Bridesmaid wants her son at head table

View Quoted Comment I totally agree.

I agree with everybody else we just have a sweetheart table. We also didnt do assigned seating either that way people can feel comfortable with who they are sitting with

View Quoted Comment Do you have a platted dinner or buffet? I'm having a plated dinner. My catering company prefers that its assigned seating

View Quoted Comment I have a buffet style self serve

View Quoted Comment Oh yeah that'd be easier to not do assigned seating. I thought about not having it assigned but in my case itd probably be best to do it.

If she feels more comfortable having her son next to her, I don't see the harm in letting him sit at the head table. You have a separate sweetheart table so it's not going to affect you much. However, if she has to get up in the middle of dinner or speeches because she thinks she needs to speak to her son for whatever reason, that will affect you.


My daughter is eight and I would not be very happy if she was assigned to a table of children only. With her grandparents fine.. (I offered her a seat at our sweetheart table actually and she would rather sit with her aunt) But there's no way she would be able to sit there quietly and eat well with only children around her..not because she misbehaves often but because she's a child.

View Quoted Comment Yes so they can see who gets what

View Quoted Comment Yeah that's true too. I know mostly all the other parents are okay to have them at the kids table so that cousins can catch up. But they are all older than 10.

No!!! He has to sit at the table with the other kids... he’ll be fine 😃

If you’re having a sweet heart table and won’t be sitting at the head table, I don’t see why he can’t sit at the head table. Maybe he won’t be comfortable around kids he won’t know. It’ll make her more comfortable and him more comfortable. Plus if everyone’s dates will be at the head table, why can’t her son? I don’t think this should be bigger than has to be. Just sit him at the head table with her or with grand parents.

View Quoted Comment He does know the kids its all family. Her only issue is that she doesnt think he will eat well.

View Quoted Comment Oh okay. I don’t see why not letting him sit there unless you just don’t want any kids at the adult table. Maybe ask her first how she feels about him sitting with your mom?

This is your wedding and I think you should have everyone sit where you want them to. If it were my wedding I would sit the little one with one of the parents if she is that concerned about him not eating. If you don't want him to sit at the head table then that is your decision and don't feel bad when you have to say no.

View Quoted Comment Very true. Thank you for that

I think sitting him with your mom is a good compromise. Remember, it’s your wedding!

View Quoted Comment True true. Thank you

View Quoted Comment Plated dinners and assigned seating work with a y seating plan. Very few couples have just the Wedding party at one table these days, mostly because most people hate having their spouse or SO sitting separately from them. When I meet with a bride or groom asking me to be in the WP, I always ask if we will be seated with our SO. Sometime through the years, my SO has not attended a wedding with me. And I am fine on my own. But I absolutely refuse ( and husband now too) to both be there, and one seated with WP, one elsewhere. I would rather not be in wedding party. If you want to have your wedding party and their SO and young kids at just a couple tables, fine. Or spread them around. But you can assign all people to a table ( or a seat), and not segregate wedding party. As long as they put their place card, coded for their meal, in a place card holder in front of their place, it works fine for played service.

Just tell her no.

View Quoted Comment I mean it’s her son, if she wants him to sit with her just put him there. Seems like the simplest solution

View Quoted Comment Wow if it was that simple I wouldn't be posting it on here. I mean cant you agree that we all struggle when planning a wedding. That's why I'm asking for opinions not for negativity ✌