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Katherine
Dedicated September 2016

Bad luck to take the Groom Dress Shopping?

Katherine, on July 30, 2015 at 2:29 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 27

I'm currently debating with my coworkers. I am going dress shopping with my MOH this Friday and am planning on taking my FH with me. I don't feel like there is any issue with that. However, both of my coworkers say that it would be bad luck. Not only that, they are also saying that it would take all the fun out of the big reveal.

I don't agree with them. I'm the type of person who gets super excited and would want to show off my dress to him. I don't like keeping anything from him. I would end up showing him before the wedding anyways.

What are your opinion ladies? To take my FH or not?

27 Comments

Latest activity by Kate, on July 30, 2015 at 4:51 PM
  • SoonToBeMrsD
    Devoted February 2016
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    I've seen it go both ways. I think it's a personal preference. If you really want him there and if he WANTS to be there, then go for it Smiley smile

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  • CJ
    Expert October 2015
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    I don't believe in luck, so I am probably a bad person to ask haha I left the option up to my FH. If he wanted to see the dress or come with, he could. His choice is to see me in my dress as I am walking down the aisle. He doesn't want to do a first look, he doesn't even want to know my dress style. But that is all his option.

    It is totally personal preference in my opinion. Smiley smile

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  • ConcreteWife
    Expert September 2015
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    Eh, you don't have to go by traditions and superstitions if you don't want to. Personally, those old wives tales mean nothing to me, and are kind of impractical when a couple lives together in a small place, anyway.

    I showed FH my dress so he could figure out which color tie he needed to buy (my dress is not all white). Shrug. However, it was purchased without his input.

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  • Jersey
    Master November 2016
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    I don't believe in the luck stuff.. If I did, then I'm breaking all sorts of rules, sleeping with FH the night before, seeing him before the ceremony, etc... Honestly, I think you should do what you want. It's personal opinion, not luck.

    I'm not sure what I'll end up doing. After going dress shopping, i wanted to share it with my FH because it felt weird to not share an experience with him. I didn't find my dress so I showed him pictures of some of the horrible dresses I tried on lol we had a good laugh... FH isn't coming dress shopping but I'm not sure f I'll show him pictures.

    But I'll be honest, most dress shops aren't going to want him to be there. (Not that that should matter, but just be prepared for it)

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    What happens in your life is related to the choices you and your spouse have made -- good, bad, or indifferent. Luck has nothing to do with it. Luck is random -- like just missing being involved in a fatal car accident or winning the lottery. If your friends are suggesting that you're starting your marriage off on a bad foot if your FH is with you when you are shopping for a wedding gown, they really need to get a grip on cause and effect.

    The only thing that will happen is that he will see your gown before your wedding day. Many men love the big reveal. I wouldn't suggest it because I think it does take away from that once in a lifetime moment. Besides, he'll be giving you input on your gown -- and that input may be completely contrary to your opinion. This is your day to shine, and you need to select a gown that makes you feel more beautiful than you have ever felt before. That's part if the bridal experience. I'm not a fan of a spouse giving a bride input on her gown, but that's me. I always remember what my husband said he felt when he saw me walking down the aisle -- he could barely take it in. All of it -- the entire look -- blew him away. The element of surprise is never underrated when it comes to the bride finally making her entrance. However, if you decide that taking him with you is what you want, it will have absolutely NO influence on your marriage or life together.

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  • Katherine
    Dedicated September 2016
    Katherine ·
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    He actually doesn't like surprises much. I agree about not showing him the whole thing (the veil, the makeup, the hair, the flowers, etc.) until the day of.

    I wanted to see want the opinions of everyone was! Thanks for commenting guys!

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  • Jess
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    I didn't take DH with me, but I showed him the dress I was looking at before I went and showed him pictures of me in it. There's a huge difference between seeing you in the sample and seeing it properly fitted on the big day with hair, makeup, etc. He still cried when he saw me!

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  • Botty
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    I do believe in luck and jinxing and all that stuff (ok, not really, but I have fun doing all the little things for good luck) but I definitely don't think having your FI see your dress before is bad luck! It doesn't matter if it's tradition if you feel you want it a certain way. Truth is it really doesn't affect anybody either so this is just a decision for you guys.

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  • FutureMrs.G
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    My FH has actually begged to see me in a wedding dress (something I was absolutely NOT expecting from him at all), but I've refrained and I am actually enjoying it. It's building anticipation on both of our parts for when I do finally pick a dress and get to do the big reveal on the wedding day. I'm partial to the big reveal, but to each her own!

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  • Sarah195
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    I don't necessarily believe in the whole superstition behind it but I don't want my FH to see my dress at all before I'm walking down that aisle. It's one tradition I would like to keep because I just really like it! I find it weird when I see FH's at bridal salons helping the bride shop for her gown. I think it should be a surprise! But to each their own I guess!

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  • Janeen
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    I don't believe in luck. My husband saw pictures of me in my dress, but as Jess has said, there's a big difference on the wedding day.

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  • Jennifer
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    I personally am letting him wait until the first look. Nothing to do with luck really, I just want to surprise him.

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  • FutureMrs.DCT
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    I took FH dress shopping with me. I was able to get his opinion on what he thought looked best on me. In the end he was not with me when I picked out my dress.

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  • Mrs. Batog-Huffman
    Master February 2016
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    I went shopping a total of 6 different times. Of those times, I took FW twice and she was able to see the style of dress I was looking at. When I went for the last time, I asked FW and she said she didn't want to go. She isn't real big on surprises either but she is happy knowing sort of what it looks like. She just didn't want to know the final pick, she knows it was between 3-4 dresses.

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  • Canadianmummy
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    It's the one dress he can wait to see on the day, leave a little bit of surprise...him seeing his wife for the first time in a wedding dress, on the day!

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  • LizzyC
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    I don't believe in the superstition but the excitement of the "big reveal" is something we are both looking forward to! I'm sure most ladies on here don't like keeping anything from their SO, myself included, and every time I look at pictures on my phone I want to show him soooo bad. This is different though, I'm excited to wait for the wedding day! But hey, who cares what everyone else is doing. If you want him there, he wants to be there, bring him! Just expect side eye from the consultants lol

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  • FutureMrsBrbr
    Master September 2016
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    I don't believe the bad luck thing but here is my expereince so far. I brought FH to come see me in some dresses as I really wanted his opinion on what he likes. It was fun and I did get some ideas on what I should stay away from and what he really likes which thankfully is on par with what I like. What I regret is that my favorite dress to date is one he has already seen Smiley sad I am still going to look around because I want to find something he hasn't seen me in... if that doesn't matter to you then by all means bring him along, but I personally want him to be a bit surprised when he sees me walk down the aisle.

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  • MrsA
    Master October 2015
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    Personal preference. Superstitions are only that.

    I want to stay with my FH the night before and have an early breakfast with him the day of the wedding before we get busy with the day. My FMIL is having a fit!

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  • EatKnitRun
    Master May 2016
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    I don't think it's bad luck, but I want him to be surprised. That said, it is really hard to not share something so exciting with him. I also understand wanting his opinion. Before I started shopping I showed him some pictures and we watched some SYTTD together. I asked him if there was anything he really hated in wedding or formal dresses. There were a few styles he didn't like, so I'm trying to avoid them, but of course it will be my decision Smiley smile

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  • Canadianmummy
    Devoted August 2015
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    I like my FH opinion on things but it's never been on anything I want to wear and especially was my full decision on my dress, as its me wearing it. I told him he can wear whatever he wants.

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