Broke up with my Best Friend

Oh hell no/ she was never a 'best friend'

Thank you guys for all the support it really means a lot!! I've been so emotional by this whole thing! And as for their engagement he said he was planning a proposal but just didn't do it yet so she decided to plan it all

Thank you guys!

She should have told you far sooner and that was wrong. However, you should not be asking a last minute "fill in" for something as silly as even numbers. Your BP members are not props for photos and it's rude to ask someone to step on so late in the game just because it's not even.

I don't think it's rude asking someone to step in... Especially if it's the FH best friends gf...

Nikki, that is the most effed up thing I have ever heard and I'm sorry. I would be a total mess if that happened. The only thing I can say is that hopefully you are marrying your new best friend. Also, as long as a replacement BM does not mind being a replacement and knows the whole story, I don't think it's wrong or rude to find someone to step up.

Thank you! Yes he is my best friend but he is extremely introverted so he does not understand having a best friend in the way that I do. So FH doesn't quite know how to comfort me, he wants me to move on from it, but I seriously feel like me and her broke up. Yeah I planned on telling replacement whole story. She's really cool and I've known her the entire relationship with FH and she's been apart of our growth as a couple. By growth I mean we have double dated with them a lot so she has seen us go from bf and gf to husband and wife

Sounds like she has a little bit of guilty conscience to me, to ask if you are mad... Well duh, why wouldn't you be. Many times people who know they are in the wrong will take the situation and turn it around to try and make you look like the bad guy so they don't feel bad about their actions. You are way better off without a "friend" like this... Good luck and I hope things work out with your ceremony. And if your ex friend tries contacting you, I would just blow her off and not respond... Actions really do speak louder than words!

FH said the same exact thing. So I'm not responding to texts or anything like that because it's not going to solve anything. I'm just reminding myself at the end of the day FH and I are what is important and if she is going to cause drama in my life than I don't need it

This is a really sucky situation, I'm really sorry it happened! I really wouldn't worry about bridal party numbers, I had one MOH while DH had TWO best men and three groomsmen. So super lopsided. We didn't bother with the typical 'bridesmaids one on side, groomsmen on the other, couple in the middle' pictures and went a bit more organic.

My only other advice would be to keep your opinions about the situation on the forum. If your so-called friend is causing drama and complaining about you to other friends, just rise above it. If anyone asks, just say you realise that she has her own priorities and you wish her the best. Your other friends will no doubt tire of her drama.

You're not in the wrong for being mad. But if this person was a long-time best friend before this, I wouldn't let these actions (at a time when she is obviously going through a lot herself) permanently wreck the friendship. It seems to me that someone shouldn't be considered a best friend until they have built up enough positive credits in your life so that they can't all be eliminated by any one action, short of a major crime (which this isn't).

Shannon I need to see your pics! FH is a perfectionist so he's bummed about uneven numbers. And I agree I don't need anymore drama. Friends are asking and I'm just saying we had some disagreements, but I hope she's happy..

2nd Bride, we have been friends a while and I said that to FH too. Is it worth losing our whole friendship?? But I'm sooo hurt by it and without an apology? She's acting as though she did nothing wrong. She even tried talking to my sister the moh last night to see how she is

She sucks.

It sucks, pure and simple. Don't replace her; go with an uneven party; i see it all the time.

And don't shut the door if you really are best friends. She's probably very torn by this, and i'm sure the decision was hard on her part too.

I can tell you this; my best friend died several years ago. We'd been friends for almost 35 years (and probably spent at least five of them, total, screaming at each other). At the end, it was so toxic that I was honestly deciding whether it was better or worse to still be together. And then she got sick, and then she died. I miss her, even the arguing, lol; like when you argue with your partner and you know they don't hate you, they just disagree with you?

Let her do what she has to do right now; have a fabulous wedding, and leave the possibilities open; I suspect she needs your support more than you know or she feels comfortable asking for.

That's great advice! I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm already missing the friendship and I hate drama. I know her situation is super messy but she's choosing to be in a toxic relationship... Which she has been in, in the past. I don't need to go down with her.

Wow!! I can't believe she would do that to you . I hope you can put it behind you and enjoy one of the most important and wonderful days of your life. I think you should do what makes you most happy and comfortable ...so if that means replacing her than do it ..If it were me I would block her number and cut all ties with her . With best friends like her who needs enemies. I broke up with a very close and longtime friend a few years ago ...I also was her sons godmother ...basically her husband was making advances toward me and when I tried to talk to her about it she blamed me etc..It was very painful at the time but I don't even think about her anymore..Do not let her ruin anything for you ..Just think in 10 years from now ...will it even matter?

Wow I'm so sorry that happened to you! That's tough. Yeah at the end of the day what's most important is FH and me so I can't let it ruin the most important day. It sucks I won't have her there. FH is reminding me she was never a best friend if she could do something like this

That's horrible and scummy on her part. so sorry you had to experience this, but at least it's now and now the week before or something that close.

Yeah! It's still bothering me! And 35 days before when the dress takes 6-8 weeks was very short notice. And to think she wanted me to be in her wedding too

Oh and let me update you guys, he just proposed to her... She texted me a pic of the ring this morning, I didn't know what to say so I didn't reply.