Bridesmaid complaining her dress shows too much arm

Could she add a shawl?

A shrug? a cardigan?

^i was just about to say that.. or a cute "jacket" type thing

I would like all of my girls to match and I feel that if one is wearing a shall and the others aren't it would look silly. If she wants to put on a shall or cardigan after the ceremony I have no problem with that. I would just like my girls to match while they are at the altar..

Then give all all of them a shrug.

^^^what the crazy cat said^^^^

Shrugs for all.. : )

I mean there isn't much you can do...if you respect her and how she chooses to dress then she wears a shrug period.

I agree with the shrugs. If she is your friend and you love her, you shouldn't have her wear something out of her comfort zone especially if it's WAY out of her comfort zone. I think it's kinda cool she is modest. I can see where you are having the challenge. Good luck!

Agreed shrugs for all

Yep shrugs for everyone.

I can see why she would have a problem with the dress, you mentioned she fully covers her shoulders and this dress does not meet that criteria.

Yeah, that's not coverage, although it's a cute dress.

Has anyone tried it on? I think it could make some body types look like they have wide shoulders too.

It sounds like no one has bought the dress yet so I think it's back to the drawing board. or shrugs.

It's tough to find BM dresses with any kind of sleeve, I know. I'm planning a November wedding in PA. I want my girls to have some kind of sleeve because it's practically winter and COLD.

Is a sleeve like this enough coverage?

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Chiffon-Sweetheart-Short-Dress-with-Cap-Sleeves-F15406_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses

I would think length is less of an issue because it's easy enough to buy it or have it altered so that it hits the knee or slightly below.

Well when she mentioned dress criteria she only stated that she didn't want her ankles or chest showing at all. I figured because she said that, she would let me choose how I wanted my bridesmaid dresses to look. All my girls are telling me that it is my wedding so I shouldn't have to dress everyone according to one bridesmaid.. I agree with them. The dress isn't provocative at all and I find it to be flattering and very modest in modern the day times. If i were asked to be in someones wedding, I would wear what they asked me to as long as the essentials were covered. I guess that is where I am having trouble. I don't want to have to change anything about my day because of other's opinions.. After all, it's my day, right? Ugh. (And a shrug will look silly with the dresses because the back of the dress comes down to a peak that a shrug wouldn't cover)

@We'llAlwaysHaveParis: the shoulders may work but the chest lining is too low for someone like her. That's why I chose the dress I did. Also I'm not a fan of the dress. I've looked at all the dresses on David's Bridal already

No, you wouldn't or at least shouldn't wear anything that contradicts your beliefs. Despite her conversion to Christianity, she clearly abides by some Islamic traditions. And honestly, if she wants her ankles covered, shoulders are a no brainer.

Your dilemma is really simple - friend, or dress.

You have over a year and a half, so you don't need to choose dresses NOW, especially if no one has even tried it on. You also don't HAVE to have all your girls in the same dress -- perhaps they can all match in color/fabric/length instead.

Any which way, this isn't an argument or discussion that you even need to start having before August -- perhaps there will be other dresses than can work for all your ladies.

This is a religious belief (or at least that is how you are presenting it) so no she doesn't have to go against that to be in your wedding. It's not really for you to say what is modest enough.

You have several options:

1- Find another dress

2- Have her wear a shrug/cardi to cover up

3- Have everyone wear a shrug/cardi

4- let everyone have a different dress - but keep the same length, fabric, and color

5- Remove her from the wedding, although not recommended...

I don't know - she may feel with shoulders showing the way some of us would feel on the beach in a string bikini. With thousands of dresses out there, surely there's one that will make everyone happy.

The dress isn't final. I'm aware that I have plenty of time before my wedding. I only posted this to get opinions of what others would do if it all came down to this. I'm thinking I won't be able to get her into anything unless it's some type of little house on the prairie dress, as much as I love her.

My opinion: I'd let all my girls wear different dresses. If she means that much to you, the dress shouldn't matter that much.

DB has a number of jacket styles - including short sleeves - that come in various colors to match their dresses. That would keep the shoulder covering in the same material, color, and formality of the dresses. The girls could wear the jackets in the pictures and at the ceremony, then choose to ditch them or not at the reception. (My friend did this at her July wedding, and it looked very nice.)

Another option - perhaps their seamstresses could add material of the same color to the shoulder area. Not sure how much that would cost, but that way it's just one dress with no additional coverings.

Plus, everything everyone else said!

I especially agree with Mrs. S. You can decide on this dress with no additions/coverings, but be prepared to lose a bridesmaid. There is a difference from just being difficult for no go reason and choosing to follow your beliefs.