Am I gifting inappropriately?

Hey, you can always store your single socks in it too! (they make great dusting cloths....)

Yea as others said, great gift for a shower, iffy for a wedding. However, I have been to one of the types of weddings you described, and I think in that situation it is acceptable to gift pretty low value, if that's all you can afford, especially if you were still early 20s at the time. Going to a fancy country club, sit down meal wedding, I think you would want to spend closer to $100.

I'd be careful going off registry though, especially if the couple already lives together. Personally, I have more food storage sets than I can handle and would be a little overwhelmed getting another since my cabinet is already overflowing.

I hate Tupperware because I never eat leftovers. My mom gave me Tupperware and it's sat unused in my cabinet for years.

Please start giving money, or something off their registry.

I think that your ok with your gift. In fact i have 2 unopenned set in my cupboards. I found a really big set 40 piece in a Rubbermaid container for $20 at Sam's club. My smaller set I'll send with my daughter when she goes to college this fall.

In our social circle, guests typically give gifts off the registry, for the bridal shower, and cash/checks at the wedding reception. We only got a couple of boxed gifts (from our registry), at our wedding, with over 200 guests.

We actually do try to cover our plate (don't shoot the messenger), which is up to $200 p.p. around here, depending on the venue (north-east U.S.). We gave more to our siblings, of course.

The least we've given is $50 from each of us, for a few very casual/low degree of hosting weddings.

Definitely a shower gift. For weddings I don't give less than $75 individual, $150 total from me and FH. In my circle cash gifts are what you bring to the wedding, physical gifts are for the shower. I learned this isn't the norm around the country but I think it's so much easier for all involved, even the guest, to not lug a gift to a wedding. Tupperware is very useful though.

I grew up in a rural area where $50 was a "normal" gift from a family, the older generation would be more like $20, and $100 was super generous. Boxed gifts versus cash was probably 50/50. Now I live in a city where the level of formality is much different and the gifts tend to be more costly. Still lots of boxed gifts, though. It's funny how regional customs can be.

Maybe it's because I'm from a small town, but i would shit my pants if any of our closest friends gave us anywhere NEAR $200. I'd almost feel guilty about jt.

I think Tupperware is an amazing bridal shower gift. I think new couples and older couples alike always need new Tupperware especially in the rise of meal prep. But I would certainly also bring cash to the wedding bc I understand the costs of weddings and would like to contribute towards my plate. I always think of a wedding like a night out how much would I spend at a nice restaurant for a good meal, good drinks, and some night dancing. But thats just IMO. There is no rule per say.

When FI and were broke college kids invited to a bunch of weddings, $40-50 was like our grocery bill for the week combined, and that's all we gave pp unless it was immediate family. Everyone we knew was in debt - I mean, that's just a fact of being in your early twenties and having student loans. And people understood. Now in our late twenties and more financially stable, we give at least $100 pp. It's still expensive, I mean, I'm certainly not throwing hundred dollar bills left and right in my regular life, but seems appropriate for the occasion.

Ironically, the weddings we are attending now are smaller, less formal affairs. Mostly because the people in our lives that got married at 20-21 had lavish weddings paid for by their parents, and now people in our lives that are getting married at 28-35 are paying for it themselves, so it's smaller, cheaper, more intimate. But we still give more because we've matured too and understand the cost of things better.

This may help everyone to understand costs ARE somewhat regionally based. I got sticker shock when hearing what others are paying for different things & know some feel looked down upon based on their lower costs. I still stand by gifting what you are comfortable with/not to be expected to gift the cost of your meal.

https://blog.tendr.com/home/2017/2/17/how-much-should-you-give-at-weddings-a-state-by-state-guide

@OP, I agree with others that I typically bring a present from the registry for a shower & give a cash gift for the wedding…it’s just easier & I feel the couple can then use that cash for whatever their needs/wants are.

I would love it! My oldest buys me one of these every Christmas and it's one of my favorite things. For me, it's the most useful gift I get!

ETA: I dislike the connotation that your gift isn't sufficient because it doesn't meet some standard dollar amount. The fact that you give a gift at all is nice, because, you know - it's not a requirement. I don't get how every post on WW - when asked about cost or money, people say oh it all depends on your circumstances and location, but every time gifts come up, the tune changes. Give what you want, and if you know your friends would like tupperware, give them tupperware. If you can afford more, then great, if not, then no need to fret about it.

That's a really useful gift!

I have a nice set of Rubbermaid Tupperware on my registry and would not be bummed over getting it. Gift what you can afford.

@Klynn, that might be regional. $150+ is common where I live for a wedding gift.

Personally I'd rather Pyrex over Tupperware. That's why cash is nice because the couple can buy what they need/prefer.

But some gift is better then no gift. Where I'm from $100 is appropriate per person for a wedding and anything lower then $75 is unusual.

We always get a gift from their registry for example a BBQ set & then got them a gift card to a butcher shop in town. I try to go with themes of what they want. Tupperware is great but I am more into the glass not plastic so I would probably regift it. But the thought is nice.

A $15 tupperware set is not a good gift, especially when it isn't on the registry. I also don't really like the idea of giving the same gift at every wedding. Different couples have different needs and priorities. There's no minimum amount for wedding gifts and every gift should be received graciously, but I'd find this pretty rude.

I think it should be what you can afford. If you are/were in debt, giving any gift at all is generous. My aunt is really low on money and it's no secret, so the little candy dishes she bought us from a bargain store are very much appreciated--it's what she could afford.

I agree I would rather get a $15 item from my registry than a random one, but I don't think it's terrible at all.

Ehhh I wouldn't want that as a girl (although I love tupperware!). Unless it's on a registry, people may have preferences (i.e. no plastic, etc.). I would stick to a registry item or cash. And, you should really be spending at least $50 on a gift. It's more typical to spend $100+