Are anyone else's friends stealing their wedding ideas?

How frustrating!!!! A friend of mine became engaged before I did, but our wedding will be about 2 weeks before hers. Thankfully we are not that close. I will txt her off and on just to find out how her planning is going and will kind of tell her what we've done. I think our tastes are just different so I'm not worried about her copying us. We are so far ahead of the game and she's just getting started. But I don't mind throwing ideas out there for her.

From here on out, keep the details to yourself.

@jo d.- Well that sucks that her wedding fell through, I have a feeling that my friend's will too. Not for the same reason, just because of the circumstances surrounding her "engagement." Basically as soon as I got engaged she started searching for a man to marry. She met this guy about 3 months later and within 2 weeks told me she wanted to marry him. Next thing I knew they were talking marriage and now she's saying they're engaged and started planning.

@Chelle C.- I think that's a lot of what's bothering me, is that ever since I got engaged she's just been talking about herself and how she wants to get married. And she was singe when I got engaged. Now she's started planning a wedding when she's not even officially engaged yet and every time I mention my wedding, she interrupts to tell me what she wants for hers.

@Angela W.- I have another friend who is also planning her wedding that I'm not very close with anymore either. We talk on facebook about our progress and we have no issues like this at all. She's getting married in October, so I hope I don't have to move mine closer to hers because my MOH is hers too.

I feel the same way though, I don't mind helping my bridesmaid out and giving her ideas because she's just starting to plan, but it seems like everything I'm doing she wants too. I keep trying to give her tips and steer her in a different direction.

Wow, guess I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I don't really think it's a problem. Unless she's going around trying to pass it off like she was the one that came up with these great ideas.

I feel like I basically do the same thing, I just do it with strangers' weddings through the internet. You see something you like in someone else's wedding, and go "yeah, that was a great idea. I think I'll do that too."

Actually, I have a few friends who have been engaged for a while and I hope that my wedding will give them some inspiration for their own. Maybe they can even use some of the items from my centerpieces if they are interested.

I may be a minority here.. but here's the thing... you picked a rather popular "theme"... weddings, in general, are pretty much the same unless you decide to do off the wall ideas that will prove to be original. Lace, silk, Satin, vintage, blue... all of those things are in my wedding too and probably in half of the girls' here. If you are worried about it, stop sharing details with her, but regardless, if you have an amazing wedding, it's likely going to influence her own and I highly doubt, as a friend, she is doing it to spite you. Chances are she'll change her mind over and over again anyway.

S@Rachel l.- She is acting like she came up with all these great ideas on her own. Sharing ideas on here and using something from a stranger's wedding is a little different than trying to plan a wedding nearly identical to one of your best friend's.

@Jen L.- I know vintage, blue, and lace are all popular right now, but I think it's more than a coincidence that she all of a sudden started planning for exactly when I told her we were moving our date to, picked identical shades of blue, the same style dress, vintage, same centerpiece idea, same flatware and dishes, same bridesmaid shoes, same location, and many other things.

Like I said, I don't mind helping her out and giving her some ideas, but to use everything I'm doing is a little bit ridiculous.

I stopped telling people about the details and ideas I had. Its really more so that they'll be surprised on the day...but I would keep some special things secret from this person too.

Thats really a difficult decision. Blue is a really popular color and a lot of people like it. Maybe she just liked yours a lot better after going to the fabric store. I had the similar sistuation the other day. At first I got a little upset, nut then i told myself that there are only so many colors to choose from so it is what it is!