Bridal Shower/Bachelorette Guest Lists- Who to Invite??

Make a list of those invited to the wedding the ladies your closest with for family & friends, and FH mother, grandmothers & sisters.

*bump* just curious to hear more advice on this!

For my bachelorette, I just invited ladies that were also invited to the wedding, so friends and female family members (mostly FH's cousins).

For our shower, we had a co-ed friends only shower (I didn't want a girls only bridal shower, and to do it all co-ed would have a guest list of over 60.) But it was only those that were also invited to the wedding. Definitely don't invite anyone to a shower that isn't also invited to the wedding -- it looks gift greedy. The showers I've been to have been close female family members (MOB, FMIL, aunts, sisters/SILs) and close female friends.

Is there a limit on the # of people your sister can host?

The only important thing is that you don't invite anyone to the shower who isn't invited to the wedding. Otherwise, it's totally up to what you feel comfortable with.

My co-workers threw me a shower but that was co-workers only. Bachelorette party had my friends and my sister only.

Yea, I definitely wont invite anyone not invited to the wedding! I know that much Just dont want to insult anyone you know?

Right. When I think about it I've never been invited to B parties or showers unless the bride was my close friend. When we go to H's friends' weddings or if *his* family's, I was never invited to any of those functions. I never thought anything of it.

I wouldn't invite Mom or Auntie to the b party... I'm sure she wont be sad



(unless you two are super close I suppose..)

**true picture. (not me) She's blowing a peepee whistle out of her grandmother's bossum... I couldn't.

I am having a hard time with this too. if i invite all the females that are invites thats still a huge amount for a bridal shower. i think ive narrowed the bachlorette down to bridal party close friends and a few cousins. I've only been to one bachlorette and that was my sisters and only people were invites were either frinds from college and bridal party.

OMG JEN!!! That can't be true :-)

Hahaha Jen! That's crazy! I am thinking of inviting mom to B-party just to keep her included but I cant see her clubbing! So I will make that those close friends I want to party with only and not worry about inviting cousins on both sides etc. I guess bridal shower i will just look it over and see who can be cut- its hard because if I invite one aunt on his side then I need to invite the others (just how they are) but I also dont want them to be upset because they werent invited. Grr. I do have to wait to see wherever we are having it too and how many we can even do.

If you google "Grandma bachelorrette party", it's there... with a description ;P

And Jamie, that is sweet.. but.. keep in mind, you're assuming she won't go clubbing, but she MIGHT... so just prepared to accept the consequences if she says "yes" lol.. my mother would, and I don't think I could handle that.. she got drunk and innapropriate at the wedding, I can't imagine what she'd do at a b party..

Jen, I'm not sure I wanna know why you would google something like that...

On a different note, Jamie, did you find a jeweler?

Because I was curious if elderly ladies would actually attend such a function! Apparently, they do.

Mrs S- thank you for remembering! I have been horribly slacking on that- I have yet to contact the jeweler in VA. Pretty much quoted the same amount by a few people in the area that I have stopped in to check out.

Jen- I honestly wouldnt mind if my mom came. I love her but she is the type to like to sit at home and drink and hates going out so I think she will probably say no. Especially if I say its at a club. But if she wanted to come to the dinner or pregame with us I would like that! haha I can invite her friend too (she's my sisters future MIL)

As far as old ladies go, I guess it depends on what kind of party you are throwing! Clubbing probably wont happen but I guess an at home thing maybe they would!

For my shower I am pretty much inviting all the women that are invited to my wedding. Most are friends, aunts, cousins, etc. I'm also inviting my FH mother, sister, grandmother, sister-in-laws, and favorite aunt. I had to force that list on his because he said no one. Men! Right now my list is about 40 or so people.

For the bachelorette party I'm inviting my close group of friends who I normally hang out with plus his sister. That list is about 10-15.

I personally have had to go to a million bridal showers..so every girl locally that is invited to the wedding is getting invited to my shower. It is finally MY TIME!!!

As for bachelorette party I am inviting the girls who I know will be fun and are close to me! I think my mother and my aunt might secretly show up...my mom hinted something.

I have a huge list of women for my shower as for my bo i dont want one. im not a partier or big on clubs all i want is to go and enjoy dinner and a baseball game i guess you could say i am just a little fuddy duddy but thats me i would be happy ahnging out with my sis and bp watchng movies to be totally honest

LOL!!!!! Jen, that pic is funny! omg! lol

My bridal shower list and bachlorette party list looks totally different. My bridal shower list is close friends and family, and since my family is huge, its around 40 people. (my grandma had 9 kids alone, to give you an idea of how many of us there are and we are all close.) We have a really close family and some people on the Bridal Shower list are FH realitives that Im close to as well. Now for the Bachelorette party, that list is a little different. These girls are my BM and party girls. lol I want to have a great night and a night to remember and somethings I just will not do in front of my Grandma. lol My mom is a different ball game! I love to hang out with her. She is the coolest mom ever! lol