Help guys!! My sister is one of my bridesmaids & said she wants her 6 year old son to sit at the head table with the rest of the bridesmaids & groomsmen. I want to please her but I dont know if that would be strange. I have a kids table but she is afraid that he wont eat well without her...
Help guys!! My sister is one of my bridesmaids & said she wants her 6 year old son to sit at the head table with the rest of the bridesmaids & groomsmen. I want to please her but I dont know if that would be strange.
I have a kids table but she is afraid that he wont eat well without her supervision. I offered that he can sit with my mom but I cant fully decide.
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Well glad to help 😊 Nice to know i am not the only bride who is super done trying to please everyone. Of all people you or I or any bride should not have to worry about pleasing everyone on what is "supposed to be our day" as hard as it is we have to stick up for ourselves and tell them "NOPE!" We always try to please everyone as women anyway so this is the day we get to make ourselves and our partners happy.
I was having trouble with this since both my flower girl's parents are in our wedding as best man and bridesmaid. I talked it over with them and they said while the flower girl would probably prefer to sit at the head table with all of us, she is smart enough to understand its and adult table and she will sit with her grandparents instead.
I would have her son sit with your mom, as he sounds younger and might be fussy which will put a damper on your big day.
Im having a sweetheart table for this reason & reserved tables for the wedding party to sit with their significant other and their kids. 3 out of 4 of my bridesmaids have kids and if I were them I would also want to sit with my child.
Guest comfort is more important than how a table will look. No one will even notice or care if the child is sitting at the bridal party table with his mother. If your sister is concerned about her son being comfortable and eating well then there is a very good chance she will end up sitting at the same table as him anyway, no matter what table he is assigned to.
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I’m not even a mom and I agree with this. Kids should be sitting with their parents. It seems like you already know what you want to do about your nephew and sister but just want this thread to back up your decision. I personally don’t see why it’s a big deal if your own sister is simply asking you and your nephew is your family plus you won’t even be at that table. As a family member, I personally would just accommodate my sisters needs. I wouldn’t have my nephew sitting away from her. It’s a small request. either sit him with her or with your mom. Who is still family but an adult. A small request of your bridal party or guests shouldn’t be an issue , or seeming like “you’re just pleasing everyone”. But that’s just my opinion.
Everyone’s going to have an opinion on this but only you know the family dynamics there. My sister in law refused to be separated from her kid and we had a head table with our bridal party (she was a bridesmaid). So I just put her and the kid at a table with the rest of the family. Problem solved. The rest of the bridal party sat with us and their significant others were all at a table together. No one complained, there was too much alcohol to be had anyway 😂
My husband and I had two year old son of our own. I was worried he wouldn’t eat if he wasn’t with us. But we thought it would be weird for him to seat up there with us. So instead we put him with his grandparents. He eat some there and then occasionally during the dinner he would want us and we let him set on our laps and eat with us.
So, from my personal experience I would recommend you have her son set with the grandparents and if there a problem say it’s fine for the son to join her at the table if the problem comes up. For us, our son most fine eating at grandparents table which was right near the near table and only towards the end did he need to join us. So in short, plan for her son to sit with grandparents but he open to the possibility her son may need to come up to her.
I would give sister the choice of sitting with her kid at grandma's family (if grandma is OK) Please don't foist a 6 YO on the rest of the wedding party. Yes, you want to accommodate guest, but ALL guests not just the ones with kids. I would never put kids at a table where there are adults without kids. I don't want to get stuck at an adult function with kids.
I wrote a longer reply to the bride, but the short answers are 1) you don't know she wants them there so much she feels like she has to have them there and most importantly 2) contrary to popular belief not every event needs/should have children at it, especially children 12 and under. After all the whole reason why we are even having this discussion is because she can't figure out how best to accommodate small children at her wedding. If they're not there then it's handled evenly, fairly, and effectively.