Am I gifting inappropriately?

This can also be regional to a certain extent. i grew up in a small midwestern town where giving $50 at a wedding was totally normal. i moved to manhattan in my 20s and was shocked that friends there were routinely giving $200 or more at weddings.

that being said, i don't think less than $50 is really appropriate unless you legitimately cannot afford it.

I would think tupperware AND a cash gift is thoughtful, but that's just me.

@ambrok's map made me depressed. Fucking CT. Life is so expensive.

We just bought some in November and FH wants to buy more. You can never have enough food storage containers.

It's not necessarily bad but I would try and bulk it up with an additional card with a check/cash in it. Typically things like that are for the shower. And truth be told, I'd want something from my registry, not something someone "thinks" I need.

I'd be pretty upset if someone bought me Tupperware because someone "thinks" I need it.

I never give cash for a wedding. Typically I don't give a gift until after the wedding because, you know, cash bars and crappy food and all that changes what you give.

So you bought a bunch of tupperware sets on sale and are being handed out as wedding gifts.. ya it's not a good gift sorry.. $15 dollars in my area is very little to give as a gift. We usually give $300-400. I get that is not the norm everywhere but still.. tupperware..

I don't think this is an appropriate gift for a wedding at all...

It's not a bad gift but you generally want to give the price of the plate. So if $15 is the price per plate then that's great. But if the price per plate is $150, not so much.

@Kaitlyn So you only give a gift AFTER you've decided if they're "worthy" of a gift? That's really fucked up.

@ambrok oh god. Lol. I'm glad I live in the most expensive state on the map. (Rolling eyes emoji). Freaking CT.

Kaitlyn, that's really rude.

Ambrok is right, this is very regional. I live in high cost of living area where gifts of $300 plus are common, but I understand that this is NOT the norm everywhere and I don't answer these gifting questions based on just my own experiences or my own social circle. That is incredibly narrow-minded and short-sighted. Anyone from the Northeast turns their nose up at a boxed gift for a wedding gift, but it is perfectly normal in many places. I find it rude for posters to insist that an "appropriate" gift is one that is only based their own experiences with no understanding of regional differences.

Also, I don't think people are considering the types of events the OP was attending when she gave this gift. She was not being given "a night out with dinner, drinks, and dancing" as someone else mentioned they base their gift on. She was given a slice of cake and some punch. For these weddings, covering her plate would likely be around $15! So for the "you must cover your plate" folks - she WAS doing that!

Why are we bashing Kaitlyn when on other threads you have posts where guests are pulling $ out of their card if it's a cash bar. These actions are more of a reflection of the guest n not the host. I also doubt as many guests actual do this. Just my opinion.

@ambrok There is a difference between taking money out of a gift to pay for drinks and REFUSING to even give a gift until certain criteria have been met. At least the first group is even giving a gift.

@Ambrok-That's why I asked. It's super inappropriate up here to gift under $100 as a single person, as a couple we do $200-$300 depending on the couple. That's on top of the shower gift which is usually about $75.

Maybe people that know you look forward to getting that Tupperware! Lol

I think tupperware is a great gift! And I definitely do not think it is cheap, but very thoughtful and useful! Having said that, I would check their registry before buying any. Some people have a ton of tupperware and truly don't need more. Or, there might be a specific kind that they could use and have chosen carefully to register for. I just had my bridal shower last weekend and some people bought me some things that weren't on my registry, which were very nice but I had already received similar things that I had registered for, so I will need to return/exchange them.

@Ashley, I read Kaitlyn's comment that she does gift but not until the wedding is over n she can 'grade' the event to determine the amt to spend on a gift?!?

@JessieJV...got it