Bachelorette party disaster

I'm sorry it didn't go the way you wanted it to. I would never leave the bride alone in the room on her bachelorette weekend. That's just crazy to me. You should have just picked a side and gone out. Sitting in the room sulking didn't help anything.

IMO, multi day or destination bachelorette parties are excessive. They involve time and money, and these people are already investing time and money into coming to your wedding. People should not be expected to focus on you and only you for an entire weekend. It was their vacation too, and they should be allowed to enjoy it. I'm sorry that your vacation did not go the way you hoped it would, but it's behind you and the best thing to do is focus on having an amazing wedding.

So why didn't you go out? I'm sure there were 2 keys, you could've met up with a group and hung out with them. I don't see why someone had to stay in the room if people had room keys or even one room key. That's what cell phones are for.

It's not that I wanted everyone to do what I wanted to do. I'm a go with the flow kinda girl. But I also didn't want 4 of the girls locked out of the room either.

There were more than four people staying in one room with only one key?

That's a lot to take. I'd need to peel off from a large groups that I was spending all day and all night with too.

@faithd_2017 we stayed at an air bnb so there was only 1 key.

Are they not adults? Can they not get their own key?

I'm not understanding.

ETA - I saw the AIRBNB comment, so i revise my question. Do they not have a cell phone?

This is why I think destination bachelorette parties are selfish. You're spending all this money and time and brides to be justify it as a fun vacation. Except it's not a fun vacation. God forbid you take a few hours to do something you want to do when you should be celebrating the bride. Some vacation.

Why didn't anyone go down to the front desk and get extra keys made? I don't understand this.

I feel like a lot of this could have been resolved by simply asking reception for more keys, this way everyone (including yourself!) could have explored and enjoyed Miami in the way they wanted to.

ETA: I just saw you said it was an AirBnB. In which case, obviously no reception. I just feel like communication could have been used to ensure that everyone somehow ends up in the house without you having to house sit. You could have gone with one of the groups and the others could have arranged to come home around the same time or after.

Again, like I said if there was one key, anyone could text/call the person who has the key and say they needed it because they were going back to the room. It's that easy. Then no one would be locked out.

I'm sorry that your friends disappointed you. Think about this your big day is coming up and then it'll be all about you and your FH

Yeah i'm confused why this was an issue. if they chose to go out on their own, it should have been on them to coordinate getting back into the room.

It's a shame that you are feeling badly about how things tuned out, but when it comes down to it this one is on you. You shouldn't have been pressuring anyone to be glued to you 24/7. If your MOH wanted to go do her own thing for a while, she can. Just because the trip was organized around a party for your wedding doesn't mean everyone who attends has to spend every last minute fawning over you.

And why did you stay in the room alone and pout? Why wouldn't the other people just use their own keys to get into the room(s)? That part makes no sense.

ETA: Ok, if it was an AirBnB, how did you get the key in the first place? Usually there is a key box somewhere with a code. Why not just put the key back in there and text the code to everybody? It still makes zero sense that you would "have" to just sit there and sulk alone.

Was this house in a shady part of town? I would have just left the door unlocked and went out with my friends. I would have started off by not letting my MOH invite her friend along. Did you even know this friend of hers before your party?

Your expectations were all out of whack here. My sister coordinates a couple's trip every year at the beach. We all stay in a big rental home, have meals together, and hang out. But we all branch off from one another during the day as well. You can't expect a group of adults to be around each other every waking moment of a weekend long trip. Someone will end up bored/irritated/pissy. You chose to stay in the room and sulk because they weren't up your crack all weekend instead of making the best out of it.

If I am going to a bachelorette party, I would not for a second let the bride stay by herself in a room while everyone else goes out. I get that destination bachelorettes are excessive but every bachelorette I have been a part of, we (bridesmaids or friends) planned everything together ahead of time and there would be no point where we would just separate and do our own thing and leave the bride behind.

Was there a hot tub? I would have been there, relaxing my butt off!

I didn't plan this trip. They decided to put this trip together and I'm grateful for that. Never said they had to celebrate me but at the same time it was either go out with my cousin and her friend and have the other girls locked out for a few hrs or stay and let them in. I chose to be decent and let them in the house. But I get what y'all are saying so I will let it go.

Why couldn't you have just left the door unlocked? Break ins, though they seem common, are really not. There is nothing you can do about this now but change your attitude about the situation and focus on the good parts of the trip and look forward to you wedding day.