Cash Bar

@jacks I don't see how it is so rude it is not their day their not their to celebrate liquore their their to celebrate us and u can do so without liquore I wish we could aquire it for our quest but sadly we cannot and having people respond with rude comments is not what I asked for

No. The reception is NOT for them to celebrate *you*. It is a thank you to your guests for attending your ceremony. You've invited these people, you need to host them.

If you can't afford drinks, then lower your guest list until you can afford to host properly.

@miami every time

I actually never thought of it that way thanks! However In my opinion its not just that its both however we have cut our list down as much as we can and we still can't afford it their for we won't be having it and I would appreciate it if you didn't judge me due to it it does not concern you thanks.

I realize that you asked nicely for me not to judge you but I am, and so will some of your guests.

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@jacks do you have anything better to do than judge me ? Just curious as to whybits any of your concern and I do see that some will but if they are their to judge then I'm not sure why they are their

Besides were not even having a honeymoon due to wedding costs I would just like to have MY wedding where family can be their for the celebration of our big day! I would also like to do so without your judgment when it was not asked for and I'm sure that's all the person whom posted this wanted also she asked how she should tell her guest so their not surprised she did not ask for opinions on if its rude or not

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Thanks.

I am officially skipping posts that don't include a single punctuation mark. They're impossible to read.

We've been through this so many times. Sometimes the bride sees the issue from the guests' point of view and they do add beer and wine to what was going to be a dry wedding/cash bar. However, I can always tell which ones will not heed good advice because somewhere in their posts this "well, they can just stay home then" attitude pops up. I don't know why you'd invite anyone who, according to the bride, "could just stay home." Well, actually I do, and the reason has to do with what they'll be bringing to deposit in the card box (along with their intention of drinking all of that "free booze" -- which is another error. Weddings are NOT free to attend. A cash bar is just one more expense a guest absorbs due to your wedding).

There is more to a celebration than alcohol, but without it, you'll be lucky to get a great celebration going,

So I if any of you are choosing to spend money on an expensive bridal gown, a nice photographer, beautiful flowers, even your dream venue; but not including alcohol for your guests into your budget says that you don't give a damn about anyone but yourselves. It almost makes me question how good the food would be.

You are all better off eloping if you don't really care much about your guests.

It's not selfish I am sorry. Just because we can't do open bar all night doesn't mean my wedding will be any less. I am happy for those who actually stood up and said they're not having a full open bar because there are more on this forum then you think. This is a forum people's budgets will vary on what they can and cannot accomadate.

I appreciate everyone's opinions and continue to enjoy coming on the forum for the community and wedding inspiration.

Alcohol is part of standard, bare minimum of hosting of your guests. It falls under the basic category of wedding requirements like a seat for every butt, sufficient amount of food during a meal time, plans in case of inclement weather etc.

All other things -photobooths, amazing $1000-$2000+ dresses, honeymoons, favors, flowers etc. - are above and beyond. If you have those and a dry wedding, you are doing it COMPLETELY WRONG. You must provide alcohol for free, to all guests of a legal age.

The only reason when its permissable to have a dry wedding is due to medical sobriety of the bride and/or groom, or religious reasons such as when most or all of the guest list (such as Muslim) etc.

That's it. Saying you can't afford it doesn't make it right. Cut back your guest list or pay more.

VSwedding, it's completely selfish of you to think that. Your wedding will be talked about for years, behind your back. People will sneak alcohol into your wedding or drink in the parking lot....classy right?...just like my cousin's was when she had a cash bar. Her wedding ruined many relationships because she treated her guests shabby.

Stop for a minute and seriously think of the ramifications of a dry or cash bar wedding. It's not worth it to go cheap here.

Their, there, they're, and therefore are all different words with very different meanings.

FFS.

@Punkin Beer again guest like you can stay home.

@vswedding you sound like you're a hoot at parties

If you can't afford it, push the wedding back or budget differently. My FH and I rarely drink but we are having an open bar with beer/wine and cocktails. You are correct, it's not cheap-but I shaved $1000 off my wedding dress budget and $500 off my cake & Flower budget so I can properly host. I know my friends and family will enjoy having drinks. I want to thank them for attending.

If I'm annoying you VSwedding, it's because on some deep level...you know I'm right.