Are Any of Your in-Laws in the Wedding Party?

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That's so cool!!

My husband just has one sibling - and him and his sister are best friends! She's awesome and I became really close with here throughout our very long relationship (8 years before the aisle), so she was my matron of honor. Her husband was also a groomsman which I thought was really sweet of my husband and definitely embraced the "becoming one big family" feel!

My SIL was married 5 years ago, and while we weren't as close at the time (and she had a really small wedding party) - I have to admit that I was bummed to not be a bridesmaid because I knew that my relationship with her brother was definitely headed towards marriage.

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Aww, I am so glad to see the love between the two of you!

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Awesome! It's cool to see both of his family members on your side!!

So about a month ago my future SIL told my fiancé to ask me to change the date of our wedding because her boyfriend didn't have a school vacation during that time. I have always wanted a Fall wedding and she wanted me to change it around for her boyfriend even though she would have vacation at that time. The worse thing is my future MIL told my fiancé that he should make me change it because it is his sister and his sister refused to come without her bf. Now it is time to start putting together my bridal party and I personally just don't want to ask her to be my bridesmaid even though I know siblings are supposed to be part of the wedding party. I need advice on how to handle this situation. HELP!!!

I'm an only child... so I asked my FH if he wanted me to ask his sister to be a BM. He said No! The sweetest thing he could have done. He explained that she was pretty selfish and always found a problem with everything. He wanted me to have people in my party that were supportive instead.

FBIL all standing with FH and my FH SIL is standing with me.

View Quoted Comment This is a really good idea!! So that way no one can feel slighted or lefted out.

FH doesn't have his parents here on earth with us. But they are definitely with us in spirit!! I feel like I would have adored them both.

I definitely would have wanted FH parent's blessings on our union. It is really important to me for FH and I to receive my mother's approval! It just feels good and shows respect for the parents when their approval is sought after and given.

His brother was a best man and his cousin was our officiant.

My fiance asked if I wanted any of his sister's to ve a bridesmaid, but he didn't push it when I said no. Due to the fact that I work 70+ hours a week, I haven't had much time to get to know my future in laws, and as I am someone who is very antisocial, he understands that I prefer people I've known for a while to be at my back.

My husband's brother was his best man. His wife wasn't in the wedding. I didn't want her as a bridesmaid as we aren't close.

DH's sister and I are not close so she was not a BM. A couple months before we got engaged, she (in a very public place) screamed at me, "F you you F'ing B!" While I agree it would be a nice way to start the new family relationship, I could not bring myself to have her "stand up for me" with such hateful words still so fresh. We did still want to incorporate her in some way, so we asked her to sing, because she has a lovely singing voice. She sang a few songs as guests filtered in, and she sang "I Hope You Dance" for the parent/child dance (MIL, DH, my dad and I all danced at the same time). She was not happy about not being a BM and for a while I thought I was going to have to give in. Luckily, MIL was on our side about her not being a BM and rationalized with her that being asked to sing is still being asked to be a special part of the day.

I never had to have the conversation. FH is not close to his siblings, in fact two out of three of FH's siblings aren't even bothering to come (ugh) so none of them are in the wedding party.

My FSIL, FBIL and my fiancé’s FBIL are both in our bridal party. We got lucky that we both don’t have a ton of siblings. I’m not best friends with his sister, but I’ve done a lot with his family since we’ve been dating, probably more than with my own family just due to location. So in general I’d say I’m pretty close with his family. My brother is honestly more of a stretch since we don’t see him as often. We’ve also decided to do just all bridesmaids and all groomsmen which I hope people won’t find weird.

We each have a close friend of the opposite gender, so were having groomsmaids and bridesmen anyways. His sister will stand on his side.

I have 2 future sister-in-laws, one is 30 y/o the other is 10 y/o... Me and the older sister were friends before I met my FH and she was the reason we met in the first place! So she is definitely a bridesmaid! And the younger sister is from their Dad's second marriage and she is going to be a flower girl along with my niece.

I also have 2 sisters who are going to be bridesmaids too!

View Quoted Comment Wow, I have almost the same situation.

We're doing our wedding in my home town, (destination wedding for us) so when I starting talking about the BP with my FH he didn't want any of it because he didn't think he would have anyone on his side.
But when I introduced the idea of family as BP he was really happy.

I've really tried to involved people close to me for everything I can. I love the idea of the people closest to me being the driving force of my wedding not complete strangers from some vendor I've just met. This way I can have a medium wedding and still feel like it's small and full of family.


My two sisters are MoH and BM, FsSIL is jrBM, his FBIL is GM, and (MoH husband) is BM. My sister's FH will help with sound, my SIL will help with makeup and has lot of great ideas. The kids of a close family are with the guest book, ushers and the FG.