Bridal shower etiquette about gifts that arrive in the mail

Addendum: For the people that are not going to be at the shower, I sent thank you cards right away but I didn't think it was necessary for those that would be present at the shower (and planned on sending them the week of). Please let me know what you would do!

Don't bring them, it is silly. I received some gifts beforehand and didn't bring them.

Just write thank yous as you get them so they're out of the way!

ETA: I sent out thank yous right away, even for those that came to the shower. One less I had to worry about later!

Unless the gift arrived wrapped, I wouldn't bring it with you to the shower. Send a thank you note and try to mention receiving the gift when you see them at the shower

I've had a few gifts arrive at my home, but my mom said not to open them and to bring them to her so she could bring them to the shower, or give them to whoever ordered them to bring.

My MIL wanted me to bring them but I felt that was really impractical. I sent a thank you right away for anything that came more than a week before the shower, and for the two gifts that came the Thursday before my Saturday shower I made sure to thank the guests in person and then I sent a card about a week later.

I've been one to send gifts to a home for a shower and could care less watching the bride open it. I got a thank you card and that was fine by me.

Thank you! Not lugging the gifts around will make the shower day even better.

So for mine, I had gifts sent to my mom and FMIL's addresses (they both live local to us and we find its safer to send packages to them the way our complex is set up.) Both of them brought the gifts to the shower and I think the guests that were present at the shower really appreciated it. To each their own though!

I did the same as above, really. When we'd get something, I'd reach out to whomever gave the gift and ask them if they wanted me to open it now, or if they wanted me to wait until the shower. Most people wanted me to open them. Wrote my thank you notes and sent them the next day. If it were me, I figured, I'd want to know that someone received my gift.

I think your mom is right. Bringing them to the shower is silly. If the person wanted the gift shipped to their house so that they could bring it to the shower, they would have. The fact they sent it to your home address means they didn't want to bring the gift to the shower. Its definitely more & more common that guests send gifts to the bride's home. In many showers today brides are skipping the opening of gifts all together (not that you have to). So send thank you cards (which is an acknowledgement that you received their gift), also thank the guest in person at the shower when you see them, and if you do a thank you announcement at the end of the night thank both those who brought gifts and those who sent it to your home address.

While I know it defaults to your address, it's pretty clear part of the order where it's being shipped. Odds are it was intended to be shipped to you and not brought to the shower. You definitely can ask like other PPs have said. I'm not local (plane ride) so anything we receive is being opened, and a thank you sent immediately. One less thank you to send out after the shower! I just say thanks for xyz, try to include something funny (ex not sure who's messier the dog or FH but the vacuum will definitely help keep it a bay) and end with looking forward to celebrating with you in July.

I heard a nice idea for gifts being sent to the bride. The bride did a power point with pictures of the gifts and who the gift was from on each slide. She had it running at her shower. It is nice to acknowledges gifts in some way at the shower.

I much prefer to buy a shower gift online and have it shipped directly to the bride, this way they don't have to lug it home. I think if someone buys the gift online and ships to them directly intends for it to remain 'outside' the actual shower day. The whole gift opening 'presentation' is a bit outdated if you ask me. Let's just get together and 'shower' the bride with love and good wishes!!