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Savvy October 2022

Are we in the wrong?

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Jacklyn, on September 27, 2021 at 9:26 PM

My fiancé and I booked our venue for May 7, 2022, we recently have decided to push the wedding back to October 28, 2022. A fall wedding was our original plan but because we viewed our venue in spring it made us jump the gun on changing it from fall to spring. Due to certain circumstances besides not really being happy with a Spring wedding we moved it to October, because of this decision his brother and his fiancé are now mad at us because it is 2 weeks before they’re wedding and are saying it interferes with their wedding. We see it as, it’s still in two different months, it will be two TOTAL different weddings, and the guests will still be focused about each couple on they’re actual wedding day. Are we that much in the wrong or is she kinda overreacting? I personally would not care if they were 2 weeks before or after my wedding, when it comes down to the actual day of it will still be about me and my fiancé on whatever day we choose.

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Claire · on February 7, 2022 at 12:12 PM
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Wait did you originally have a fall date picked then change to spring then change back to fall? I understand you originally envisioned a fall wedding but did you pick a date you told people before changing it to spring? Also did you tell your fiancé he was being selfish and unreasonable for being upset about when his brother proposed?

It is your wedding and you guys chose to think about what you wanted and needed before anything else. That is okay. However, you don’t get to control how other people respond to your decisions. You got to choose to change your date, but you absolutely are being unreasonable in thinking people should respond to that decision how you want to (not being mad about it). Couples get to make any choice they want for their day but they are not free from the consequences of those choices (upset relatives, people declining to attend for various reasons).
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Lindsay · on February 12, 2022 at 12:28 AM
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Personally, I don’t think you are in the wrong at all… life happens and if you weren’t happy with it, then that’s a really big deal!
Two of my cousins got engaged (ones been engaged for almost two years now) and all three of us have planned a wedding within a month of each other. (End of September, beginning of October, and ours is on October 21)
I took the stance as these are all the days we picked, if family can’t attend mine because of the other two, then I am totally fine with that. I have set up a virtual viewing so there are no conflicts. But I am more laid back when it comes to this.. I mean heck I’m getting married at the same venue two weeks a part as an old friend and I genuinely want her to have the best day.. I could care less if it’s at the same place.. like you said, we each will have our own day
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Janica · on February 12, 2022 at 9:06 PM
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Hello I don’t think y’all wrong cos me and my fiancé postpone our dream wedding until next year and I did a post about changing the date due to the pandemic we also decided to do a very very small wedding with only our kids and parents and the pastor and then next year our dream wedding in July
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