Anyone waiting ..or..did wait until wedding night to be intimate?

FH and I are both abstaining until the wedding (14 days!!) due to our beliefs, our wedding night will be our first time with each other AND our first time ever. It may be awkward and not all that pleasurable, but its going to be a special moment we will share and remember for the rest of our lives. We've been together for 6 years so it's definitely been a struggle waiting this long, but good things come to those who wait right? We won't live together until after the wedding so I guess that helped a bit too.

I ran this idea by FH and he wasn't having it. lol So no we're not doing it.

"Um... I don't think I can do that" his response just now. I know several couples who did though and they were glad they did. I will probably try but I can't seem to say no to him so we shall see.

Nope. I see nothing shameful about sex, and I've often felt like "waiting until marriage" and the "purity movement" especially is more about shaming people for having sex than about actually benefiting the relationship. We won't be together two nights beforehand, but that's because we have our parties coming in from out of town and want to spend some time with them.

I went back and forth on this for a long time.... we have lived together for the last three years, and we are extremely physically and emotionally close. I thought we'd intentionally abstain for two weeks before the wedding just to make it fun and special, but two nights before the wedding I was just feeling so nervous about everything, and he was comforting me and holding me and I realized that part of my anxiety was being separated from him after nearly six years together, so.... we didn't make it with my original plan LOL.

But I think for a couple in an LTR living together, two weeks is enough to make it feel like a sacrifice, depending on your normal routine.

Dh and I went 6 months due to his working out if state prior to the wedding. When he came home, we did but then 2 months before the wedding his dad came to stay with us to finish our remodel so sex was out! It made the wedding night more special! He's gone again, and I know it'll help us with ttc hopefully

@Elizabeth I actually think we've benefited from it..I dunno - it forces us to communicate more? Not that we didn't before or anything, but it's helped us not just resort to that to make up or whatever...I dunno, it's hard to explain.

@kahlcara It's pretty difficult but there's usually a pillow in between us - I don't sleep as well if he isn't next to me. Lame, i know

Us! I'm never had sexual relations with any guy partially because of religion beliefs but mostly because I just wanted to wait until I got married. FH was well aware about this rule of mine and he said he loved that about me! We're two weeks away from getting married now and after almost 2 years and a half of being together he has never once tried pressuring me into doing something I don't want too and I love the respect and whimsical feeling it gives us!

@annakay -- totally agree with you!

I imagine we'll be extra stressed the last week or 2 before the wedding, so things may naturally slow down, but abstaining would just make me EXTRA cranky, and I'll definitely need to let off steam then. If I really wanted to, FH would definitely agree, but it's just not for us.

And I'm guessing this won't be very popular...but from a purely health standpoint, men who ejaculate more (ideally, 21 times a month) are less likely to get prostate cancer. That's a LOT of jerking off if there's no sexual activity as a couple, and guys often have a hard time finishing during sex if they're used to only their hand for months and months on end.

For those of you who are doing this, though, is it just intercourse that's cut out, or everything? I could never last, but it's so interesting to hear about!

My fiancé and I got engaged on August 6 and have had sex once about a week and a half later and than decided to wait til we get married which is 366 days away. I definitely wish we would of waited, but we are both glad we are waiting.