What do you call your future in-laws?

I call them by their first name.

I avoid using names if I can...lol! I'm super awkward. I've started getting more comfortable using their first names though.

I call them by their first names - I was asked to call them by whatever makes me comfortable.

I call my ILs by their first names.

We had a very awkward conversation where H's mom asked me to call her mom. I was so caught off guard and without thinking told them that I could never call them mom and dad because I already have parents who I call mom and dad. Talk about open mouth, insert foot.

I call them by their first name, but sometimes FH and I jokingly call each others FMIL's "mom".

My parents always called each others parents "mom and dad" as I was growing up so it's not weird to me to call my FIL's mom and dad, I just don't think we are quite there yet. I call FH Aunt my Aunt and things like that, but parents are a different story.

I only have one FIL (his dad passed away last year, but I did always call him "dad"). I call his mom by her first name, Linda.

I always just avoid using any name. But recently my FMIL made a point to tell me (17 years after we started dating, she waited until we we're actually getting married 🙄) she would like to be called by her first name bc she is not my mother. Mind you, I never called her mom in the first place.

They want me to call them by their first name. But since I am so awkward I try to avoid calling them anything. So far it has been fine! lol

I call them by their first names

I call my FFIL by his first name and I called my FMIL by her first name or Mom (unfortunately she passed away a couple of years ago).

First names. I could never imagine calling them Mom or dad, it wouldn’t feel right. Especially because my parents are amazing and I think it would hurt their feelings if I called someone else Mom and dad.
My FH, however, calls my mom Mom and she signs his birthday cards and other things as Momma J 😂

Until now I never realized that I actually avoid using names.

My FH calls my mom "mom" and she calls him "son." It started as a joke but it's just the norm for them now.

I've never met my FMIL in person and my FH's dad has passed, but in email/Facebook/letter correspondence I refer to her by her first name and plan to do so in person.

View Quoted Comment I try to avoid calling names as well lmao FH dad is no longer w/ us but I don’t think I ever called him by name and I always just happen to have his mom’s attention when talking to her lol I guess I better get comfortable calling her mom. We’be only discussed future grandma names lol

I usually refer to them by their first names.

I avoid using names whenever possible too, but call them by their first names. It was easy with FH's stepmom, since FH calls her by her first name as well, but it feels stranger with his dad. FH's mother passed away two years ago, and she'll always be Mrs. FHLastName to me. I always say I have big shoes to fill to have that name soon.

FH calls my parents by their first names, but will also say mom and dad in some sentimental moments. I am much closer with my family than he is with his, so we see my parents quite a bit.

I call FMIL by her first name Lynn & her husband I call by his first name as well Phil, I call his dad Mr. T (short for his last name) , just because I love to say that!

I called them by their first names when I met them. I asked my FH what to call them and he said that was fine.

I call mine by their first name, i dont know if i would call them mom and dad.. but that is just me

I believe that it is always most respectful to address people who are not close friends and peers by their title and last name. I am still irritated when strangers address me by my given name, especially if I have already asked them to refer to me by full name or by my title. Just as I still address my mother by her title, my future mother will be mother as well.