Bridesmaid Invites Guest....

Well it's better than my future MIL, who demanded I "fix the problem" because we did not think she was flying a date in from Florida to Texas with her, and she refused to come to the wedding if she can't bring a date.

If you don't want to be honest just tell her you already have numbers in to your venue/caterer or whatever, and you cannot add anyone else. What I told my FMIL is that we have sent out more invitations than we have room for (which wasn't a lie) and that if everyone RSVP's we won't have room (which also wasn't a lie). We probably WILL have room for her guest, but after how she approached us about it, she can kiss my booty lol.

Have you given your final count to your vendors? Is it a financial reason why you don't want her to have a plus 1? Most weddings I've been to as a single person have always given the option of a plus one. We did so as well for all of our single guests. I think that if she is paying for things like a dress, hair, shoes, make up and other expenses to be in your wedding it would be nice to allow her to bring a date. If it is a financial burden then maybe just suggest she bring her girlfriend to the dance afterwards where there is no cost to adding an extra person.

Hi Jennifer. We have the same wedding date! When I was sending out my invites, I was unsure whether I should offer my maid of honor the option to bring a guest (she doesn't currently have a significant other).

Here is what the other ladies of WW suggested:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/plus-one-question/3a830441901a97ce.html

Well, generally, the answer would be no, but given that this is one of your bridesmaids, who I'm assuming in spending time and money to be at your wedding, I think you can make an exception. You still have over 2 months until your wedding, so I doubt your counts are due, and it's likely you'll have at least 1 decline, so adding the girlfriend shouldn't change the amount you're expecting to pay.

I'd let my BM bring a guest, unless you've already given your final guest count to your caterer or can't afford to add another guest. As Reenski said, she is spending time and money to be at the wedding and it's just polite to allow your WP plus ones.

Yes, it is usually rude for guests to invite another guest. However this isn't just a guest, this is your bridesmaid. It is usually good etiquette to extend a plus 1 to your bridal party members even if you aren't giving plus 1s to other single guests.

What is your reason for not wanting to let her bring her girlfriend? Is it the last minute (even though it's not really last minute)? Is it the length of the relationship? Your bridesmaid obviously sees it lasting for a little while if she is thinking ahead 2 months to your wedding. Is it an actual issue of space and budget? Is it the issue of bringing a girlfriend?

If it were me, I would allow her to bring a guest. As Desiree said, BP members put a lot of time and money into being in a wedding. You should want to make sure that they have a good time and if that means bringing a guest, then I think you should let her.

In general I'm not allowing +1s to single people on my list but I did make an exception for everyone in the wedding party as they are spending money on their attire and other wedding related events for us and obviously if they are in our wedding party they are among the closest to us. I also plan to give that option to my siblings / step siblings but between FH and me that's a lot

I would say if you have space (and someone who said yes will not show up, I can pretty guarantee that) I'd extend her the courtesy.

I would def allow all members of the bridal party plus one's, regardless of their relationship status.

Yeah- I'd just let her bring her gf. My MOH started dating a new guy about 2 months ago or so, so when our invitations went out, I didn't include his name on it (as I hadn't even met him yet) and she called to see if she could see if he could come. I talked to my FH and we figured, NBD. Well, that was a few weeks ago and she's no longer seeing him. So, it ended up being a curtosey I extended to her- no harm, no foul. I'd rather be a good friend than a nazi about the #'s where my nearesty and dearest are concerned. Ya know?

Well, it's your wedding. If you dont want this person there, then you don't have to invite her. I do find it rude when people ask if they can bring someone when you specifically didn't say +1. However, as the other ladies have said, it is nice to offer a plus one to your BP. I am offering my one single friend the plus-1 option but I dont think she will bring anyone. You may want to remind her that she won't know many people and that she will be busy for much of the day with you and the other BMs. She might not want to subject that on her new SO.

My main concern also was that I already invited several more guests than what the venues allows but I knowning that grandparents and out of town people would not be able to make it. I can't be adding more people to the list knowing that my venues cannot accomodate them.

Well, you shouldn't have invited more than the venue can fit -- worst case scenario, before your BMs girlfriend, if everyone had accepted, you'd have a problem. Second, you're not adding "people", you're adding one person. Again, you know everyone can't make it, so having 1 more person there shouldn't be a big deal.

But you know you're BM best, if she's understanding, perhaps you can explain the space issue, and I agree that's it's annoying for people to ask to invite people to your wedding. But this girl is a good enough friend to you to stand with you on a really important day, I still think having 1 person more won't make or break anything.

Normally, even if you don't allow any other guests to bring a plus one, anyone in the bridal party should get a plus one. Bridal party attendants spend a lot of time, money and effort to help make your day special, so paying for a guest for them should be more than fair.

That being said, if you just really don't have the room or money, just be upfront with her. Tell her that, she didn't have a date when you all set your budget and seating chart, so you didn't set aside an extra seat and now, being so close to the wedding, you simply don't have the room. I would offer her, atleast though, that if you get an extra seat between now and final headcounts from someone that can't come, that you let her guest fill that seat.

I would just tell her the count is in and that it might be weird for the girlfriend cause she will just be standing at the side alone.

I think you'll find that you will get some no's and if you're over already, what is one more person?

IMO, BP members should be extended a plus one no matter if they are dating or not. They are special enough to be in the BP so they should be able to bring a date that they see fit. She may not even be with the GF at the time of the wedding, but she will appreciate you were willing to accomodate her in the event she is.

For me, I am not allowing plus 1's unless they have been dating for a significant amount of time... (9 months - 1 year). My family is too large (dad is 1 of 15 kids = 54 1st cousins). If I allow everyone who isn't dating someone a plus 1, then i would be in serious trouble with my guest count. As for my BP, I have 1 BM that is not dating anyone, and told me before hand that she was just fine not getting a plus 1. As she under stood our budget and our guest count would be tight.

Anyways, somethings to consider is does your BM GF, know your family and/or other friends? Will she be uncomfortable sitting with people she may not know? If your BM is busy and can't be with her GF all night, would that be problematic? Are you willing to pay for a guest that your BM, really doesnt even know that well yet??

I always think it's rude when you don't invite a plus one with a bridesmaid. If they do nothing for you I guess it's OK, but mine are throwing me a shower and batchlorette the very least I can do is invite them with a date so they can share the love that day.

We told our bridal party (those who are not already engaged, married or in long term relationships) that as soon as people started to RSVP no that they would be given the choice to bring a plus one, after family.

Its your wedding. If you addressed the invitation properly and left no room for confusion then I would just as politely as possible inform her that due to room size and limitations you cannot allow her to bring a guest as you would then have to extend one to the entire bridal party and that would put you over limits. We are getting married in February and are going through the same thing! Best of luck!