Bridesmaid wants her son at head table

View Quoted Comment So what you are saying is I shouldn't have a kids table?

View Quoted Comment Yes girl! totally what I'm talking about. That's definitely what I was thinking & I am now going that direction even more. Some people make it seem like the kid is gonna die without his mom & its family so then can all hangout.

View Quoted Comment Yes this sounds perfect!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Emily! Yes totally agree

View Quoted Comment Exactly. Plus you aren’t sitting long - you sit eat and get up lol do what YOU want if you put every one else’s needs, wants, etc first then you won’t have the day you want/deserve. You can’t please everyone. I mean if the child had special needs or if it was for an actually REASON i could see an exception but maybe IF ANYTHING have the kids table closer so the can still be near eachother

If you say yes, it’s possible everyone is gonna start asking for special favors. You have a kid table stick to that.

No one is going to notice if he sits beside his mom. No one is going to gossip about how it "looks." I promise you. Let your nephew sit with his mom/your sister. There's plenty of other things to deal with.

Have him sit with grandma! Dinner is only so long and she'll be back with her son afterwards. 😊

I am not a kids table fan. Especially for younger kids (like a 6 year old). Kids misbehave WAY more if they don't sit by their parents and a lot of kids & parents want to sit together. Obviously if she asked, her son should sit with her. We didn't do a head table, knowing our wedding party wants to sit with their SOs and kids.

As a mom, I really dislike kids tables. Kids are people, too. They shouldn't be banished to some other table, away from their families. I can't imagine showing up to an event and being told that I am purposely being seated away from the people I came with. So if that's not an acceptable thing to do to an adult why do it to a child? And yes, it's just one meal, but I don't understand people who want others to celebrate their own union while splitting guests up from their families.
Families belong together.

I don't understand this at all. Really, I don't. Yes it's your wedding day but at the same time your wedding reception is the first dinner party that you're a host of. As a host you want to be accommodating to your guests. Being a gracious host means that you're responsive to your guest's needs, and wants. I'm not a fan of kid's tables either because in large social situations kids often still need the guidance of their parents. Even 10+ year olds. I had my older nieces sit with their parents at my wedding and my own children sit with me. You're not sitting at the head table. You want to split up a social group for aesthetic purposes. Feels like you're putting looks over what's going to make your guests comfortable and that's just silly.

I would not have a kid at the head table at all. I would maybe get an extra seat at the kids table and have her (or another adult that can supervise) join him there just for the meal to ensure he eats.

Actually, not taking your guests into consideration and worrying about a detail literally no one will notice or care about is rude. But hey, whatever floats your boat.

View Quoted Comment Lol dude that's why I ask for opinions not for calling my wedding planning silly. That's just rude. It's not like I've finalized my decision. Every bride struggles with something but calling their planning silly is pushing boundaries.

View Quoted Comment True Meagan I see your point. Thank you for the input.

View Quoted Comment Great idea thank you. I'll see how it works out.

View Quoted Comment Very true. I see what you are saying. Thank you for your input. I will take this into consideration.

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Well the thing is that you've called several other people who have not been rude rude on this thread rude. I wasn't being rude, putting aesthetics above guest comfort isn't being a good host. Which is silly, you want to be a good host! You won't have a good time yourself if your guests aren't having a good time!

If you have a family member, like your mom, that’s willing to watch him during the dining, I think that’s perfectly acceptable. I’ve never attended a wedding where even the children who were in the wedding day at the head table..

View Quoted Comment Thank you Cristiana. Yes that would be helpful