Anyone doing a day-after brunch.... or the like? UPDATE

We didn't host brunch, we just told everyone we were going to have breakfast in the hotel at such and such time, if anybody would like to join us. I loved having some casual time with OOT guests before they all left.

However, I would not have planned another "formal" event. In that sense I agree with your FH, it's becoming too much. But then again if your mom wants to host it... why not? I don't think it's bad if you decide against it.

Have I NOT helped at all yet :-)))

FH and I plan to. We have quite a few OOT guests. It'll be informal and just a chance to hang out.

We don't plan on paying for everyone, but I don't think anyone would expect us to.

We are having one, but it's a destination wedding so I don't want guests coming all that way just to see us one night. We are having a welcome dinner the night before, hors d'oeuvre reception the night of, and brunch the next day. Our brunch is going to be at a hotel, so it is not much work/stress-wise for us. The only negative I can think of is that you and your mom might be exhausted from the night before. Some people might not be ready for round number two. I think a day after brunch would be a nice casual way to visit with everyone.

We did a brunch, at the hotel, the morning after my daughters wedding. It was for the Bridal Party and Immediate family. It was low key and the couple opened their gifts there.

We then took the gifts with us, as they headed off on their honeymoon.

My parents are hosting a cookout the day after our wedding. We have a lot of out of town guests and our wedding falls on Mother's Day weekend.

Where my FH is from this is traditional to have something the next day. For me, that is not tradition. Like mrs s we are telling everyone if they like we will be eating breakfast at the hotel if they want to join. We will not be paying though. Here's the other thing. Yeah I can see the point of not wanting OOTners to not feel like they have to leave right away but on another note I know when I have been to day after wedding events, I feel obligated that I have to go. The couple will say, your not obligated. For me I feel obligated either way. So it's good to just say hey join us for breakfast since everyone needs to eat before they hit the road instead of having a gathering again.

We did a day-after brunch after both of my brother's weddings...it's a fairly traditional thing to do in my family. It's usually held at the parents of the bride's house the afternoon after the wedding and it is usually for OOT guests and immediate family only. It's a super casual brunch, my mom actually catered the food so as not to have to worry about feeding 30 people the day after both weddings. It was a nice way to unwind and relax with the B&G before they left for their honeymoons...we will be going against tradition on this one though as FH and I just want peace after the wedding; its going to be a crazy party (if its anything like ANY of the parties we throw) and we just want a lazy Sunday to unwind with just the two of us as a married couple.

FH actually said, and I quote "the day after the wedding I just want to spend the day with you, my wife" sounds good to me!

We plan on having a breakfast at the hotel (included with rooms) and setting a specific time for hotel guests to join us. FMIL plans to have a late lunch for bridal party/OOT family guests (just lunches and such). We don't leave until the following day, so we are looking forward to spend the day after with our families and close friends

Mrs. S says it best and her solution is exactly what we're doing. We found a hotel that does made to order free breakfast for guests...perfect solution.

I've had friends really REGRET planning the brunch. It turned into a huge expense and was almost as big as the wedding...skip it.

We did a day after lunch at my parents house. It was really casual with pulled pork sandwiches, coleslaw and corn on the cob. We opened up gifts afterwards.

My friend who is getting married in June is doing a day after brunch, but much like what Mrs S. did she is just letting people know what they are doing, the cost to people and the time if people want to join them.

We did and it was great! We had leftovers from the wedding and we had a friend that volunteered to do it for us and they made a bunch of stuff including punch.

I wouldn't plan it if YOU have to do it, but if someone wants to throw it for you, don't say no.

We're hosting lunch a week after the honeymoon for our immediate family and the bridal party.

Yea, I really feel like I should so SOMETHING. But Im just thinking it's a lot to have something like that catered again. I'd almost rather pick up sandwich platters and just have it as an open house thing.

Maybe I'll suggest that to my mother.

THANKS LADIES! I dont know what I'd do without you.

Were having a day wedding, so were inviting people back to the hotel for a very casual dinner, pizza, soda and beer... very casual and totally optional. Its really for the out of towners who are staying at the hotel

I was literally just about to post this same topic - I'm glad I didn't!

Yes, we're hosting a very small brunch at FH and my home the morning after the wedding. We're only inviting the OOT wedding party and our immediate families, so no more than 20 people. 95% of our guests are local; the only ones truly traveling are my dad/step-mom and my MOH. I thought it'd be a great chance to hang out with my MOH, who lives 1000 miles away, in a stress-free environment before she heads back home.

Then in the afternoon, we'll open our wedding presents with our moms, wrap up any last minute items, deposit checks if needed, and just relax before leaving the next day for our honeymoon! I'm SO glad we're building in a buffer day after the wedding before leaving for that.

For my first wedding, my grandparents hosted a brunch/lunch the next day at their house....really though, it was leftovers from the night before and some dishes that various people brought (my family is big into potluck). We ate & opened cards/gifts from the wedding. Mostly it was parents, grandparents, and some aunts/uncles/cousins (most lived nearby, though a couple were from OOT).

Our venue hosts a breakfast buffet and it is very reasonable so I think we are going to add that on. Figured we could open presents or something.

We will still have the venue so we are having a brunch before people hit the road to head home. It will just be juice, coffee, egg casserole and biscuts.

We are, but we are a DW also, so we wanted to host more events than the wedding reception.

When I was BM in my best friends wedding, her parents had a very casual, low key brunch at their house. People stopped by and stayed as long or as little as they wanted. It was great to see and talk to the newlyweds before they went on their HM. It doesn't have to be a big affair.

We are planning on doing an informal brunch the next day at teh hotel. The only OOT guests we'll have are his mom and rothers and aybe my uncle and it would be nice to spend time with them but I also want to just chill with any of my family and friends who may wanna do so the day after.