Being vegan at a non vegan wedding

View Quoted Comment "Hey, I'd like to have you over for dinner but I don't have time to deal with your stomach needs. Bring a snack. LOL" I'm assuming you wouldn't d that. Any event you host, including your wedding, should take guest dietary needs into account.

Sorry, I meant “grateful” in my last post, not “gracious”.

I have a vegan guest coming to my wedding that will also be on prep for a body building competition, I plan on asking my caterer if they can accommodate her dietary restrictions just in case but she actually reached out and said she preferred to bring her own food, I'm totally fine with that, I'm also planning on making sure they're okay with her heating her food at the venue!! As a bride, I'm honored that my guests want to spend the day with me, the least I could do is make sure they can eat lol.

View Quoted Comment It was actually super simple to cater to our guests, because they matter to us and we specifically chose a caterer who could handle any dietary restrictions/allergies that came up.

View Quoted Comment This. One of the first questions we asked all of our potential caterers was if they could accomodate dietary restrictions (vegan, gluten free, allergies, etc) they were all able to.
OP, i would make this an issue. Their caterer should be able to make you something. Indicate dairy free on your rsvp card and make sure venue staff is aware of your dietary requirements when you arrive. The amount of stomach issues after not-eating abimal products isn't fun (and I've only done it for the 40 days of Great Lent and Holy week! I cant imagine after doing it long term!). If the bride is this nuts and not willing to accomodate allergies and dietary restrictions, I'd seriously consider not going or obnoxiously bringing my own food. To me accomodating this is just hosting 101.

View Quoted Comment Yes, agree that is that was so easy and worthwhile to host our guests well and feed them properly. A couple of phone calls was really all it took to ensure our guests weren't stuck with a plate of salad. Guests at all 4 daughrers weddings were well hosted.

I've been in your shoes. I don't ever expect food when I go to events because no matter how many times my family asks me what I can and cant eat they dont remember. Try to eat before and ask if there will be fruit or veggies available. I've even gone as far as to bring some clif bars(most of them are vegan!) In my purse.

That sucks of the bride and groom though. I do think that’s rude after you went out of your way to call them to tell them you are a vegan. My caterer was awesome and had planned a vegan meal 🥘 ( I had one guest that is a vegan, she couldn’t attend either) but I was happy to accommodate the one person who was a vegan. I don’t really think it’s the couple’s job to cater to everyone’s fad diet. That said food allergies need to be disclosed because no one wants their guest to die. But I do think it sucks that the bride wouldn’t even ask her caterer if something could be repaired.

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Exactly, just bring your own food or eat before you come, its that simple.

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There is a difference between dietary restrictions and food allergies vs. just choosing to be a vegan or gluten free just because its trendy

View Quoted Comment Who are you to decide why someone is a vegan? I know people that went vegan to handle medical issues they were having. If they ingest any kind of animal product, it sends their digestive tract into a tailspin and they wind up very ill.

View Quoted Comment Not talking about being trendy. Most people committed to a vegetarian or vegan diet have valid reasons to do so, such as specific health concerns, religious requirements, or ethical principles. The OP falls into these reasons, and even if she didn't it's still rude and disrespectful to not provide appropriate food for your invited guests. It doesn't matter what the event is. Providing a filling, tasty, vegan meal isn't difficult

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Actually it is a dietary restriction. She is choosing to restrict animal products from her diet. You may not agree with it but some people are very passionate about this.

That being said not all caterers will accommodate with a separate meal. Choosing a restrictive diet means sometimes coming prepared by eating a big meal beforehand and bringing your own snacks. I have a friend who is planning their reception and they know someone who is vegan and their caterer will only allow 3 meal options no exceptions so there will not be a vegan option. They explained this to their friend and their friend is going to come having already eaten and bringing snacks.

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Not everyone can afford a caterer that can have an option for all possible dietary restrictions. Those with dietary restrictions whether an allergy or voluntary know that the world will not always be accommodating. It's called eat before you go and bring snacks. Does it suck? Sure. But it's reality. My aunt can eat maybe 6 things and does not expect that everywhere she goes they will be able to change the menu to accommodate her. She comes prepared. If she was able to come to our wedding in Vegas she'd come prepared as she knows she can't eat anything from the taco bar. It's just safer for her to not eat any meals not prepared by her or family as it could make her really sick if the wrong things contaminate her food. Sadly she's got health issues that make it hard for her to fly so she won't be attending.

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That would be considered a dietary restriction. Im referring to those who literally become vegan or gluten free just because its trendy and there are a lot out there.

View Quoted Comment It's inconsiderate. I'm sorry that your aunt has had to deal with so many rude people. The cost of accommodating dietary needs should be budgeted for, and the vast majority of needs aren't expensive to handle. If a caterer can't handle it then contract with restaurants that can. A takeout meal from a vegan restaurant would be an option

View Quoted Comment But how would you judge the validity of your guests’ restrictions? When they put vegan are you going to call and ask if they need to be vegan or if they just thought it was cool?

On your RSVP card, I would just indicate that you are a vegan. That will allow the couple to work with their caterer to figure out options. I'm guessing the caterer can handle this as being vegan isn't that unusual. It's had to come up before! I guess as a last resort put a few snacks in your purse just in a case, but really it's can't be that hard for the caterer to have a vegan option.

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Im close with all my guests so I know who has the restrictions. Im not putting an option on my invite. I already know the people i need to accommodate. My aunt and her family claim they are gluten free but other times they have no problem eating non gluten free products, so im not letting her pick and choose. I know who needs it and who doesnt. neither she or her family is allergic to gluten. She just like being difficult and shes lucky im even inviting her, i cant stand shes the most ignorant person, ever, im only inviting her so my grandma and dad don't get upset. The times she actually gives a gift whether its for a graduation, birthday, shower or wedding she gives a coupon or free voice lessons. When i was little sher boyfriend worked at mcdonalds so she would give us happy meals for gifts.

View Quoted Comment Being vegan is much more of a commitment than most realize. Also depending on where you live, maybe it might seem more “trendy,” but here in Seattle it is very standard for most caterers to offer. It’s very very common in this area and my guests pretty much assume there will be a vegan option at all events/dinners/weddings. It’s not people wanting to be “difficult” to me. And even if they were, they’re my guests and I’m paying for them to have a wonderful experience.