Bridesmaids All Different Shapes & Sizes...Advice

I picked a designer and color and let them all pick out the dress they wanted, as long as it was chiffon and long. And they look great!

On the flip side...my girls are all different shapes/sizes as well and they're all wearing the same dress. It looks good on all of them.

I've had friends that have picked a material (chiffon) and color (light blue) and maybe given the girls some ideas and let them pick their own dress. That way they all kind of match, but can wear whatever style they're comfortable in.

I gave mine the option to choose whatever they wanted in the colour, fabric and length I chose. We all went together as I did want to see the dress before they decided on it. However they decided they wanted to wear the same style, we found one that looked great on everyone. My bridesmaids range from about 5'10 and size 2 to 5'4 and size 12/14. All different body shapes.

I gave them a vague color - dark green and length - longer than tea and they picked whatever they want. At the risk of being that bride who shows her pics all of the time, I think it turned out well

Yea I would suggest going somewhere together and you picking the color or colors, designer, and fabric and letting each girl choose a dress

I gave my girls a color and let them pick their own dresses. They looked gorgeous. I'm in a wedding this summer where the bride sent everyone 5 color swatches and told us to pick our own. As a lady with an odd body shape, I effing hate it when people insist I have to wear something. Be kind to your bridesmaids. These are the women you love more than anyone else, let them pick their own dresses.

I did convertible maxi dresses. Everyone is so happy!! And they were very afforable

I'm some what in the same boat, don't know whether everyone should be the same color or not. I know they won't be in the same dress due to different shapes and sizes.

But don't you want the day at the bridal store where all the girls get to try on dresses so you can visually understand what looks good on who?? Plus isn't that a fun day, supposed to be low stress?? I want more of those. Fun days!! Finding a venue for me has been super stressful!

Good luck. Hope you figure out what you're going to do! Remember it's what you want, suggestions are always appreciated but not always followed. ?

I would give them some guidelines (like a color swatch, and/or length, material, designer etc) and ask them to run it by you before purchasing. But otherwise let them handle it. That way they can all find a dress they're comfortable with, in their budget, but you still have some creative control. Go shopping with them one-on-one if you want to. Trying to go dress shopping with six girls at once sounds like a bigger headache than it's worth anyway.

@maltese and @valarie I did not know that some people do this. I was kind of surprised when my BM told me this. This makes it feel not so awkward.

@maltese how many BM's do you have?

@beth I can believe it. I just saw Candace BAM and all of her bridesmaid were different body types, had on the same dress and looked great.

@katy okay. Thanks!

@lisa that's how I feel. I think I would definitely want to see the dress before they decide to purchase.

I let them pick out their dresses, too. They all were the same color, length, and fabric. But other than that, they are unique. I like it this way, personally. I hate when bridesmaids are all made up to look the same. They are people, not robots. They each have a personality and a unique body type, and I like when they get to express that.

Just my two cents.

I had the same problem. I have 8 girls and they vary from 5'10 model thin to 5'1'' huge tatas. (haha). I sent them pics of dresses and asked them what they thought. They all agreed on one and we went to try it on and hated it. I was then in the boat of pick whatever you want as long as its the same color/ material. Ironically they found a dress that looks awesome on all of them. It helps to all go shopping on the same day and have everyone try it on. You will be surprised, I bet you can find a dress that looks good on everyone. If not just let them pick. I really just wanted my girls to be comfortable and happy. I stopped caring about them matching.

Whatever you do, don't jump the gun on bridesmaid dresses. Don't pick one dress just to accommodate any "larger" girls. I picked a midlength, one shoulder chiffon dress for my girls, each in a different fall color. I picked this dress so the bigger bridesmaid wouldn't feel so self-conscious. I didn't care at first, I did it early on in the planning.

Then, once I get into planning, and seeing how hard it is to plan around a bunch of completely different colors, and realizing that I actually hate this dress, and doesn't go along with my lace/vintage/rustic style, I carefully approached my BMs and asked if they would hate me if I changed the dress.

Luckily they were all like "OMG YES IT WAS SO UGLY." So we went to DB, and EVEN LUCKIER, they allowed us to exchange the dresses for a one shoulder lace dress, all in the same color--plum. Will look great with my orange lilies.

Tldr; don't let the weird body types distract you from what you really want. Follow your heart. lol. My cousin took the girls to Kohl's and got a really cute lace BM dress for $30, and they had different body types. Think outside of the box. They can still match in a budget.

My BMs are all different shapes/sizes, and they couldn't agree on a dress. So I just told them to pick whatever they want to wear as long as it's navy and have gold accessories. I just want them to be comfortable and not have to break the bank on something they won't wear again. This way, they can wear the dresses again (it's not a super formal wedding).

@emmy yes, you all look fab. Turned out great.

@buttons125 Thanks!

@lady o. Thank you!!

@brit12 that is definitely an idea. To go to the bridal store and have the BM's try on dresses. Did you do that?

@sara thank you. you are right. dress shopping with 6 girls may be too much. One on one sounds fun.

That's a good idea. I'd think most BM would send you a picture before they decided too.

My 5 bm's range in size. The spread is size 2-20! I did want them all in the same dress but did consider doing different dresses the same color! Figured we'd try to find something they all liked first! So, we made a shopping date and surprisingly found a dress they all loved! My larger bm was amazed at how sexy she felt in it! All have said they will wear the dress again! It flattered everyone! And the corset back had them all drooling! It surely won't hurt to try to find something everyone looks good in. Best of luck!

Thank you ladies! Especially like the advice that BM's are your BM's for a reason and be kind them. I also like the advice that all of them are unique and different and express themselves differently. You all are sooo helpful.

@Kyra I went one on one at first. It was a disaster. It was non stop and so hard because one girl liked one and then the next tried it on and hated it so back to the beginning. I ended up going with 6 (2 couldn't make it). And it was great. No one was overly picky and I let them pick out dresses and try them on themselves. I literally sat in a chair and let them go at it. I told them I wanted them to pick what they liked because I wasn't crazy about any particular dress. It took about 45 minutes to find a dress and it was way easier to just be done with it. Then we went out to eat and have some drinks. Treat them if you can, makes them feel like you truly appreciate the effort they are putting in.