Anyone has or had second thoughts on spending so much money on a wedding?

OH! YES! Down payment on a house. We could be married sooner. Both, me and FH, need a newer car. I want babies! He wants to wait until we are living together. I want to be married first and living together.

When I think of a destination wedding or eloping, I think of how I won't get to have my first dance in front of all my family that I have been dreaming about since I was a little girl. It makes me sad!

I can't believe you can have a wedding under 10G... our venue alone (the cheapest we could find for 150 ppl) is 15G. *SIIIGH* it's so much money....

Yes! I've found that the more we save, the less we want to spend it on something which goes by in just one day... it just seems like such a waste for hard earned cash (of course not everyone feels that way and that's fine). It was actually much easier spending money when I was younger and had none :-)

Yes. We started with a $10k budget, and have since pared it down to $5-$6k total. We also want a baby asap, and I'd rather that extra $4-$5k go there. We still want a nice wedding though, which is why we're keeping the budget that high.

I think about it all the time. FH wants to elope and I keep considering it, but I want a wedding. my budget is 10 grand as well and we don't have anything saved up. The main reason we are not eloping is because my venue is just so amazing and the manager there is just awesome and fun, if I didn't find that place probably would be saving so much money. I think it all depends. Whether you think you will regret not having a wedding and having all your friends and family to be part of it to celebrate.

I feel you, girl. I'm in Financial Services so it really hard for me to justify spending all this money one one day. We've cut the guest list considerably and we've tried to prioritize what the "must haves" are but it's so hard!!! Luckily, I have a house aready so we don't have to worry about that (although we are discussing getting a bigger house soon) and I had all this money already saved. I'm hoping I can some how not spend everything I have.

It's something I really think about, before I start booking anything!!

I hate how much is being spent on the wedding really really have it and actually it makes me feel really uncomfortable but as it isn't my money I just have to take it but I don't like it

Have the french afternoon wedding with champagne and appetizers and live violin music, who says you have to feed everyone dinner and dance until midnight? you can always go to your favorite venue afterwards and dance to their music for free? or start your honeymoon early. thats the only way i know to have a wedding for less that 5K is without the five course meal, people will remember the live music or the appetizers, all the seated dinner weddings ive been to dont stand out in my mind

Our budget is also 10g and I would rather put it on a house but just like in your case 1child and 9yrs together. He knew I wanted a wedding.

Second, third, fourth, fifth and up to one hundredth but.... let the good times roll

@SoontobeMrsM. I'm in the same boat. I wanted to elope, but this is FH's first wedding and he was insistent. Our wedding budget started at $12K and is now over $20K. I can't say I'm sorry for it, but we're also too old to have kids, and already own our home.

Definitely. I've dropped over budget over things many times. Sometimes I think, why bother? But, we both want to celebrate our love & share this moment with our families. We got our venue for free, and are using as many connections we can to save money. Lots of DIY at this wedding.

The most important thing for us is the memories we will make. 10 years from now, our guests won't remember the centerpieces or what color scheme we went with. I want our wedding to be amazing, but I'm not willing to be in crazy debt over it!

Not really cuz we're doing what we can afford. we started small and slowly upgraded as needed here and there. We didn't start grand and have to scale it down.

YES! I have thought about just not having the wedding but then I am like oh yeah, I already paid for the venue. lol but all in all I am like seriously we could of just had a kick ass honeymoon instead. Our budget for the wedding is under 7K.

I have doubts all the time. My married friends tell me one of two things:

"It was worth all the stress of planning and every penny!!" or "I wish I had eloped and saved the money."

Really, I have no idea what category I'll fit into.

A downpayment here is like $60k, so my $10k wedding is NOT a down payment.

I wanted to elope. he wanted the wedding. my wedding is going to cost more then want i make in a year. we're paying for it ourselves too. the cost bothers me a lot, but sadly i just have to deal with it lol and im in brooklyn, nyc, down payments on houses are anywhere from $50-70k for my neighborhood, my wedding is roughly half of that.

I wanted to elope. but FH is against it. I wanted to cut the budget to >$10,000 and he said no to that. His explanation: this is my 1st marriage. If I regret the money, that's. okay. But he doesn't want me to regret not having a big wedding.

I have always had that thought. But then I met my FH and he wanted a big wedding. I wanted a small, intimate destination wedding. He wanted a local wedding where he invited everyone he had ever met. So, we comprised at a $15k budget and a local, 125 max wedding.

But yes, it eats me alive that we're spending this much, but, I also want him to be happy with the day and I know it will be beautiful - but I've always been the person who wants a happy marriage more than a beautiful wedding. It's a lot of money and could go towards many other things, but this is the only time I am getting married (and I never wanted to get married until I met Embra...I was fine with having a man and kids with him, but marriage just didn't seem necessary), so we're making the best of it and compromising along the way.