear' to you.

Cut expenses, you have over a year to plan this out. Set a budget and stop unnecessary spending and SAVE, SAVE, SAVE. Problem solved.

Don't do open bar, do consumption with just wine and beer. Will save you money and you can host properly.

Or do a different time slot that is NOT popular with heavy drinking.

For those who are fine with a CASH BAR, why not have a wedding on a day/time that is cheaper? Have it during brunch or afternoon? I mean you don't want to spend the money on drinks but you want the fancy evening reception and "dance"???

The majority of wedding guests like to drink, the majority do NOT like to open their wallets to drink at a wedding. Therefore the majority of your guests will NOT be happy to pay for drinks or they will leave early and not have fun. If this is what you want, go for it.