bachelor party.... irritated

I don't think strippers are fun at all. But maybe that roots back to my beliefs. I think it's disgusting and degrading.

It's only degrading to a woman if she feels degraded. If she enjoys it whatevs. But that's the great thing, if one doesn't like strippers, one doesn't have to go visit strippers. Just like with SSM, if you don't like it, don't do it but don't judge those who do.

Not a specific woman, it's degrading to WOMEN.

Some random woman stripping degrades me personally? Sorry no. I disagree. The only things that affect me as a person are things that I personally do.

Ok everyone, CHILL. Mackenzie brang up this situation she is going thru, as a rant. To her strippers are obviously a no-no. I didnt read anywhere in this thread for opinions on whether strippers are nasty, or why they arent degrading. We all know there's women out there who are perfectly fine with it. Good for you. This isnt a thread about that. This is about her FBIL being a D-bag. So let's stick to talking about how to resolve the issue, not go off on strippers are bad/strippers are good arguements.

Nafina- I was thinking the same thing.

Mackenzie- Stick to your guns. Compromise if you need to. That's what we did. I'm good friends with my FH's friends, so of course the subject came up and I told them all no party!! They are all divorced bachelor's now so of course they'd want to go to strip clubs or get strippers. They know to listen to me. LOL

Personally, I would talk to his bother. Then, if your FH want to talk to his brother, he could.

It's not that I don't like strippers I dot mind them, I don't mind going to strip clubs, however I do mind being disrespected by fbil by going against our wishes and bringing them to fh's bachelor party . Strippers aren't a no no in general, just in this particular situation. Geez this post got a little out f control lol thank you everyone though I appreciate the advice.!

Hahaha YOU don't have to be degraded but my opinion is that it is. And yes, they are women. And I don't find their job "unique". My opinion and I'm entitled to it, no need to argue

@Nafina... brought, not brang.

And yes, Mackenzie, like I said before, do what you feel is right. If you're against it and you know he will do it anyway, then there is no reason why the FBIL should even be invited at all!

Mackenzie, I absolutely agree that if you guys said no strippers, there shouldn't be any. I didn't mean to sound as though I meant you should go ahead and allow something you're not comfortable with. I do have a question though, and feel free to tell me it's none of my business. Did he cheat with a stripper who was stripping, or with a girl who happened to also be a stripper? I mean was she working and the lap dance or whatever turned into a naked lap dance, or was it outside of her line of work (not that either is better)?

Well honestly, the girl he cheated with was a stripper that was not working, BUT around the same time he was going to the strip club and was caught lying about it, so I can't be to sure. It makes him sound so bad but I swear he is the sweetest man I've ever met. Looking back on it it's like he was a different person. He actually went to the strip club for a birthday party a few months back and I was completely fine with it. I just can't stress enough that I don't want strippers, and not ordinary strippers, I'm talking girl on girl making out with guys strippers, at his bachelor party a week before we are due to exchange vows. It's just disrespectful, and in all honesty I'm not sure i could walk down the aisle knowing he disrespected me like that, and he understands and respects that.

I'm sure he is a great guy. Otherwise you wouldn't be marrying him. I've never bought the "once a cheater..." thing. I absolutely agree that the brother should respect your wishes. I'm sure your fiance will at least do so.

And I'm glad you know that not all strippers are prostitutes.

Mrs. Simmons...amen girl. For my bachelorette party we went to a shooting range and obliterated some paper targets. For his bachelor party he and some buddies went to a Red Sox game and played a bunch of mini golf. Both of us had a blast. Neither of us involved a naked third party. Obviously, different people have different tastes, but there's plenty of fun to be had out there without strippers, and if it makes you uncomfortable, his first priority should be YOU, not his brother. What his brother does for his jollies is his own business, but there's just something...I don't know, awkward?...about celebrating the fact that you found the woman of your dreams by check out another girl's naked rack.

Have someone else plan the bachelor party girl. If fbil won't listen then just cut out the nonsense at the source. There is no reason to ruin what you and FH have over a guy who can't get past the stereotypical bachelor party fascination.

If you let FBIL plan the party and he does have strippers there can you trust your FH to leave?

@kiley preach it sista! Lol well said

@elizabeth yes I know he would leave, but I would hate for his night to be ruined because his brothers a perv :-(

Gross. I would say maybe do a bachelor/ett party together. my fi doesnt want one a stripper, i just plan on going out drinking

Gross. I would say maybe do a bachelor/ett party together. my fi doesnt want one a stripper, i just plan on going out drinking

Is there anything else your FH is interested in, like hobby-wise, that could be planned around the same time as his bachelor party? i'm not a fan of half-naked women (regardless of how pretty their boobs are) so instead of steering toward that, i've been suggesting to FH to go to a beer festival instead. he loves his craft beers and recently went to one in nashville and absolutely loved it, so he's turned on to the idea. now, FH also went to his friend's bachelor party where they had strippers that took off everything and had guys do shots and stuff off their bodies, which i wasn't happy about :\ and i definitely let him know loud and clear about it. but that's a lot of what the other invited guests wanted to participate in, and i guess that's something that his friend and his now-wife were looking forward to...that's how some people roll and how some people see the best way to spend that last bit of time before getting married, and that's fine. it's really a case by case basis. cont

Does FBIL know why there's an issue with having those particular kinds of strippers at the party? i guess what i'm asking is, is it an issue of the types of strippers or that there will be an insistence on strippers? like, does he assume that all strippers do the same thing or is he looking particularly for the type that will go all the way for the right price? would you be okay having the party at the strip club like your FH did for his birthday party, since you said you were okay with that?