Bridesmaid Meeting

@Ally that's how I'm doing its not demanded the to do list is a a list also question so I get feed bk from what everybody can and cannot do I will help or pay for things they cannot do , but for example if I want heels but someone is like I can't do heels I only like flats ok that's fine I love you but you can seat in the front row cause of the dressed short heels if the long you don't have to do heels

Seriously? You're being a bridezilla. That's rude and fucking insulting. So if someone has a foot issue and can't wear heels they don't make the cut? You're a terrible friend.

Some people can't do heels because of legit medical problems. You're going to kick them out if they can't wear heels?

Where's my mimosa?.....

WAIT. So if someone has a suggestion that is slightly off from your "vision" you're telling them "thanks but you can sit in the front row instead"? Are you serious? You're out of your mind.

I've been a bridesmaid three times. I've been to a bridesmaid meeting never. Of course that was back in the old days before texting and fb. We just picked up the phone and said something like "Are you busy Saturday afternoon? Do you want to come look at dresses?"

This is one of my BMs. She's wearing flats and still looks fucking gorgeous!

Rather than a bridesmaid meeting, I think an English class focusing on sentence structure is needed.

Medical problem is diff but you have ppl that sometimes can do it but just don't want to just to make things hard , I don't understand why anybody that weren't giving me advice on what to include when meeting with them all is even on this post

Wow, if I was part of your bridal party I HOPE you'd kick me out. I don't want to be part of that shit. Let me wear my damn flats if I want to. I feel bad for your bridesmaids.

I didn't have one of those. I introduced them to each other on facebook and we talked about the dress and shoes and that was pretty much it.

However, based on your other comments, I hope this meeting is to let them know you're firing them and sparing them a lot of the pain that would come with standing up for your wedding.

No one is giving you advice because your meeting is bullshit and no one has had one because we know that meetings like this are bullshit.

I think the advice is that a meeting is unnecessary.

At this point you don't need bridesmaids at all. You have no idea what that role means if you're willing to discard them so easily. I would step back and really think on the meaning of having your loved ones and friends stand next to you on your wedding day. You're being incredibly selfish and unreasonable in your demands and expectations. Those ladies deserve better and I pity them you're their friend.

We see red flags everywhere here OP. You are setting yourself up for some major drama later on. That's why we are here.

You're not getting it. It doesn't matter if they vote on the budget those are things that if you're requiring you need to pay for. They can tell you the budget for the dress cuz they're responsible for that. But the hair makeup and nails ect it sounds like they have to have done and if that's the case you need to look at that budget and see if you can afford it not the other way around.

I understand the payment plan piece now - because it's a destination wedding on a ship. Got it.

I would individually talk to them about budget concerns. Talking $$ in a group can be intimidating for people. They'll either agree to anything or get defensive.

I'm going with my bridesmaids next month to looks at dresses. I picked out colors and they will try on and pick a few styles. I sent them each a message this week asking about budget for dresses. I didn't want to go to the store and love the $200 dresses if they're only okay with spending $75. I don't want anyone to feel pressured to spending more than is comfortable for them.

I want everyone in the same shoes this is my wedding y'all do y'all wedding your way please if someone have a foot problem then yeah we can work things out

So what if they don't want to wear heels? They don't even have to have a legit reason, you do not get to force them to do so. And if that's your required stipulation to being a bridesmaid then the meaning of it is lost on you.

Just another post that makes me so thankful for the friends I have!

Who cares if they can wear heels but don't want to? They should be comfortable in what they wear. I can wear heels doesn't mean I want to especially for a wedding where I'll be standing a lot.