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Jennifer
Just Said Yes September 2012

Bridesmaid Invites Guest....

Jennifer, on July 19, 2012 at 3:11 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 23

I am getting married in September of this year. One of my bridesmaids recently just texted me asking if she can invite her girlfriend (of like 2 weeks) to the wedding. On her wedding invitation, it only says her name on it (because they went out pre-girlfriend). How do I tell her nicely that there...

I am getting married in September of this year. One of my bridesmaids recently just texted me asking if she can invite her girlfriend (of like 2 weeks) to the wedding. On her wedding invitation, it only says her name on it (because they went out pre-girlfriend). How do I tell her nicely that there is a reason that it only says her name on the wedding invitation and that she can't bring her girlfriend?

(I always thought it would be rude to ask the bride & groom if you could bring a guest if the invitation is only address to you - and only you).

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    Master October 2013
    HalloweenBride ·
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    Would you be upset if someone invited your FH to a wedding but said he couldn't bring you while you guys were still dating?

    I've included plus ones in my numbers because single people don't like to go to weddings alone especially if they don't know anyone else.

    However, it is your wedding, your choice, and your budget. It is up to you. I did recently call a friend of work who invited me to a wedding to ask if we could bring FH's child since it is our weekend to have him. Otherwise, I would not go to her wedding. It's just one of those situations where not everybody knows and since she wasn't dating her girlfriend at the time the invitations went out that is probably why she called you. And, at least she called you, and didn't just bring her, she asked, because she wasn't sure.

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  • MyLove&HisMrs.
    VIP November 2014
    MyLove&HisMrs. ·
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    Unfortunately, this is very common. I was in a wedding where the bride gave plus 1 to those in the bridal party who were in long term relationship. One BM started dating someone a month before the wedding and asked if she could have a date. The bride relented and said yes. When we arrived at the reception, the date brought several friends so he would not be alone.

    I say tell her no. It will be difficult, and she will be upset. But let her know that final count was provided and due to budget, you unable to invite anyone else.

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  • MARENA
    November 2020
    MARENA ·
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    I absolutely think that if your asking a friend to be in your wedding and pay for gown ,shoes ,hair and makeup and travel a plus one is a no brainer
    The cost of their dinner is not worth losing a friendship over!
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