Cancelling a photographer

Read and understand your contract with this photographer. It will say if you can get any money back or not. From there no reason is necessary but as Rev Ann said you have to abide by the contract. That's why it is so important to read every little thing you sign and understand what it means.

Read Lynzey's thread regarding deposits: https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/psa-deposits/a112b26bfb1c0764.html

How you want to cancel is really up to you and what you are comfortable with. You could explain about your mom or you could simply say that you have decided to go in a different direction. You can politely ask if it would be possible to have your deposit returned, however depending on the contract and how nice your photographer is feeling, she most likely isn't legally required to return it so I wouldn't push that issue.

Unless you know this photographer personally outside of hiring them for your wedding, you're likely never going to see or talk to them again so I wouldn't worry about hurting feelings. It's strictly business and they will understand that.

First, so sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. My prayers to you and your family.

I would say just talk to the photographer and see what he/she says. You may be able to get your deposit back or a portion of it. Hope it goes well.

You should have done your research before booking her. I have a friend who is a photographer and I didn't book her because personally I don't like her work. I have seen people cancel in her before and it's a big financial burden. It's their livelihood. Don't expect your deposit back and she may decide to charge you a penalty. Make sure you read your contract before you cancel.

I did like everything I saw from her initially, but the newer weddings were nothing like what the older ones I saw. I really like her on a personal level which is a huge reason we went there in the first place so while I know it may be "just business", it's not to me and I feel absolutely horrible and am so upset :0(

I told a vendor we canceled the wedding. Granted I hadn't signed a contract, but it did give me an out and ensured they wouldn't contact me to follow-up.

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom.

In our photography contract, he stipulates that his style may change, and that's his artistic right (or something along those lines). I only bring this up in case you do decide to discuss the style of photography as Rev. Ann suggests.

Losing a deposit is a one time event. Hating your wedding photos (and believing you had other options you didn't take) is something else.

If you've reconsidered, then cancel and absorb the loss. If you rebook with another photographer, be very thorough in your research.

My condolences on the loss of your mother.

Just say your situation has changed and you'd like to cancel. That's all. You likely will not receive your deposit because you booked and that isn't their issue... But you will at least be more comfortable about your pictures

I would not expect your deposit back regardless of what you say, so it is best to just be honest and considerate rather then get trapped in a lie. However, does your contract include engagement photos? If so, or if your photographer is will ing to do them at a reasonable rate, I would recomend getting them done. If you love the way they turn out then maybe there where things happening at the other weddings that you didnt like the photos from that you weren't aware of. You never know what happens behind the scenes of someone else's wedding.

Thank you everyone for your advice! I really appreciate it. Seriously considering going away to get married and just having a small party when we return.