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Jessica
VIP October 2019

Am i over reacting? Opinions please! Photographer issues.

Jessica, on June 27, 2019 at 4:24 PM

Posted in Planning 115

IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ THE WHOLE THING, PLEASE AT LEAST READ MY QUESTIONS AND FINAL STATEMENT AT THE END! I will make this short and sweet as possible, while still providing the details. I thank you in advance for taking the time to read and reply. First I'd like to say I am NOT AT ALL a...
IF YOU DON'T WANT TO READ THE WHOLE THING, PLEASE AT LEAST READ MY QUESTIONS AND FINAL STATEMENT AT THE END!

I will make this short and sweet as possible, while still providing the details. I thank you in advance for taking the time to read and reply.


First I'd like to say I am NOT AT ALL a bridezilla. Im laid back, go with the flow, doing the vast majority of the wedding by myself. I also am a people pleaser BIG time, I hate for anyone to be upset, and I have a REALLY HARD TIME sticking up for myself.

Now, on to the story:

I've known my photographer for quite a while, and we are somewhere between friends & acquaintances. We normally message on FB a few times a year.



She did my pregnancy pictures almost 12 yrs ago when she was first starting out with photography and they were great. Absolutely loved them.

I instantly knew I wanted her for all bridal/wedding pics. We met up, discussed what FH & I wanted, and costs of different packages. We came to a decision on the 4 hour package + 1 extra hour + Bridal portraits. This was supposed to total $1,000.00.



SHE SAID AND OFFERED to apply her family/friend discount of 25% off which we were not expecting but thought was very nice of her. This is not anywhere on her business website or her card, so I would not even know about it if she had not told me. She said this would bring us down to $750 + taxes.

The week before my bridal portraits she sends me the invoice via email which allows me to put down a deposit (which I did). Before paying deposit I look over the invoice and note that total amount is $1,537.50. Double the amount I was anticipating.

So, I don't say anything, maybe she changed her mind or forgot but either way I don't want to make any waves. Plus, the price is still better than most photographers.

Its worth the price to have beautiful lasting memories, right?

On the invoice she has $175 for Bridal portraits, $250 for extra hour, and the rest was state sales tax.

Now, I know to many of you $1537.50 isn't alot of money, but to me it its hard to justify spending that much money on one single thing. If not for my fiance surprising me and buying my wedding dress for me (it was $2,000 & I wanted to stay under $500) I would probably have a dress I hate bc I just wouldn't be able to spend that much on 1 single item.

Anyhow, The plan was to do my portraits at a location I found on the river with dock and oak trees, very beautiful and very much my style.

If it rained, the plan was to go to my FILs house and do pics on the porch, covered deck and inside the house. The house is over a hundred years old and I absolutely love it.

Well, on portrait day, she's heading to my house to meet, and I tell her its raining but she insists we go the 2 miles down the road to see if its raining there. We get there and the sky is dark, looks like rain any second, plus its thundering. She says its fine let's start pics. About 4 minutes after were shooting, here comes the rain. I suggest going to FILs but she says its fine it will just blow over. It did not blow over. She attempts to do pics for about 20 more minutes then says ok were done.

Remember, me not being confrontational, and I trusting that she is the professional? So, I say ok.

That night she sends me a sneak peek, 3 pics that i love, and Im so relieved. This was a Saturday night. On Monday afternoon she emails me the album of pics. There was 53 pics total. Out of 53 there were about 10 that I liked. But there were only 3 I would actually use or even post on FB.

When I asked where the other pictures were she sends me 2 more saying the resolution or something was off.

Idk what to even say from here.

So heres what I want to know from y'all:
1. Isn't the point of hiring a photographer to make sure your pictures are PERFECT? Isn't that what Im paying all this money for?
2. Why did she only get 55 pics when my MOH got 96 on her iphone and I honestly liked those better?
3. Isnt 25 minutes kinda short for a bridal shoot? Ive spoken to 2 other professional photographers (both in the same price range and neither that I know) and they have both told me about 1 to 1.5 hrs for bridal portraits is their norm.
4. Do the poses not look unnatural to you? My Maid, Matron and another friend were all present and helping at the shoot and all said the poses looked 'off and unnatural'.
5. Shouldnt there have been more than 53 pictures? I asked her months ago and she said normally after the "bad pics" are thrown out, the bride has anywhere from 55 to 85 pictures, but that she normally takes well over 100. I only got 53, and of those 53, several are not usable and several are exact duplicates with one in color and one in black and white.
6. I am not questioning the QUALITY of the actual pics. When you put them side by side with the iphone pics they are hands down better. But, the poses or other imperfections are what is bothering me. The iphone pics had AWESOME poses.
7. Out of 53 pictures, I only have 3 that I would actually use. I knew I wouldn't like them all, but I expected to be able to use at least 25-30% of the pictures. Is it normal to only have this small amount of usable pictures?
8. How do I tell her I am not using her for the wedding now? I do not in any form trust her with my wedding pictures. When my MOH showed her parents (whom I am very close with) they called me that night and gave me an email address of another photographer and told me to call and schedule my portraits, that they had already paid for a bridal portrait shoot for me. They were that disappointed with the pictures. Which totally shocked me because I kept thinking it was either me or I was just overreacting. Also, we have not yet signed a contract. She told me we could just do it later before the wedding, so, I don't care about the deposit. She can keep it. Just how do I tell her Im not using her now?

9. Most importantly, am I overreacting?

THEN, to make MATTERS WORSE, I think she could tell thru our messages that I was not thrilled with them. So, she decided to call me, which I appreciated.

She starts off by saying she is "willing to reshoot the pictures" and then says, and this is a direct quote:
"I KNOW YOU WANTED TO DO YOUR PICTURES EARLY, BUT MAYBE WE CAN RESHOOT THE PORTRAITS IN SEPTEMBER. MAYBE BY THEN YOU WILL HAVE LOST SOME MORE WEIGHT AND WILL BE MORE CONFIDENT. HOPEFULLY YOU WILL LIKE THEM THEN. "
Did she just blame me for not liking the pictures?

Also, as for the pictures posted, I could have kept going and adding more I was not pleased with.

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115 Comments

  • Jessica
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    Thank you and thank you specifically for commenting on the iphone pics too! I just couldn't believe how much more I liked the poses in the iphone pics vs what I paid $300 for.

    Ive also wondered if my friend can get good poses with an iphone why didnt the photographer get the same shots with the fancy camera?

    These are more of the iphone pics.

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  • Gabriela
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    You look gorgeous and I just want to say don’t rehire her, DROP HER. She does not seem professional at all, especially with the comments she made about you.
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  • MrsD
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    1. "Perfect" is a lot to ask for, but you should for sure like your pictures. Do you like other wedding pictures she has done?
    2. Did she promise a specific amount of pictures, what did your contract say?
    3. I didn't do a bridal shoot, so I'm not sure.
    4. Yes, I agree.
    5. See #2 response.
    6. I agree, quality is good but poses & angles aren't super great.
    7. I wouldn't say so. We got over 100 for our engagement pictures, and I liked most of them.
    8. It will be awkward FOR SURE. I'd talk to her about your feelings and see what can be refunded.
    9. I don't think so.

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  • Jessica
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    Awwwee thank you so much! So, you answered all my questions and also made me realize that Im not crazy or just being Bridezilla. THANK YOU!!!!! I sincerely appreciate your response.
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you!!!! Yes, definitely will be finding a new photographer!
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you! I was wondering if maybe I took it the wrong way, but honestly feel she just shouldn't have said it, period.
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  • Stephanie
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    Honestly, the fact that she made that comment to you is enough for you to not feel guilty about dropping her. How rude!!! On the bright side at least you know now months before your wedding that you should not use her! This could've been a story about terrible wedding photos where the opportunity to re shoot would not exist. I would just let her know that between the last minute pricing changes, the awkward set up of most of the photos and the low amount of "usable" prints that you will no longer be needing her services.

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  • Jessica
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    1. By 'perfect' I just wanted the sheet under my dress to not be showing, which she told MOH not to fix bc she would crop it out. I wish she would have fixed my hair or straightened my necklace before taking the shots. If you look at the iphone pics i posted you will see that there was lots of opportunity to have these things fixed for the pics. I asked if it was possible to blend the tan lines and get the "frizzy" hairs down with editing, she said absolutely that would all be done before she sent them to me.
    There are several duplicates, like the exact same pic, but she just put it in black and white. So truthfully the 1 pic "became" 2 pics. I didn't need her to fix blemishes, or make me skinnier or anything crazy. But everything I expected she had assured me numerous times before would be done... but it wasn't.
    2. When I asked she said after she threw out the bad pics there was normally 55-85. The contract didn't specify, and when I tried to give her my signed contract the day of bridal shoot she said just hold onto it until wedding.

    And thank you!
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  • MrsD
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    Right, if she promised to crop things or edit things and didn't, obviously you have a right to be mad. Did you already pay her?

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  • Alli
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    I am so sorry you're going through this! I would definitely NOT use her for your wedding, and just simply tell her you weren't happy with the outcome of the photos. She needs to know. Don't feel bad about it. You can re-shoot Bridal photos, you can't re-shoot a wedding!!

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  • Jennifer
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    Cut this toxic human being right out of your wedding and your life...please.

    I don't even have words. It was an expensive mistake for you, but in the end you will gain so much more by responding as such: I think you're suggestion regarding trying again in a bit when I've lost some weight is ideal. I'll be losing (insert her approx weight here) lbs by firing you and finding someone else for our photography.

    I'm not photogenic at all and I've worked with photographers in the past with great results. It's partially their job to help non-models to look good on images AND if they're a decent human being they'll usually boost your confidence to help get better results.

    Ask her if her discount included lower quality results and discriminatory comments.
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  • VIP September 2019
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    I would be so annoyed. I didn't have a bridal shoot but these are horrible. I agree the poses are weird and it is terrible that she did all those long distance shots. Did you pay full amount? I would not pay her anything more and get a new photographer. I'm so sorry but you do look lovely in your dress.
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  • Allie
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    Same. wow, just wow. I'm pissed off for you. I feel like its best to be honest with her. Tell her you are disappointed in the pictures and don't feel like a reshoot is an option and that you are going with someone else.

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  • Jessica
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    I paid her $200. I offered more but that was what she said she wanted for the bridal portraits/ deposit/to secure her for wedding.
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  • MrsD
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    I think not giving her a signed contract is a blessing in disguise then! I'd just send her an email and thank her for the pictures, but let her know you aren't happy with the look and you've decided to look elsewhere for your wedding day.

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  • Tessa
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    She's out. Thank GOD you had her do your portraits. Could you imagine if the wedding day was your first experience? Just picture that first photo with that teeny tiny ant size bride and place a mini man in a suit next to her. Who are those people? Is that even me? haha. Do not feel guilty for one second about firing her. Secure your new photographer ASAP and if the confrontation is too much, just write a short but sweet email. If she calls you, just ignore it for now. The amount of photos, refusal to change locations, price discrepancy, and rude weight comments are enough to move along without ever looking back! Good luck to you girl!!

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  • Rachel
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    I had a whole response typed up but my toddler climbed all over me and wreaked havoc, so it’s gone now. 🤦🏼‍♀️😂😭

    Anyway. I’ve worked with serious pros in the industry since 2003 and I say her work and attitude are horrific. Tell her you’re not interested due to the discrepancy in pricing quote vs invoice, her rude comments about how you look (you are super cute and my boss could extremely easily make you look like a supermodel even if you had 50 or more pounds more on you than you have now), and the laughably sub-par quality of her work.

    Sorry not sorry, but I have less than zero time for people with no ability who call themselves photographers and then ruin whole once-in-a-lifetime moments of others. I call severe bull on her “professionalism.”
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  • Jessica
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    This was my thoughts exactly.
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  • A
    Just Said Yes February 2020
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    Sorry you are going through this but this is something you shouldn’t hold back for. It’s your wedding and you should love every detail of it. I am the same way where i don’t like confrontations nor do i say how i feel at times but I’ve learned to be this way after planning my wedding. make sure you have everything in writing, it’s very important, even if it’s a friend or not. I would definitely retake the pictures if you are unsatisfied and it should be about an hour with at least 150 pictures. At the end of the day, when it comes to money, business is business.
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  • Jessica
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    I thought the same thing! I can redo the bridal shots. But honestly, there is ONE must have picture for me, and that is my FHs face when he see's me walking down the aisle for the first time. So I am sooooo glad i found this out now instead of after my wedding day.
    I know bridal portraits is kind of a southern thing, but after this I would encourage EVERY bride to do at least a mini bridal session beforehand.
    I know that on websites these photographers have a lot of pretty pictures up, but with a nice enough camera I bet anyone could get a few decent shots and pick out the best pics from each wedding to put on their website. So, that's really not the best idea to judge their talent on.
    And thank you for the encouraging words!
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