Bridesmaid Meeting

"I'm throwing information out there that would be required and if they deny anything that's when they would say no to the proposal" • you just said you required it all, nice try on backpedaling though.

@Ash: what are you talking about? No one is being disagreeable but giving perspective on how things work. OP states that if her BMs disagree with her they don't have to be in her wedding. That is a dictatorship.

OP, during your "meeting" keep in mind that your bridesmaids are your nearest and dearest. Your wedding is one day. Don't allow your attitude/behavior to turn them off to you as a friend. Contrary to popular belief, being a bridezilla is not necessary during wedding planning.

It also implies that if they accept after this "meeting" they're your slaves until the wedding day. What a great way to treat friends....

I think we fully understand what you're doing and are disagreeing with your approach. You do you. Let us know how many bridesmaids don't get kicked out.

Unless you're paying for it, you can't force bridesmaids to get their hair, makeup, nails, toes, eyebrows, etc etc.

They aren't required to help plan or go look at wedding dresses. They don't have to go to tastings or to the florist.

Bachelorette and showers are also extra. It is not required they participate and/or pay for either. It's a nice gift if they do.

The only requirement is they buy the dress, show up, and have pictures taken.

Meetings are for business transactions. You could call it a gathering or get together.

I don't understand brides (not just OP) who expect and demand so much from their friends/family. If they want to participate in these things great BUT it shouldn't be required.

Also, if I handed a list of "to-do's" to my bridesmaids, my friends would probably tell me to have several seats. I would have done the same to my sister, cousin, and friends whom I've been a bridesmaid for.

@ash it's not being disagreeable it's having good taste and manners.

That's the thing I'm not making demands my to do list to them is all vote wise on prices and all I want votes on hair styles dressed shoes etc && yes the lady who tried to be funny I told her that's like I want heels if I do short dressed and flats fine if I do long so stuff I just want and if it's not for you sit in the front row

Please learn the use of periods because I have no idea what you're saying with that giant run on sentence.

Your last post was incoherent. Can you please use proper grammar and punctuation? I have no idea what that said, it looks like gibberish

"If it's not for you sit in the front row".....

Sounds like a great plan. How many seats do you have in the front row? Gotta be prepared.

"I have dress and dress prices heel price hair style prices payment plans and etc to tell everyone and show pictures" • that's a list of demands, sweetheart.

@ Marquita: Are you having a destination wedding? You mentioned something about a travel agent and booking. Is this why they need a payment plan?

You don't sound like anyone I'd want to spend time with. Waaaay too demanding, bossy, and selfish

I'm planning a small meetup for breakfast in a few weeks but my bridal party already pretty much knows one another I'd like them too look. I'm paying for hair,nails, and makeup and no one has been opposed to the idea. They picked their own dress and shoes. As far as duties I'm not giving those out if you want to help then fine if not ok things will still get done.

Not sure why you need a formal meeting but it's your wedding so I'd say run the show as you please.

@A&T1216 yes I'm getting married on a ship and ppl can sail or not sail but I have a payment plan for them and for they dresses I have the deadline and for hair and make up I have two bridesmaid that's will to do payments for ones who would want theirs done I'm not bossy ppl who didn't have a meeting should've went to another post

We're not doing this to be mean to you, but this is not how you go about it. It does sound like a destination wedding. When you propose, instead of making it a "meeting", just be up front with them. "My wedding is a destination wedding, it costs x to get there but my agent can make payment plans. I can understand if you cannot do this, I just would love to have you stand next to me on my big day." You can then discuss individually their budget and what they can/cannot do. If your artist has discount packages, break down the price and OFFER the services, do not demand them. That's how you go about it.

So you're not bossy but telling complete strangers on the internet to go to another post.....

Okayyyyyyyy.......

Ok well I still think you're being highly demanding, but I really wish you would have said that you're having a DW from the beginning because that makes a lot more sense.

So my friend who is getting married in October, I'm in her wedding, and so far we've had two "meetings". The first was at a wine festival where we all met and got drunk. The only wedding talk was hey, these are all my bridesmaids, let's drink! The second one was when we met behind the bride's back to plan her bridal shower. Because we love her. Because she hasn't treated us like glitter covered slaves. Because we want to do something wonderful for her.

This is not how a forum works. And for the love of chocolate and wine use periods in your sentences.