Broke up with my Best Friend

Was I in the wrong for being mad??

No. She was super selfish. That sucks. I'm so sorry. Is it possible to simply have one less BM?

I cried about if for a week! I found out she all along was planning on not attending, but didn't know how to tell me sooo apparently last minute was best... My fiancé was huge on keeping it even numbers for pics and everything! One of the groomsmens gf might fill in and we alter a dress from the floor... She just made things very complicated....

It sucks you and your best friend had a falling out, especially this close to your wedding. However, assuming she paid for her dress, she can do whatever she wants with it, including returning it for store credit. Don't worry about having anyone replace her, just go with the BMs you have.

Yeah and I get that Ren! Like I totally understand she paid for it, I guess I was just hurt that my best friend would leave me hanging. She knew how long the dresses took to get here... She was just too focused on her wedding... may I add he didn't even propose to her yet...

Wow that is terrible. Well forget about her and move on. She can be replaced if that is how she wants to act.

Thank you! FH was pissed. I just am hurt more than anything... I am not bridezilla or trying to make it about me... I just felt it was really selfish of her...

That sucks about your best friend. As she plans her wedding, maybe she'll realize the messed up situation she put you in. Good luck.

That sucks - but it seems as though she has issues going on, too. It's a shame she didn't let you know earlier.

Wow what kind of shadiggety is that?! Ooh I'd b hurt & super pissed...I hope u get it all worked out!

What a mess Nikki. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Weddings often show true colours.

You definitely aren't in the wrong for being upset. She's your best friend; you would expect her to at least explain the situation and leave out the lies.

Oh dear, better to find out now and see what you can salvage. Don't let this ruin your big day, the happy chappie in your avatar is your best friend. Keep smiling, and stay sweet. Good luck. Everything happens for a reason. Chin up ok, remember you're getting married. Yeah.....

She has tried contacting me since asking if I was mad and I did tell her I was just really hurt, but she turned it around saying it was her hard earned money that was spent so I have no right to be upset apparently... It really made me reevaluate our friendship I told her and than she basically told me to have a nice life... and we haven't talked since...

Thank you everyone! It sucks though because a lot of our friends are split... She is causing drama between them now.

That's so hard, especially a month before for your wedding. So sorry to hear about this! You're definitely not being selfish, and it was terrible of her not to be upfront with you and then bailing last minute. I wouldn't replace her this late in the game. Uneven BM's and GM's isn't the worst offense in the world. Surrounding yourself with those who love and support your marriage is way more important than an even numbered bridal party.

I`m so sorry to hear that... However, everything happens for a reason. If she is that selfish and inconsiderate maybe you dont need her in your life because she obviously do not care about you. You def need to reevaluate your relaionship with her. It sucks you may lose a friend but its not the end of the world for pics and etc...As long as you guys look good and happy dont worry about everything else.... The wedding is about you and your FH`s love for each other...Nothing more

Thank you! That is sweet of you! It sucks because venting to FH gets nowhere because he wants to be the problem solver and call her and hash it out! Which I am strongly against!

So sorry this happened a month before your wedding. I don't know why some "friends" get in selfish mode for someone else's wedding..maybe on one hand she's a little jealous that you're getting married and her BF hasn't even proposed, how does she know he's going to?

As for the even numbers, just leave it, your pictures will be fine.

Nikki, I am so sorry you have to deal with this right now. And so close to your wedding. Like you, I understand she can do whatever she wants with her dress, however, even for an exchange, she had to have returned it shortly after she purchased it.

As far as the even number, if you're able to get someone great. If not, your pictures will still look beautiful.

ETA: This "friend" was very selfish to just leave without so much as an apology. Her actions were deplorable and inexcusable.

Wow that really sucks of her. I would be super mad too!

I wouldn't worry about replacing her. I have a really uneven bridal party and I think it would look more weird for you have a random girl in the pictures than just the people who you know and support you.