Bridesmaid Doesn't Want To Wear Shoe I Picked Out

Why doesn't she want to wear them? Do they hurt her feet? too expensive? or is she just being annoying and not like the style?

Depending on the reason perhaps a compromise can be reached.

Carrie, You and I are on the same page today. : )

Susana...I would ask her the same questions that Carrie suggested. I don't think it is necessary that BMs have the same shoe, but at least the same color. This is mainly because not all shoes feel/fit right for all people wearing them. What if she has wide feet and the shoe doesn't come in a wide?

My daughter was going to ask her BM's to have their shoes dyed(same color but style of choice). However, since they added a sash to the dress, we both thought it was adding an expence, so she just told her BM's to get a silver shoe. Some may have them already and those who have to buy them, at least they can be worn again.

She said she didn't like them and that they would be uncomfortable. I also find it annoying since I had it all planned out and now one person says no. i told her to look up some shoes and show me which ones she likes and I'll approve. Thanks Carrie & Carole!

PS. Carole, I got engaged on your wedding day!! Sweet.

DO you have a picture of the shoes?

I am a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding. My FSIL wants everyone to wear the same shoes. I was turned off at first because we are wearing long dresses so shoes won't even really be seen and I am pretty picky about my shoes... I pretty much NEVER wear heels. I'm not comfortable in them. I have trouble walking in them (I'm a clutz in sneakers...) and I have always been self-conscious about my height, so I hate making myself taller.

The shoe she chose has only a very small heel, which was an okay compromise for me. I'll wear it for the ceremony, hope I don't trip down the aisle, and then change for the reception. However if she would have chosen a higher heel, I would have put my foot down (no pun intended) and said no and been "that bridesmaid." But it didn't come to that.

So find out why she doesn't like the shoe. Is it style, comfort, price? I'm sure there is a compromise that can be made somewhere.

Here's the shoe:

http://www.aldoshoes.com/ca-eng/women/shoes/peep-toe-pumps/85865133-hayth/32

Honestly, I wouldn't wear it either. Although it's a gorgeous shoe, for all the reasons FMRSOhler said, I would also ask that you pick something else. I'm also tall and do not wear heels often, and there's no way I would make it down the aisle alive.

Since her reasoning is that they would be uncomfortable it is probably an issue of the heel height. That is a 5in heel right there which is very high, especially if she doesn't normally wear heels like that. (Also 80 dollars is pricey for a pair of shoes that you don't like and might not wear again if she did get them.)

When I was a bridesmaid in my MOH's wedding. We all went shopping together. The bride would make suggestions as to what she liked then we would make comments. Like, I can't walk in high, pointy heals, not to mention we were going to be walking on cobble stone. When it came down to it, 2 out of three BMs had the same shoe.. and the MOH had a different style made my the same company. It wasn't at all planned like that but worked out.

Yeah, I have great balance and have no trouble with traditional heels, but the new super high ones with platforms under the toe get me every time. If they are wearing nude shoes, then no one will notice if they match or not. (Actually, no one will notice in any color...)

I'm with Mrs. S. I won't want to wear them either. They are really high and quite expensive. I don't think I would even be able to walk in them.

Are the dresses long? If so no one is really going to see their feet anyway. Just let her find a shoes that she likes that is similiar to the ones you picked and go from there.

I wouldn't wear them either. I had 4 inch platforms for our wedding and those suckers didn't last an hour.

Re your engagement.....Congrats! In Vermont, it rained, but it took a break enough to give us a rainbow.

I'm also with pp, I not only wouldn't WANT to wear them, I COULDN'T wear a 5 inch heel..seriously? My ankles would be broke. If the dresses are not long then maybe pic a color and have them pick what they want?

I wanted us all to wear the same shoes cause I thought it would be cute for the pics -- but also I bought them. I sent them pictures of the ones I was thinking of and took into account things like height, comfort, etc (I have a BM with a history of planar fasciitus). I also bought them flip flops for the reception (they're weating short dresses).

I probably wouldn't be thrilled to have to buy an $80 pair of 5in heels either to be honest -- I might suck it up if I was feeling rich

The shoes are gorgeous but I would totally break my neck with a heel that high. By the end of the night my feet would be sore and I'd be cranky. I definitely think that, as long as the color matches the other bridesmaids, she should get to pick different shoes.

Those are a 5.25" heel. If someone doesn't know how to walk in them, they are going to be VERY uncomfortable and they will walk like a newborn giraffe. (not a good look coming down the aisle)

AND they might sprain their ankle trying to walk in them. I can see reasons why she wouldn't feel comfortable wearing them.

It is a nude peep toe. How about letting her wear a shorter heel?

http://www.6pm.com/fitzwell-preston-peep-toe-nude-synthetic-patent

http://www.6pm.com/product/7772920/color/283190

http://www.oneshoethree.com/browse.cfm/pierre-dumas-calista-2-mid-heel-classic-peep-toe/4,315.html

That shoe is HAWTTT They are crazy to not to want to wear those!! I have limited the options i am giving my BM's. Either wear what i have chosen or be a guest at the wedding....

@ Toni-Marie

WANT and CAN are two totally different things.

Well said Hayley. Those suckers would kill me.

Tell her to buy the shoes, and then tell her she can take them off after the ceremony and change into shoes she's more comfortable in.