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Jessica
VIP October 2019

Am i over reacting? Opinions please! Photographer issues.

Jessica, on June 27, 2019 at 4:24 PM

Posted in Planning 115

IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ THE WHOLE THING, PLEASE AT LEAST READ MY QUESTIONS AND FINAL STATEMENT AT THE END! I will make this short and sweet as possible, while still providing the details. I thank you in advance for taking the time to read and reply. First I'd like to say I am NOT AT ALL a...
IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ THE WHOLE THING, PLEASE AT LEAST READ MY QUESTIONS AND FINAL STATEMENT AT THE END!

I will make this short and sweet as possible, while still providing the details. I thank you in advance for taking the time to read and reply.


First I'd like to say I am NOT AT ALL a bridezilla. Im laid back, go with the flow, doing the vast majority of the wedding by myself. I also am a people pleaser BIG time, I hate for anyone to be upset, and I have a REALLY HARD TIME sticking up for myself.

Now, on to the story:

I've known my photographer for quite a while, and we are somewhere between friends & acquaintances. We normally message on FB a few times a year.



She did my pregnancy pictures almost 12 yrs ago when she was first starting out with photography and they were great. Absolutely loved them.

I instantly knew I wanted her for all bridal/wedding pics. We met up, discussed what FH & I wanted, and costs of different packages. We came to a decision on the 4 hour package + 1 extra hour + Bridal portraits. This was supposed to total $1,000.00.



SHE SAID AND OFFERED to apply her family/friend discount of 25% off which we were not expecting but thought was very nice of her. This is not anywhere on her business website or her card, so I would not even know about it if she had not told me. She said this would bring us down to $750 + taxes.

The week before my bridal portraits she sends me the invoice via email which allows me to put down a deposit (which I did). Before paying deposit I look over the invoice and note that total amount is $1,537.50. Double the amount I was anticipating.

So, I don't say anything, maybe she changed her mind or forgot but either way I don't want to make any waves. Plus, the price is still better than most photographers.

Its worth the price to have beautiful lasting memories, right?

On the invoice she has $175 for Bridal portraits, $250 for extra hour, and the rest was state sales tax.

Now, I know to many of you $1537.50 isn't alot of money, but to me it its hard to justify spending that much money on one single thing. If not for my fiance surprising me and buying my wedding dress for me (it was $2,000 & I wanted to stay under $500) I would probably have a dress I hate bc I just wouldn't be able to spend that much on 1 single item.

Anyhow, The plan was to do my portraits at a location I found on the river with dock and oak trees, very beautiful and very much my style.

If it rained, the plan was to go to my FILs house and do pics on the porch, covered deck and inside the house. The house is over a hundred years old and I absolutely love it.

Well, on portrait day, she's heading to my house to meet, and I tell her its raining but she insists we go the 2 miles down the road to see if its raining there. We get there and the sky is dark, looks like rain any second, plus its thundering. She says its fine let's start pics. About 4 minutes after were shooting, here comes the rain. I suggest going to FILs but she says its fine it will just blow over. It did not blow over. She attempts to do pics for about 20 more minutes then says ok were done.

Remember, me not being confrontational, and I trusting that she is the professional? So, I say ok.

That night she sends me a sneak peek, 3 pics that i love, and Im so relieved. This was a Saturday night. On Monday afternoon she emails me the album of pics. There was 53 pics total. Out of 53 there were about 10 that I liked. But there were only 3 I would actually use or even post on FB.

When I asked where the other pictures were she sends me 2 more saying the resolution or something was off.

Idk what to even say from here.

So heres what I want to know from y'all:
1. Isn't the point of hiring a photographer to make sure your pictures are PERFECT? Isn't that what Im paying all this money for?
2. Why did she only get 55 pics when my MOH got 96 on her iphone and I honestly liked those better?
3. Isnt 25 minutes kinda short for a bridal shoot? Ive spoken to 2 other professional photographers (both in the same price range and neither that I know) and they have both told me about 1 to 1.5 hrs for bridal portraits is their norm.
4. Do the poses not look unnatural to you? My Maid, Matron and another friend were all present and helping at the shoot and all said the poses looked 'off and unnatural'.
5. Shouldnt there have been more than 53 pictures? I asked her months ago and she said normally after the "bad pics" are thrown out, the bride has anywhere from 55 to 85 pictures, but that she normally takes well over 100. I only got 53, and of those 53, several are not usable and several are exact duplicates with one in color and one in black and white.
6. I am not questioning the QUALITY of the actual pics. When you put them side by side with the iphone pics they are hands down better. But, the poses or other imperfections are what is bothering me. The iphone pics had AWESOME poses.
7. Out of 53 pictures, I only have 3 that I would actually use. I knew I wouldn't like them all, but I expected to be able to use at least 25-30% of the pictures. Is it normal to only have this small amount of usable pictures?
8. How do I tell her I am not using her for the wedding now? I do not in any form trust her with my wedding pictures. When my MOH showed her parents (whom I am very close with) they called me that night and gave me an email address of another photographer and told me to call and schedule my portraits, that they had already paid for a bridal portrait shoot for me. They were that disappointed with the pictures. Which totally shocked me because I kept thinking it was either me or I was just overreacting. Also, we have not yet signed a contract. She told me we could just do it later before the wedding, so, I don't care about the deposit. She can keep it. Just how do I tell her Im not using her now?

9. Most importantly, am I overreacting?

THEN, to make MATTERS WORSE, I think she could tell thru our messages that I was not thrilled with them. So, she decided to call me, which I appreciated.

She starts off by saying she is "willing to reshoot the pictures" and then says, and this is a direct quote:
"I KNOW YOU WANTED TO DO YOUR PICTURES EARLY, BUT MAYBE WE CAN RESHOOT THE PORTRAITS IN SEPTEMBER. MAYBE BY THEN YOU WILL HAVE LOST SOME MORE WEIGHT AND WILL BE MORE CONFIDENT. HOPEFULLY YOU WILL LIKE THEM THEN. "
Did she just blame me for not liking the pictures?

Also, as for the pictures posted, I could have kept going and adding more I was not pleased with.

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115 Comments

  • Jessica
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    Thank you so much! I was really hoping someone in this industry would respond.
    When MOHs mom (Kim) called and said they paid for another shoot with a different photographer, Kim said she forwarded my pictures to the new photographer and new photographer was appauled and said basically what you did. I was just worried maybe Kim wanted to make me feel better so thank you very much for your reply.
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  • Jessica
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    Your response made me lol literally!
    And my maid and matron had similar responses as well as wanting to talk to her themselves! But i love the creativity in your response.
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  • Jessica
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    I did not pay her full amount, and looking back now Im thankful. VERY THANKFUL. Because I was actually considering upgrading to the $2,900 package.
    I tried to pay her half, but she encouraged me to only pay $200, which now I find odd.
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  • Jessica
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    Bahahaha thank you!
    Honestly though im just confused. How were my pregnancy pics and my son's infant pictures SOOOOO GOOD when these are equally bad? And she was pretty much brand new then? 12 years ago????
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you!
    I actually had the contract, printed, filled out and signed. I was supposed to give it to her at the bridal shoot. When we got out the car I remembered and said oh let me get the contract for you and she said no just get it when were done or just get it to me before the wedding.
    Honestly, I feel like because she knows me and my disposition, that she just assumed I wouldn't say or do anything.
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  • Yoice
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    Oh I’ll be fuming as well. First issue the price... honestly even if she agreed to charge you $100 you counted for $100 not $200. That’s wrong because you based your budget on that. And is she even a professional? Who takes pictures that far away? Is a bridal portrait not a picture when sight seeing that you want to make sure you get the scenery with the mountains in the back of the beautiful palace. Is supposed to be pictures of you. Poses are for sure unnatural, you look rigid and uncomfortable. I’ll simply send her an email so everything is in writing and you don’t need to have this confrontation and tell her you don’t longer want her for your wedding. Keep it short and simple.
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  • Gloria
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    I would definitely fire her that comment she made was completely out of line ,and unnecessary .if that’s the way she feels towards you you definitely don’t need her as a friend as acquaintance or photographer.. i’m sorry you going through that . Good luck
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you.
    And, i actually edited one of the itty bity me in front of the tree and just colored over me with red so I could show FH to ask his opinion (Afterall, im not a photographer and had no clue if this was "normal"). He said looked like she was trying to get pictures of the tree and I was just a passerby who accidentally got in the picture lol
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  • Kathy
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    I tend to bite my tongue as well to avoid confrontations but in a situation like this no way, I've learned from my MOH to speak up, especially when you are paying so much money for a once in a lifetime special moment. Not only did she incorrectly charge you, she continued to force the issue in taking pictures outdoors when it was obviously going to rain, 25 mins for over 1500 is complete BS, you were also more than compromising with your locations, which comes to my next point, take some time to review the contract she sent you (if any) and see what her policy is for poor quality pictures and let her know that you would like a refund for the difference in pricing that you originally discussed & arranged. Then you should let her know that you rather not waste your time retaking pictures with a photographer that can not take a better picture than someone with an Iphone. Lastly, let her know that its funny you mentioned how uncomfortable I felt taking the pictures...its because I knew they were going to come out like crap. Any so call professional that has to take a stab at the person paying them for a service is a complete a**hole. You are beautiful, your partner loves you as well as the people that mean anything to you and vice versa. Under no circumstances should you allow any pathetic SOB to tell you differently. I would even encourage you, if she has a place where you can provide feedback about her work to do so...keep all of your emails and anything else in writing between you and her & if you need to take her to court do it. How distasteful, burns me up...just my 2 cent, the problem is her work, you looked stunning & your MOH's pictures came out beautifully.



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  • MrsJohansson
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    Opinions? I'd have to say this is why I do not touch weddings or work for friends.

    You look lovely.. her comment was really out of line. I would start looking for someone else to photograph your wedding day. Her work sucks.. I mean the pic "another frizzy hair.. not crazy about the cleavage" was nice but there is just so much wrong with the whole situation. Tell her you don't need her services any longer. Let her keep the deposit. Spend your hard earned money on someone else... she may have been good with maternity but a lot of photogs are good in their speciality area(s) only. This is not her area for sure.

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  • Jessica
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    Oh and as for the professional part, I never thought "What makes a professional photographer a professional professor?" Until i got these pictures back. Like, for instance, -what makes me a nurse? 4 years of college with a degree, also a separate exam that clarified me "safe" and allowed me to become licensed. Along with a ton of continuing education classes each year.
    So, Im not sure if she is a professional. She has a few fancy camera's with a whole lot of attachments and a tripod thing and portable lighting. She also has a website. But is that all it takes to be a professional photographer?
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  • Rebeca
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    You’re not overreacting. I would have dropped her the moment she didn’t listen to you and insisted on still shooting in the rain. Doesn’t she know the costumer is always right?
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you. Are you a photographer?
    I wouldn't really say we're friends. My son's father and her husband were very good friends, but that was 11 years ago when we split up and I have seen her in person 2 times since then. Every now and then we chat like how are you, but that's it.
    I was just so incredibly shocked she told me all these things would be done "with photoshop" and then they werent. I mean the sheet under my dress, the hair in my face, my necklace crooked... things my maid and matron were trying to fix for her and she actually stopped them saying not to bother that she could photoshop it.
    If you are a photographer, is that something you would stop and fix or would you just "photoshop" as she said?
    I had even set up an apt to get spray tanned just to even out tan lines but she told me not to that it could be fixed with editing.
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  • Jessica
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    Lol this is funny! I should have told her that!
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  • Jessica
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    Like literally, -what would I do with this picture? My face is covered with hair. Im not sure why it even made the cut.
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  • Jessica
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    Sorry, forgot to attach the pic

    Am i over reacting? Opinions please! Photographer issues. 1
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  • MrsJohansson
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    Yes but not a wedding one. I would never tell a client I will Photoshop such a thing... pimples are one thing but lol that one picture with the white tarp... Sorry I shouldn't laugh, I know this is upsetting for you. It's just that she is really unprofessional and the whole Photoshop thing is a dumb thing to tell you because it just means more work for her and possibly more money for you if she charged you per hour after the shoot. Not everything can be fixed or should be fixed with Photoshop. If these photos are the best she could give you, I'd hate to see her "Photoshop skills".

    When are you going to be married? Have you started looking at new portfolios? If I could give you a tip is to look for a connection and someone who listens and shows they listen to you and your vision.

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  • MrsJohansson
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    I don't think it's bad but you aren't happy with it so it doesn't matter what I think really. Photoshopping that would be incredibly difficult and stupid. It's better to just take the shot right the first time. If she was shooting in burst (multiple pics at once), she should havw captured before the wind blew the hair in your face. Did you happen to ask her if she had more pics you could see?

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  • Cristy
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    You're very welcome!! It makes me so mad when a vendor is unprofessional, and tries to shift it all to YOU, the customer, essentially. There's just no excuse for that. I hope your "new" shoot goes much better!

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  • Yoice
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    Well in that case I’m a professional photographer. I have a professional camera, tripod, lighting and little things to attach to camera and lenses LOL. I guess I need a website. I have a passion for photography but that doesn’t make me a profesional.
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