Brunch with Family the day after?!?

We had a non-hosted brunch the day after. We just told people we would be having brunch at X at that time, if they wanted to join us. There was no formal invitation, and we were not paying for it. It was still great to see everyone.

We did this at my Aunt's wedding. It was really fun to see everyone in a relaxed setting the next day. If your house is to small, then can FH ask his parents?

I am researching brunch restaurants for day after. I will make reservations for anyone who will still be in town that day...but they will each pay their own way, so trying to find a nice place with a reasonable cost (and preferably bottomless mimisas!). As for the gifts, I think it's something you should do in private. I've always heard that it's tacky to open wedding gifts in front of a large group, as it forces them to be compared to each other and causes people to make judgements about the giver. It could also be embarrassing for the givers if you receive more than one of something.

Not sure why that posted 3X?

I just went to a post wedding brunch for the first time this past summer. I like the idea a lot. Idk about the gift thing. I hate opening presents in front of people. It feels so awkward. It's actually the reason I'm not having a shower.

Right, we didn't open gifts in front of everyone either. We got mostly cash gifts, so opening that in front of everyone would be even worse than opening boxes. And that's already bad.

Well according to me FMIL it is polish tradition to get together the day after to eat leftovers from the wedding. We will have just immediate family over, eat and open our lovely gifts. Opening gifts in front of alot of people is awkward but I don't think we will have that many over. It makes it nice to see my family before they all have to go back to the east coast. After our wedding we are staying very close by at a Celtic BnB so we will be in the area to do so.

Oh and cards we will open on our own...cash gift opening is weird with people around.

We are doing an after brunch for those who are staying the weekend at the local resort(wedding location). Everyone is paying for themselves. We called it a farewell brunch. I don't plan on opening any gifts. Just a way of seeing guests after the wedding who stayed the night over.

If you have a Panera nearby, you can get a pretty good spread of bagels and coffee for a very reasonable price.

Both Mrs. S and Amy give good suggestions

Our hotel does a free made to order breakfast for guests...we'll be down there from 10-12 for anyone that wants to come say goodbye and eat.

My friend did a big formal brunch at their house and regretted it. She said it was just as hard to plan as the wedding, 150 people RSVPed yes, and it was a huge expense. I learned from her mistake and when my FMIL suggested it, I was quick to say, nah.

We did a lunch the day after at my parents house. They put it on. It was just pulled pork, coleslaw, corn on the cob, snacks, etc. We also opened gifts we had received at the wedding or that had been delivered to my parent's house; we got married in my hometown. It was nice to see and chat with people the day after.

Rebecca P great idea! I love Panera--that would be so easy

We are doing a wedding brunch buffet the day after for our destination wedding at a hotel. You might have your FH bring it up by saying "We'd like to have a post wedding brunch, but our place is too small, so we're trying to figure out where to have it" and see if they take the hint. I'm sure someone could whip up a couple breakfast casseroles, bagels, fruit tray. Look into Sam's club or GFS for frozen breakfast casseroles and such.

Otherwise you could find a restaurant that takes reservations or a hotel that does a breakfast or brunch buffet.

No one needs to host this if you are interested in doing it. you say we are going to this breakfast joint at 11am tomorrow if anyone wants to meet us there or say their goodbyes. If not good bye and good night at the end of the reception

For our wedding, we all nursed our hangovers at the breakfast our B&B served. Some of us missed the breakfast. And, no I didn't open any gifts.

For my daughter's wedding, all 3 sets of parents, the entire BP, and a heck of a lot of guests stayed at the inn. The inn offered a free breakfast, so we all just stumbled into the comp breakfast. No, my daughter did not open gifts.

In our culture, gifts are usually cash and it is considered bad manners to open cards.

If you can't afford to host a brunch, make it known that you can't afford to do it and see if someone offers. If noone offers, do what Mrs. S did.

Oooh Panera. If I were stuck on a desert island, Panera bread would seriously be something I brought with me. Tomato Basil bread. I am drooling now, thanks. lol

If your mom wants a brunch, your mom can pay for it.

I'd never even heard of or been to a post-wedding brunch until we started planning our wedding and my MIL piped up and said she wanted to throw us one. I have to say, it was kind of nice, having that last little time to see and say goodbye to everyone, but if she hadn't thrown it for us, we wouldn't have had one and I wouldn't have missed it. I wouldn't open gifts then, though... that's just weird. You take them home and open them later, when everyone has left.

I think it's a nice thing to do also, but...too expensive at the hotel we have, it's like $25/person, plus tax/gratuity. I am thinking of saying my fiance and I are having brunch in the morning, feel free to stop by and say hi before you leave. My sister thinks it's tacky not to offer a formal brunch and pay for it but....my mom paid for hers so...

My ex and I did that and it was nice. Just family. I'm glad we did it. I love the Panera suggestion. Yummy!

I'm not sure what FH and I will do. We're getting married in a tiny town with limited options. I'd like to do something though.