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SydsMom
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Anyone waiting ..or..did wait until wedding night to be intimate?

SydsMom, on July 19, 2015 at 7:09 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 30

So this is just something I am curious about. I have heard some people who have already had sex all of a sudden stop sometime before the wedding. We have lived together over 3 years now and have talked about it. But our wedding isn't until MAY. soooo if this is something anyone is doing or had done when did you start? Does that even make sense. Hahaha. Or is this just silly.

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  • #Holler
    Dedicated October 2016
    #Holler ·
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    One of my good friends did this with her now husband. They never slept together at all before the wedding but she had been with other S/Os before (not sure about him). She was really glad that they waited. To each his/her own!

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  • JBach
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    FH and I are doing this, we've also lived together for the past 3 years of our relationship and have decided the same thing. We have a two bedroom home and he sleeps in one room and I sleep in the other; we got engaged this past February and started this in April, it was hard at first but now we know we're doing this for our beliefs...I don't think many couples already living together do this, but I'm really not sure. Just know you're not alone Smiley tongue

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  • JamieLynn
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    Not silly at all. FMM actually has a Sex Q&A thread once a week (the day varies) and you can ask any type of question, just like this one, no judgement - and the thread gets hidden that same night. Check it out this week! Smiley smile

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  • June
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    I think I saw this idea on WW at one point and brought it up with my fiancé (at the time). His response? "Um, no." Haha! But we did not stay together the two nights before our wedding so I guess you could say we went on hiatus anyway. Haha!

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  • MrsBest2B
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    We live together and are lucky if we get it in (no pun intended lol) once a week or once every 2 weeks, so no we will not participate in this. That said I don't think it's weird if other couples do it, to each his/her own

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  • Laura Marie
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    We actually are doing this after talking to our mentors we had for our premarital class through church. It's really weird because at times we just want to be like "screw it" (no pun intended) since we just...stopped...and we're still sleeping in the same bed. BUT I think it will be worth it once we are married since we both had expressed that we wished we had waited till marriage..and that we regretted being with people before eachother. I think it's good for us - but we're three months in and I think I'm getting a little grumpy. Yikes.

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  • kalamityjen
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    We kind of have in this last month before the wedding. Not by choice but FH had to go out of town for work at the beginning of July and he came back last week with a TERRIBLE head cold that is now a sinus infection. We haven't gotten near each other (which is tough when you live together) because I really, really don't want to catch anything 2 weeks before the wedding and he needs to save his energy for getting better. I guess that will make the wedding night extra special.

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  • SweetBean
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    He is the only one i have been with. We are stopping August 7th to make our Wedding night extra special.

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  • danielleesme
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    We have lived together for nearly six years, but like @MrsBest2B, we don't have a ton of sex (FH has medical things). So as much as I would LOVE to spend the last 3 or 4 weeks waiting for our wedding night, I cannot even guarantee that we will have sex on our wedding night (although lots of people say that, so I will add our wedding night/week), so probably not. Although I get frustrated/grumpy without sex, so during one of the most stressful months of my life might not be worth it haha. Kudos to you/those who give it a shot!

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  • Pinky Winter Promise
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    He has been the only person I've been with. After we got engaged and then started his RCIA classes, we talked about it (I always wanted to wait until marriage and after we talked, he was okay with abstaining until our wedding night). We have not had sex for about a year now, maybe more or little less (I honestly cannot remember when we last had sex - and surprisingly he can't remember either) but we still sleep in the same bed. Honestly we never had a ton of it, so it wasn't much of a change - but it definitely was a bigger deal for him than it was for me. However I do think that it is going to make our wedding night (or week after) more special - I've never had a high drive but have come to realize that it's higher now than I think it has ever been (then again I just got off the Mirena in March, so maybe that's why)?

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  • Sarah195
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    I wanted to stop for the whole month before but FH is totally against that lol.

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  • Ashley
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    It's not easy but I believe it will be well worth it lol 12 more days to go whoop whoop. We started July 1st so 30 days

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  • kahlcara
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    Wow. You ladies must have amazing self-control. There's no way I could sleep in the same bed with H for a year and not do anything. Good for you! That said, we didn't sleep together the week before our wedding because it was crazy with wedding stuff and we were both staying at our parents' and we were exhausted on our wedding night and didn't do it. Made up for it on the HM though!

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  • Rachel
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    FH wants to hold off for a week before the day of, but that's about it. We do it most days, so that'll be a bit of a change for us. We'll see if he can handle it.

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  • OG_MrsC
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    FH and I stopped about 2 years into our relationship (we've been together almost 4 years now). Its definitely hard, but we don't live together so that helps a little. These last 419 days are going to be rough lol!

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  • Monica SC
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    FH would protest...lol

    I worked with a girl who had never had sex with her FH until their wedding night. She tells the funniest story about them tearing their clothes off and tossing them everywhere. She has a child by a previous relationship that he has now adopted. He was the one who insisted they wait until they were married because of his religious beliefs. He is such a good guy.

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  • P
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    I'm glad that this actually seems to be a thing. FH & I have talked about stopping a few months before the wedding. Not for religious reasons, just so it would be extra exciting, lol.

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  • Canadianmummy
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    I thought about it, not for religious reasons but just so wedding night is extra special. My fh did hurt himself..down there though and is on meds for 10 days and we marry on August 8th, might just make it last a little longer, as we can't have sex anyways lol

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  • annakay511
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    Honestly, I think it's silly for couples who are already having seX to stop before the wedding. All that will do is make the wedding night extra...short haha! I see that as totally different as a couple abstaining til marriage for religious reasons.

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  • FutureMrsBooth
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    We are stopping after New Years till our wedding...just to build momentum for our honeymoon!

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