Bachelorette party disaster

I like how you come here for support and to vent, yet some of commenters can make you feel like even more crap. I'm sorry that your party weekend wasn't as you hoped for and you felt left out or stressed.

And I'm even more sorry how SOME of these commenters have nothing positive for you to hear.

At least you get to be with the FH now! Keep your chin up!

I would of been mad too. But that's what happen when your with a group of women.I would of made my last in Miami a night to remember by myself.

It's so sad...despite the fact that the OPs attendants paid a pretty penny to attend what she calls a "vacation", the bride-to-be was not happy on the last day of her "vacation"/bachelorette party. Newsflash -- this is not a support group (that's a common misconception), and it's never been advertised as such. Nobody made her feel like crap. She posted because she was already feeling that way. She was given the truth...nothing more, nothing less.

No man or woman should post a thread and expect to be coddled by the members of this community just because they're getting married -- despite their unrealistic expectations or questionable wedding plans. Wedding support groups should be formed by people who complain about this forum's judgmental approach. If that's your life's calling, knock yourself out (you'll be tired of hearing the moaning and complaining in less than three months -- I guarantee it -- whether they're asking for ways to tell their guests they want their money -- not their gifts, because they "already have everything they could ever want", or asking for ways to make it acceptable for expense laden guests to pony up even more money on the day of the wedding for the horrible cash bar the couple wants their guests to use, but won't pay for, or why Taco Bell or Aunt Jean's crockpot chili or Grandma's mystery meat loaf isn't wedding fare. Go ahead, coddle them...for as long as you can.

How about supporting the "I want my guests to bring their own chairs, because it will cost us $500 to rent them, but this is our day, and I want my expensive shoes or my reception dress."? How about supporting, "One family member is a drunk, and while we've invited him and 192 other people, we just can't serve alcohol because we don't how this one family member might ruin our wedding."? Go for it. Good luck.

In the meantime, here's an update: This is a wedding planning site, not Dr. Phil's "soft place to fall".

To the posters who are saying, but my bridal party planned my destination bachelorette party. I have no say in it. Bullshit you don't. At SOME point you can say, please no destination bachelorette parties. It's too much to ask of people. I don't believe that anyone would plan a multi day party where everyone would have to travel and you literally would have no idea about it until you stepped off the plane. And i don't buy that anyone would be horribly disappointed if they tried to throw ypu a destination bachelorette party and you said you'd prefer something less lavish. Your friends want to make you happy. Nobody is going to be disappointed because they missed out on the chance to throw down a few thousand dollars on you because you prefer a dinner out at home or a local night out.

I kind of think the whole concept of a bachelorette party is a joke -- especially destination parties. My girls and I are going to Watch Hill for a day at the beach and sandwiches in the town. Low key. Less chance of drama. And I'm a quick drive home.

I would never go out partying and leave the honoree alone in a house. Sounds pretty selfish on their parts. Even if the groups did get split, someone should've been with you.

Dear OP - first of all, I am really sorry about your job situation. I hope you get to keep it, because I can only imagine how stressful that can be right before your wedding. All those expenses need to be paid, and unless your FH makes good money, it can be very hard for all of that to fall on one person.

Now, your bachelorette party - I went away for my friends bachelor party to Vegas in 2014. Mind you, I wasn't in her bridal party, but she likes me a lot so she invited me with open arms and so I went. We went away for 4 days and it was 12 of us! So you can imagine that's a lot of girls!! I got so tired of being around them 24/7 and so our last night there, me and another girl simply decided to do our own thing. The bride was not offended at all, she was actually laughing the whole time, saying "thank god you guys went off and did your own thing, because I certainly didn't want to go out tonight". She was implying that had we stayed with her at the hotel (her choice) she would've felt bad.

Like everyone else said - they're there to celebrate you, but they are not obligated to spend every waking second with you. It's ok. You'll get through this.

Good luck on your wedding day.. it's so exciting!!

I understand that there was only one key and since all the ladies were going to different locations somebody maybe locked out for a couple hours. That doesn't mean that you should've caved in and stayed behind. These are all adults, I'm assuming, they should have known that there was only one key and for you to punish yourself seems ridiculous to me. You should have gone out and enjoyed yourself. Unless, you were more worried about spending money since your job may be laying you off and you're using the key thing as an excuse to stay in and sulk.

Hopeless Romantic,

I like how you come here to white knight and validate, yet some of us can make you see the real situation.

I'm sorry too that her party weekend wasn't as she hoped but showing her how to avoid these pitfalls in the future was our point.

And I'm even more sorry how passive aggressive your comments are because we don't just do what is for you to hear.

This is not a support group, it's a forum. People give their opinion. A lot of posters learn a lot here. Stick around, you may too.