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Jessica
VIP October 2019

Am i over reacting? Opinions please! Photographer issues.

Jessica, on June 27, 2019 at 4:24 PM

Posted in Planning 115

IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ THE WHOLE THING, PLEASE AT LEAST READ MY QUESTIONS AND FINAL STATEMENT AT THE END! I will make this short and sweet as possible, while still providing the details. I thank you in advance for taking the time to read and reply. First I'd like to say I am NOT AT ALL a...
IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ THE WHOLE THING, PLEASE AT LEAST READ MY QUESTIONS AND FINAL STATEMENT AT THE END!

I will make this short and sweet as possible, while still providing the details. I thank you in advance for taking the time to read and reply.


First I'd like to say I am NOT AT ALL a bridezilla. Im laid back, go with the flow, doing the vast majority of the wedding by myself. I also am a people pleaser BIG time, I hate for anyone to be upset, and I have a REALLY HARD TIME sticking up for myself.

Now, on to the story:

I've known my photographer for quite a while, and we are somewhere between friends & acquaintances. We normally message on FB a few times a year.



She did my pregnancy pictures almost 12 yrs ago when she was first starting out with photography and they were great. Absolutely loved them.

I instantly knew I wanted her for all bridal/wedding pics. We met up, discussed what FH & I wanted, and costs of different packages. We came to a decision on the 4 hour package + 1 extra hour + Bridal portraits. This was supposed to total $1,000.00.



SHE SAID AND OFFERED to apply her family/friend discount of 25% off which we were not expecting but thought was very nice of her. This is not anywhere on her business website or her card, so I would not even know about it if she had not told me. She said this would bring us down to $750 + taxes.

The week before my bridal portraits she sends me the invoice via email which allows me to put down a deposit (which I did). Before paying deposit I look over the invoice and note that total amount is $1,537.50. Double the amount I was anticipating.

So, I don't say anything, maybe she changed her mind or forgot but either way I don't want to make any waves. Plus, the price is still better than most photographers.

Its worth the price to have beautiful lasting memories, right?

On the invoice she has $175 for Bridal portraits, $250 for extra hour, and the rest was state sales tax.

Now, I know to many of you $1537.50 isn't alot of money, but to me it its hard to justify spending that much money on one single thing. If not for my fiance surprising me and buying my wedding dress for me (it was $2,000 & I wanted to stay under $500) I would probably have a dress I hate bc I just wouldn't be able to spend that much on 1 single item.

Anyhow, The plan was to do my portraits at a location I found on the river with dock and oak trees, very beautiful and very much my style.

If it rained, the plan was to go to my FILs house and do pics on the porch, covered deck and inside the house. The house is over a hundred years old and I absolutely love it.

Well, on portrait day, she's heading to my house to meet, and I tell her its raining but she insists we go the 2 miles down the road to see if its raining there. We get there and the sky is dark, looks like rain any second, plus its thundering. She says its fine let's start pics. About 4 minutes after were shooting, here comes the rain. I suggest going to FILs but she says its fine it will just blow over. It did not blow over. She attempts to do pics for about 20 more minutes then says ok were done.

Remember, me not being confrontational, and I trusting that she is the professional? So, I say ok.

That night she sends me a sneak peek, 3 pics that i love, and Im so relieved. This was a Saturday night. On Monday afternoon she emails me the album of pics. There was 53 pics total. Out of 53 there were about 10 that I liked. But there were only 3 I would actually use or even post on FB.

When I asked where the other pictures were she sends me 2 more saying the resolution or something was off.

Idk what to even say from here.

So heres what I want to know from y'all:
1. Isn't the point of hiring a photographer to make sure your pictures are PERFECT? Isn't that what Im paying all this money for?
2. Why did she only get 55 pics when my MOH got 96 on her iphone and I honestly liked those better?
3. Isnt 25 minutes kinda short for a bridal shoot? Ive spoken to 2 other professional photographers (both in the same price range and neither that I know) and they have both told me about 1 to 1.5 hrs for bridal portraits is their norm.
4. Do the poses not look unnatural to you? My Maid, Matron and another friend were all present and helping at the shoot and all said the poses looked 'off and unnatural'.
5. Shouldnt there have been more than 53 pictures? I asked her months ago and she said normally after the "bad pics" are thrown out, the bride has anywhere from 55 to 85 pictures, but that she normally takes well over 100. I only got 53, and of those 53, several are not usable and several are exact duplicates with one in color and one in black and white.
6. I am not questioning the QUALITY of the actual pics. When you put them side by side with the iphone pics they are hands down better. But, the poses or other imperfections are what is bothering me. The iphone pics had AWESOME poses.
7. Out of 53 pictures, I only have 3 that I would actually use. I knew I wouldn't like them all, but I expected to be able to use at least 25-30% of the pictures. Is it normal to only have this small amount of usable pictures?
8. How do I tell her I am not using her for the wedding now? I do not in any form trust her with my wedding pictures. When my MOH showed her parents (whom I am very close with) they called me that night and gave me an email address of another photographer and told me to call and schedule my portraits, that they had already paid for a bridal portrait shoot for me. They were that disappointed with the pictures. Which totally shocked me because I kept thinking it was either me or I was just overreacting. Also, we have not yet signed a contract. She told me we could just do it later before the wedding, so, I don't care about the deposit. She can keep it. Just how do I tell her Im not using her now?

9. Most importantly, am I overreacting?

THEN, to make MATTERS WORSE, I think she could tell thru our messages that I was not thrilled with them. So, she decided to call me, which I appreciated.

She starts off by saying she is "willing to reshoot the pictures" and then says, and this is a direct quote:
"I KNOW YOU WANTED TO DO YOUR PICTURES EARLY, BUT MAYBE WE CAN RESHOOT THE PORTRAITS IN SEPTEMBER. MAYBE BY THEN YOU WILL HAVE LOST SOME MORE WEIGHT AND WILL BE MORE CONFIDENT. HOPEFULLY YOU WILL LIKE THEM THEN. "
Did she just blame me for not liking the pictures?

Also, as for the pictures posted, I could have kept going and adding more I was not pleased with.

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115 Comments

  • Nicole
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    Overreacting? Not really, but consider a few things... the photographer isnt responsible for the texture of your hair the day of the wedding. It's also raining... surely that'll do it. Wedding photos always felt unnatural to me, so the fact that you feel yours look unnatural is probably true...of course, the photographer should have an eye for that and be able to correct it. Do they all do that? No. Though my engagement photos were lovely and I cant complain, theres a few that I personally wouldnt have chose lol and it's due to looking unnatural...but that's bc I know me.. I dont expect him to. The photographer is pretty cheap if you compare to what others charge. Unfortunately you get what you pay for. I've seen plenty of photographers shoot whole wedding snd half the photos come back black and white. Why? Because their focus was off or the color was off.. black and white is a way to play it cool but def not a recommended editing technique unless it serves its purpose. Anything under 85 to 90 photos would have me a little angry for that price. Out of that I'd expect 70 to be great. It's worth speaking with her about. Maybe she can do another shoot for you if you're unhappy. As for distant photos... eh, I dont aee how they are a problem but if you aren't into it then mention it. I think we all tend to be really harsh critics bc we have a vision of our wedding compared to what we see in magazines.


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  • Arielle
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    I would be upset too, I don't think you're overreacting at all. I'd drop her and look for a new one, not worth the risk IMO.

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  • Luca
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    I agree with everyone else, you are beautiful but those pictures are not. I would expect more from a professional photographer too. I feel like she rushed through the shoot and then didn't bother to really edit your photos. I also find it strange that her fee doubled without any communication to you and after everything had already been agreed upon. I'm sorry that you're going through this so close to your wedding. She is clearly RUDE and unprofessional! Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise though because now you can find a new photographer for your wedding day and hopefully get the quality photos that you want.

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  • Kelly
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    The price change alone is worth being angry over, then the weight comment? I think you should go bridezilla on her and it'd be justified.
    I think you should have at least 100 photos and at least an hour.
    You can tell they're higher resolution than the iPhone photos but that doesn't mean they're better. You can take hires photos on any camera, the poses are unnatural and there's no editing at all.
    That being said I think you super beautiful, your hair isn't that frizzy, I have no idea where her weight comment came from. You are stunning and deserve better photos.
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  • Jessica
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    I know the photographer isnt responsible for the texture of my hair, and the rain is what caused it, but then why did she insist on shooting in the rain when we had other options? I had my stylist come to me and -do my hair and makeup, which she was aware of. When i expressed concerns about my hair frizzing, she said not to worry about it that it would be edited. This was my hair before getting rained on.

    As for the photos in black and white, that was not what I meant. I was upset I only received 53 photos and that several of them WERE THE EXACT SAME PICTURE. Like, take one picture and put it in black and white, then put the colored pic AND the black and white pic in my "gallery" and call it two pictures.

    And I also know she was cheap, that's fine, but if she didn't intend on doing anything she said she would, why did she say it? Why did she insist on shooting in the rain? Why didnt she let my girls fix my dress, the sheet, -my hair, veil, necklace, etc if she wasn't going to fix anything?
    And the picture where Im in front of the tree? I have 4 of those and im so far away you literally cannot tell its me. Just a woman in white dress.
    And she did offer to do another shot, in September "Maybe when you lose more weight you'll be more confident", she said.

    Am i over reacting? Opinions please! Photographer issues. 1

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  • Jessica
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    Thank you! That's definitely the plan.
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  • Jasmine
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    Wow so let me start off by saying you looked so beautiful even thought these photos are far away you still looked gorg now as for this photographer I would definitely ask for some kinda refund if you can maybe half off because how did they not get any really good close up pictures like they are trained and supposed to know how to pose you and what angle you need to be in ! Makes me mad like people just have money hanging on trees
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  • Furture Mrs. G
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    Why would a professional photographer even think it's okay to send back pictures with hair in your face? That is horrible.

    I would just be strait up with her and say it's not working out and you are choosing to go your own way and find a different photographer.

    So sorry you are having to deal with this.

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  • Greilyn
    Just Said Yes October 2019
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    You’re dress is beautiful and you look great! However you look uncomfortable in the positions you are posed in. Based on what you have told us about conversations it sounds like she doesn’t respect you. I constantly have a million questions and I’m very picky. I would fire her in a heartbeat.
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  • Jessica
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    Sorry, im not trying to sound crazy. Im just really upset about this whole thing.
    I have looked into other local photographers and they only charge $50 or $75 for "mini sessions", which is essentially what I received. I got 25 minutes max of photo time, and total of 11 usable pictures, but I paid $175 for those 11 pictures. I know it can also vary by region, as to the price. But She had told me to expect 55 to 85 pics, "sometimes as many as 100".

    I truthfully didn't even get 53 pictures, if you count the duplicates or the pictures that I can't use because there are obvious flaws, such as 2+ foot of tarp showing, then I only have 11 pictures.
    As I mentioned in my post, I already have a shoot scheduled with a new photographer.

    I was just so shocked that I feel ike she point blank lied to me, telling them "no, don't fix XXX, I will just edit it out" and then didn't do it. These pictures could have been great if she took a little more time, and shot them without all the flaws. I didn't expect anything "crazy" in my opinion. Didnt want her to make me skinnier, fix my skin, or truthfully even my hair and other things. Those were things she said would be done.
    But I think your right about photographers having their niche... Hers is definitely newborn/ maternity. Not wedding.
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  • Jessica
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    Awwwww well thank you so much! The other 3 photographers ive spoken with have said their bridal shoots last 1 to 1.5 hrs, and generally have 75 to 125 pictures. Im not expecting to like them all, but I am expecting about 30% to at least be usable.
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you! I have actually had another bride on here say she was a photographer and she thought the picture where my face is 50% covered and she "didnt see anything wrong with it". So glad you made this comment because Im just like what is the purpose of a picture where my face is covered with wet messy hair?
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  • Jessica
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    There were 3 good close ups, in her defense. But I don't have any from her of my train or the back or my dress or even a good picture with all of my dress showing.
    I feel like I literally spent $175 for 3 pictures.
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  • Jessica
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    Yes, that is the plan. Thank you so much!
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  • Denise
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    That's Crazy! I would be soo mad! I'm more confrontational though so I would be demanding my money back and telling her that she is definietely NOT doing MY wedding! Especially when she isn't even willing to put in 50%. These pics are just lazy. My cousin Heather did my senior pics. Gorgeous and that's who's doing my wedding pics. I'm just saying these are some of the pics she took. She gave me a flashdrive with upwards of 500 pics and we were only out for maybe an hour taking pictures!unedited 1Am i over reacting? Opinions please! Photographer issues. 3

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  • MrsJohansson
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    No need to be sorry... you have a right to be upset with what you got. She was unprofessional and she's a fraud. I guess I am just recommending to move forward unless you plan on calling her out. It's not good to linger on things that can't be changed if you get what I mean. I hope you'll share the new pics with the new photog when the session happens!

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  • Jessica
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    Thank you! That's what I thought too but, well, you see my comment about special software. Im a nurse, and can chart on my patients but otherwise im computer illiterate so I didn't know about what could or couldn't be edited.
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  • MrsJohansson
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    Excuse me??? Haha. I didn't think it was that bad.. you are your own worst critic. I also said the work sucked.. I can't believe you would write something like that. As if I wouldn't read that!

    Why would you shoot in the rain if you didn't want wet messy hair? Get real and stop playing the victim. You could have said no. It's over. Move on.

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  • Jessica
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    Yes, I most definitely will share.
    I just can't get over this shocked feeling because she was SO GOOD with those other shoots. I was just so confident this would be great too.
    Oh well, lesson learned. If she contracts me again, I am going to be nice but honest with her and let her know about the things I didn't like. Hopefully she can grow from it too.
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  • Jessica
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    I asked to go somewhere else, she said we stayed. What else was I supposed to do? And I was not saying you were wrong about the hair in the face, but I was honestly unsure what I could even do with the picture. I didn't lie about what you said, and didn't care if you saw it. And I am moving on. I just had the shoot on Saturday and got the pictures back Monday.
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