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AshAub
Beginner February 2019

Cake&Punch AND a registry?

AshAub, on May 28, 2017 at 11:00 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 102

So me and my fiance are figuring that we probably cannot afford a big reception (as in at an actual venue with catering/DJ/open bars/etc). We both work part time jobs and already have bills to pay as it is. However we do want some sort of "reception" after the ceremony to get together with everyone....

So me and my fiance are figuring that we probably cannot afford a big reception (as in at an actual venue with catering/DJ/open bars/etc). We both work part time jobs and already have bills to pay as it is. However we do want some sort of "reception" after the ceremony to get together with everyone. We are planning on setting up a registry at bed bath and beyond to help us get started for once we've tied the knot. However, we might only be able to afford a "cake and punch" reception in the basement of our church (where we are having the ceremony). We will probably be able to get more than strictly cake and punch (maybe a few more light snack options and obviously a few more drink options than punch). However is it tacky or rude to set up a registry and only offer such a small reception? (We would include on the invite "cake and punch reception to follow" so guests know what's happening.) We can't afford a few thousand dollars that a venue will cost us, plus all the added extras. HELP!

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  • Miami2NorthernVA
    Master November 2017
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    K-squared obviously the relationship matters also. I'm saying same relationship but different types of events.

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  • Seale
    Master November 2017
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    Like others have said, a cake and punch reception at non meal times is acceptable. I'm not going to really get into the debate of spending $1000 on a local wedding but that is a very likely estimate for an OOT guest so, unless it's a sibling or parent, I would nix the OOT guests from the guest list. It is their choice to go but some people will RSVP yes to an invitation before they even realize the expenses involved in traveling for a wedding. I do think it's a bit much to ask guests to who live OOT to potentially spend that much to attend a cake and punch reception.

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